Reading through many threads from different boards, there seems to be a lot of people on both sides stating NC/NS from both the provider and hobbiest side.

What are some common courtesy rules that can help rectify this one?

Of course there are the obvious ones that if you CANT make it, ladies or gents, pick up a phone and give a call.  But what are some other things that may help out?  Ladies, what is a fair amt of time to you if for some reason a gentleman is unable to make it?  Gents, same question.

We all know things can happen on both sides of the coin, but the more openly things are communicated, the less hassle there is for both sides.  

Times are tough for everyone these days, and everyones time is valuable, so lets make the most of it.

Cheers

NC/NS has never happened to me.

I myself have missed appointments due to sickness and once a car accident on the way! He was nice enough to stop by and see if I needed help and knew it was no excuse.

I think for each incidence a different amount of time is appropriate.

If you wakeup in the morning not feeling well or not yourself give a heads up immediately so each can plan their day accordingly. I know I would appreciate this and not want to come in contact with a cold or flu. Being the mature kissable lady I am that's a no no no

Emergencies happen...Many ladies have young children to worry about and gentlemen have work schedules to deal with as well. Calling as soon as theres a problem is important.

Many ladies travel and I guess this is where investment in time and money comes in. I myself do not travel so I am just out a few hours of my time but ladies who travel have many dollars invested to meet you. If you have made arrangements to see a visiting lady ahead of time and you cancel once she arrives I hope you would be fair to that provider. She may not be able to fill that time slot and 30 to 50 percent of the money she makes goes to expenses.

I guess it all boils down to common courtesy and respect of each others time.

Kisses Haley

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Stuff happens. It's called life. I had a very well reviewed 1st time)appointment sent up. E-mail, references, confirmed the day before. 2.5 hours before our appointment, she called and said she was going to have to cancel.

Maybe she wasn't feeling well, or she had a better offer, or she wanted to do something else. I was disappointed. Did I get upset? NO. Just go with the flow. And ALWAYS have a backup plan in place.

Once again you hit the head on the nail.

Each case/incident/situation is different.
One can never predict the unforeseen, hence the term un-fore-seen
Since we are talking about the unforeseen IMO one cannot put a specific time as in #of hours/# of days that is appropriate.

So As for the amount of time that is approprite, I say notify the other person  as soon as you know you must cancel. Or in a Word

R E S P E C T


Thank you
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..but, I have been guilty of one NC/NS, myself.  I have no good excuse -- it really did completely slip my mind.  I have two toddlers, two very needy lovers, and a home to maintain all on my own; bills to pay, groceries to buy, etc. etc.  I try very hard to be perfectly professional, but I am only human!

If a lady is simply not up to seeing me, I don't mind if she tells me frankly and gives me as much notice as possible.  I don't want someone seeing me if she just doesn't feel up to it that day.  I believe I should have the right to cancel with proper notice (24 hours.) I have only needed to cancel at the last minute once --a favorite lady of mine from the west coast who was visiting New York when I was going to be there.  Because it was last minute and she was traveling and had put aside two hours for me, I sent her the fee as my psychiatrist colleagues charge for a last minute cancellation. I think there ought to be some standard that is symmetrical such as you pay the fee if you cancel within an agreed upon period of time, and she gives a reduced fee service if she does.  Until that happens, I will try never to cancel without good notice and I will pay when I fail.

Wow, thank you for not making some dumb excuse.  Honesty can be a turn-on.

The booker of a provider called me five minutes before my appointment to cancel it.  She said that the lady involved had a fever and had to go the clinic.

I was already just one street away from the apartment.  I would have appreciated at least thirty minutes notice, since I took the afternoon off from work and wasted my time driving there.

If the provider is not feeling well or changes her mind for any reason, I most definitely would rather cancel the appointment.  I will either reschedule or see someone else.

If a woman cancels an appt at least an hour before an Appt, then It probably is fine with me.  Over an hour, I probably have not left yet, and therefore my time has not been wasted.

OTOH if she calls me five minutes before the meeting, or I arrive, and there no answer on the phone, I get rather distressed because I have driven to somewhere, and am awaiting her answer.

I think that since a man who does a NC/NS without a good reason is usually attacked for his insensitivity, a woman who does the same think should be treated the same way.

We should all use common courtesy.  Appropriate notice should always be given.  
That said, emergencies & just plain screw ups do happen.  I had to call my ATF from the road when I inexplicably blew an exit...  fortunately she was able to delay our appointment.  Be honest, appologize if you mess up.  Nothing tells better than the truth.  
There's no excuse for NC/NS.  At the very least a belated appology is better than that.
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