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You just start contacting providers when you have your schedule, not when you get off the plane.

damn, i have to go out of town periodically on weekends and only have time to meet in the even time and it seems that the ladies never want to be available on weekends especially evenings and nights!   now in major cities this usually isn't an issue but in minor cities (like Rochester NY for instance) it's really hard to find providers.  so ladies, is there a trick to letting you know when someone may be coming to town so that you may make arrangements to be more available?  This weekend was a complete waste....hell there aren't even decent strip clubs here.

Personally, I do work on weekends, but unless I have prebooked appointments i do what every other person does on weekends - spend it with friends and family.  Especially during summer months.

So if your only opportunity to play is on weekend - plan ahead

Lina

well I have kids, and nights are hard for me, esp weekends... that is when they have friends over for sleep overs or they want to stay up late, etc


I can accommodate a guy if he books a day or more in advance... but my general rule is, if it is not booked a day or more ahead of time, then I just am NOT avail after 6pm... that is my kid's time... they come first...

fucktard_repellent163 reads

Unless the guy lets you know in advance, in which case they get shuffled off to the sitter.  Uh, OK.

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It was a bullshit statement that the kids come first, but only when a guy calls at the last minute.  Kids either come first, or reality prevents that from being the case.  Coming first means that it's not conditional.

arrange a sitter for that evening and then already be prepared to makeup for that lost time during the day. Its actually pretty logical. Your kids come first I assume? but you have to go work correct? does that mean you love them any less?

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Actually, I've rearranged my career so that I can spend time with them.  It costs me a significant amount to do so, but I put my kids first.  So yeah I guess I put my money where my mouth is.

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But I do leave the windows cracked a little.  Actually, I only see escorts when they're with their mother.  So, do I pass?

is your "they come first enough for me to rearrange my career, and put my money where my mouth is" conditional since it apparently doesn't apply to escort time?

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I just said that I only see escorts when the kids are with their mother.  How is that conditional?

some of us are single parents who are the only parent. When you are the only one, there is not enough of you to go around. And I am willing to bet, I spend more time with my kids, now all adults than you do as a part time parent. Not judging just stating fact.
Choosing to work is not placing her kids second, its reality.
she chose a profession that allows her to rearrange her schedule around her childrens needs. We all make comprimises its the way things are.
You don't live her life or walk in her shoes so you don't know what she does and does not do. Just worry about your own life. Focus on what you are doing and not trying to judge someone else.

but at least when we leave our kids to do this its because its our job, source of income that allows us to spend way more time with them lol but any who no point in beating a dead horse since your not going to see the point I've made. Your comments were rude and very incorrect. You were being critical of her for arranging a babysitter so she could work, and think that your great for rearranging your career but at the same time you also think its not anything bad that you leave your children with their mother (and assuming your wife) so you can see an escort. hmmm interesting. "Those who live in glass houses should not throw stones"

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I never said wife.  On the (few) days that my children are not with me, I am free to see escorts.  Some days that they are with their mother, I volunteer at shelters for battered women.  I'm a wonderful fucking guy.  You just don't want to see that because I called out one of the sisterhood for being two-faced.  Get over yourself.

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You're so cute when you get angry.  When did you realize that I've been making this shit up the whole time?  Oh wait, you did know that, right?

Posted By: fucktard_repellent
It was a bullshit statement that the kids come first, but only when a guy calls at the last minute.  Kids either come first, or reality prevents that from being the case.  Coming first means that it's not conditional.
In very simple words, you are wrong.  A far larger number of the ladies are single moms that we often wish to acknowledge, but that is the reality.  Many of them do this--as was said--to "feed the kids" who DO come first for many of the ladies, as they should.

If a gentleman is reasonable enough to make arrangements far enough in advance--whatever that may be in her case--so she can get a reliable sitter she is comfortable with then she can go ahead with the date.  A last minute request once the kids are home does not allow for a sitter arrangement she is comfortable with.  Have you been in a situation to hire a babysitter?  We think some providers are flakey!

I think most any reasonable person could easily comprehend what Caitlyn was saying.  You seem to have worked hard to contort the post so you would have something to bitch and moan about.

I have found that most of the guys are busy with wife and kids. Home life so they cannot get out to hobby. That has been my experience anyway.

In my case, I have children and an unreliable weekend babysitter. However, if the appt. was pre-booked with enough notice (a week or so) then I usually have enough time to make arrangements. There are so many of you gentlemen that do not take into consideration that we have lives outside of this one. I also understand that this is the case for you as well so I try to accommodate you when able as long as you have been considerate of me and are not trying to book last minute.

What if we are horny?

JUST KIDDING, PUT THE 2 X 4 DOWN. rofl

Posted By: Ashlyn
In my case, I have children and an unreliable weekend babysitter. However, if the appt. was pre-booked with enough notice (a week or so) then I usually have enough time to make arrangements. There are so many of you gentlemen that do not take into consideration that we have lives outside of this one. I also understand that this is the case for you as well so I try to accommodate you when able as long as you have been considerate of me and are not trying to book last minute.

I get horny on the weekends too! I'm forced to use my rabbit and that is the reason I should own stock in Energizer! HA!

When home in DC few local Indies are available on weekends for incall...Some agencies might have a lady or two in town.  But when I travel...if I contact them well in advance...provide all the necessary screening info  and keep in touch once the appt is made , most ladies will accomodate a weekend outcall appt to a good hotel.  I only see well reviewed high end babes  [ uhhh..when I say "high end" I mean...oh hell , you know what I mean..LOL ] .  And even when home if I get a cool downtown hotel a lot of ladies that might not be doing their weekend incall are willing to come out and play.  But , when I travel it is usually to the larger cities with plenty of choices. Maybe in smalle venues there is so little competition for the babes they can be a little more choosey....It might help to request multiple hrs.  Just know...I feel your pain...nothing more lonely that a hotel room on a weekend !

work on weekends , it is true .
I would try traveling ladies while you are traveling .They are more apt to take a weekend or late evening appointment .Being as they are also out of town and most likely not with friends or family at that time.They do not tend to blow off appointments at odd times because their expenses are so much more than that of a local girl. Also as was already mentioned try to plan ahead :) Good luck to you ,Kendall

work on weekends and nights.As long as the gentleman has contacted me at least 24 hr prior to desired appointment time and passed screening I have no problem with weekends or nights.I agree with some of the other replies posted here if you are in a larger city this tends to not be a problem,but if you're in a small city might pose a problem.So,I would just contact whatever lady you are interested days in advance to see what her availability looks like for weekends/nights.

You just start contacting providers when you have your schedule, not when you get off the plane.

Yes, don't wait till the last minute.  Providers do have lives outside of being Proividers.  This means that we like to get together with friends who have 9-5 jobs on the weekends.  IF you call me in advance, I can screen and will set aside a Sat. or Sun. for you. otherwise, my phone is usually off.



Particularly with the high end touring providers, they come in around Tues and leave Friday.   I am a major night owl.   But I did get lucky with one last night!  Review to follow.

I agree with many other posts.

The BEST way to get this accommodated is to give as much advance notice as possible (personally, weekends are often easier since I don't have class, but it varies. I also find that no matter what type of day a gent is looking to meet with me, advance notice, at least as a part time student providing finishing up my college degree, advance notice always helps.) So that is the best I can give ya.

I would also suggest reading her site- I think if I were a man/hobbyist I would get frustrated with the lack of detail on some sites (but on the other hand, some gents probably get frustrated with the enormous amount of time and detail I put into my own site haha- that said, re-entering the providing world, it is still under contruction so it is not too overwhelming at the moment but still addresses the basics- for example, for me, I generally am too tired after 8 pm to be at my best and try not to book then- thus I state this!!) But if a gal clearly lists her availability via written text or a calendar on her website, and weekends are not marked available, you have your answer right there and I assume you would not then try to book for a weekend despite already knowing she's not free :)

As for the why part of the question:

-Many providers are in school or work other non hobby related jobs. Weekends are seen (as maybe you too can relate to) as personal time, and often for young single females, it is the time to go to dance clubs, bars, dinner, movie nights, etc. with girlfriends (depending on your preferred age and demographic of provider of course, though that is not set in stone either).

-For a working single mom or co-parenting/divorced mom, that is often "family time, especially a slightly older mama with school aged children who are in school all day M-F! That may be the only real time she gets with them (aside from after school when many interactions likely consist of driving to and from extra-curriculars, cooking and cleaning for them, bathing, and putting them to bed). So I can totally empathize and understand that.

Finally, I was a bar-tender for a short time, and obviously, the bar times when you make the most tips are weekend evenings and nights, so even if she is single and doesn't have a family, if her other job happens to be bar tending or waitressing at such an establishment, these are the shifts she will likely be assigned to or desire.

Just a few things I can think of, everyone has their own reasons and schedules. Like I said, for me personally, weekday or weekend, late nights just don't work well as I do not want to be tired, I want to be at my best, and need my rest to stay healthy. But everyone is different.

Try checking for providers who advertise weekend availability, and if you are unsure or know she does at least occasionally take weekend appointments, contact in advance so she can arrange her work or custody or social outings for your date!

Hope some of this helps and that you have better luck with scheduling that meets both your needs and your chosen provider's. Happy hobbying and stay safe!~

XoXo
Marea

Oh and one more thing- advance notice does very little if you do not give her advance information for screening. She is not likely to want to rearrange her schedule on a gamble if you don't provide that, and the more time we ladies have to reach other (also busy) ladies for refs, the better :) She will be more likely to arrange her schedule to accommodate you if you provide all the requested info, and are courteous and thorough in your initial contact (but you probably knew that :P See my blog post on my site also, Tips for Initial Contact with a Provider, to make you come across as a respectable gent who has done his research, and make her more likely, even if she might have plans or not always take weekend dates, to go out of her way for you. Have fun!!!

We even have friends and plans beyond answearing your call or sitting at home waiting on you to call...

... just doesn't seem to be a popular time for hobbyists to play here in So Fla.

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maybe she has a family. Duh.

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