Just Call Me: Camille Hampton, Sexual Intimacy Therapist

We "providers" wear so many hats.  Therapist and Confidence Builder is just ONE of my jobs.

Smooches,
Cami~

Providers are a sure thing for guys that want to get some without all the courtship and can afford it.

I'm a pretty shy person, especially around people I  meet for the first time.  I enjoy seeing a provider somewhat regularly because I feel more comfortable with each session.  I do not look at the provider as a "therapist" because I don't want to burden her with my personal problems. I enjoy the intimacy and I do enjoy  talking about some personal things, but I just wouldn't want to spend a lot of time talking about the stress and problems in my life and have her try to counsel me. I'm certainly open to discussing personal issues with a provider but only if she is open to that. Providers can be great to talk with, and I really enjoy that aspect of the hobby.  I just wouldn't feel comfortable going into a session and talking about personal problems that I'm going through.  That just doesn't seem fair to me  to do.
Does seeing a provider build my confidence with women?  For me, not really.  I enjoy the interaction but when I'm paying for companionship I  don't feel that results in my feeling more  confident with civvies.  But that's just me.

Runningman

-- Modified on 11/16/2007 3:38:48 AM

I don't see how going to a provider can build confidence in civvie life.

The key here is the money.

In civvie life, one gets rejected for looks and personality.  In hobby life, if the person: 1] has the cash, 2] is not overly obnoxious, 3] is not obviously diseased, he will not be rejected.

Let's face it, when someone's bread and butter is based on treating you like a king, you have to be skeptical about their sincerity until after you've seen them a few times.  Even then, this should have no effect on civvie life.  What would you take away from multiple sessions with a provider that would make you more attractive to women than you were before?  You're an intelligent, sweet guy with a lot to offer?  Those are only great selling points if you look like Brad Pitt.  For the rest of us, they're just consolations.

It's been discussed before how most providers would never have hooked up with most of their clients if they had met them in civvie life first.  Even the really "great guys."  Just knowing that the only reason these women would see us is because we pay them should be a confidence-killer not a confidence-builder.

I don't feel that hobbying has affected my confidence because I know what I do it for.  Fun and release.  Confidence building can only occur in real-world interactions, where things get unpredictable and you have to learn how to deal with the messiness.

-- Modified on 11/17/2007 7:39:08 PM