How many times will you see an ATF?  I like having an ATF who I see frequently (though not quite exclusively), but it has been my experience that if I see the same provider so many times, it gets to the point of diminishing returns--that is, gradually less enjoyable, or less consistently enjoyable sessions.  Thoughts?

to not see one exclusively.  I did that once & then took nearly a year off before seeing her again.  In the mean time, I developed a small number I call "Favorites".  I rotated among them depending on my services desired on a given day & her availability.   MY mistake was I got complacent & #3 retired.  #2 was off line hospitalized with an asthma problem.   #1 went BSC on me with a rant that spoiled our last session...  but sessions were going down hill again...  she was taking the easy way out & not putting full effort into sessions.    
#2 is back on line now but I need to generate a few new Favorites.    
HV

it's great when you are able to "forget it is a service" -  

Well said on all points.  Also your policy of "very very rare repeat visits" sounds good.  As good as ATFs are, once you've got one, you don't want to stop seeing her until things turn bad--either because she starts taking you for granted and goes from "true GFE" to "she just laid there," or the boundaries break down and, as you say, disappointment and drama ensues.  Not that seeing a variety of providers won't also result in some disappointments, but generally not of the same magnitude.

simple rule - if you start thinking about her - other than fond memories of really good sex -  in between visits,  you're over the line.   You are not her lover, her boyfriend, her protector, or her daddy - and you don't want to be.  

Markus, I'm not at all disagreeing with you, but what if you KNOW that she doesn't have anyone else in her life (right now) to to be her boyfriend, protector, etc.. and you realize that if you don't take on some responsibility, she's has a huge issue (no home, food, etc..)..

Or you can play Capt. Save-A-Hoe and see how that plays out.

well that is a tough situation -   but as one who is very active in programs to help the homeless especially homeless veterans (I am a veteran and a tbi survivor with ptsd)   I can tell you that some people or organizations are equipped to help someone like this, and some are not.    

If you are even thinking about all that, then you are already perilously close to crossing the boundary, imho.

then make an effort to screw her brains out daily and pay her for it - leave her a nice tip if you feel the urge.  Additional patronage is always an appropriate way to help to help any professional.  

Agreed

However, that being said, an ATF can be seen multiple times for safety, comfort and reliability, just not TOO often.

I don't disagree.. and some of the solutions have of course occurred to me... not unusual.. working outside of regular society.. paying no taxes.. no safety net.. it's a tough call..I hope no one could walk away from anyone in distress.. maybe that's a virtue or weakness depending on your point of view.. and yes, I also work within support networks for the homeless so I Understand the difference between enabling and helping someone out..

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that's make me think....how many times is too many to see your favorite client? (i rather called them my favorite friends_

whether the chemistry is real or she's a great actress.  However, if those visits are too close together, you can get a false reading.  That has happened to me.  A few months time (you know, like 1-2 visits a month for about 2-3 months) usually does the trick.  The cream eventually rises to the top, if you know what I mean.  If true chemistry is there, it can last quite a while.

I don't agree there, though I do agree with a lot of your advice. For me thinking about a favorite girl can make me feel that nice warm fuzzy, it can help to de-stress and sleep at night etc. Everyone is different, but for me there is almost always at least some emotion involved in all this.