I met a really nice girl through a friend a couple of weeks ago...Just recently, she called me and wants to hang out with me again...She's very pretty and very cool...I liked her when I  first met her...Now that she called me, it's obvious she likes me...I wanna squeeze one more meeting with a provider before this girl becomes my girlfriend...I can't be doing both, since she is so nice and cool...It wouldn't be fair to her..Just want some opinions out there, on how to handle this situation....Thx

If not, gloves are off.

For all you know, she might be getting one last experience in as well.  You owe each other absolutely nothing at this point.

i have to agree. it seems like you are putting the cart before the horse. wait and see how things develop. they will seek their own level. there is no need to pre-assume a monogamous relationship before one actually develops. who knows, maybe she would like a threesome??!! sail

Give HER a shot.

Who the hell wants to empty out in a bag for the rest of their life?

A new relationship was about to get serious. I had one last session with my favorite lady before taking a sabbatical from the hobby for the relationship. When the relationship ended, I came back to the hobby. The first thing I did was to re-connect with my fave. I'm not sure that I could make such a clean break the next time. I really have grown quite fond of a couple of ladies, and I can not imagine not staying in touch, at least.

Frankly, I found hobbying was a help to a budding relationship because I wasn't horny out of my mind during the early stages.  When I'm in a relationship, if my needs are being met, then I have no desire to hobby...  
IF your civie relationship blossoms, great!  Seriously!  
Just let TER VIP expire, don't check your separate hobby e-mail, hide your hobby phone.  Thank your lucky stars you kept your hobby life private.
IF you should be so lucky as to turn her into a civie GF, I don't care if you are "Soul-Mates"...  You admit to having had prior GFs.  You never tell how long they were your GF for!
 Aren't you glad you never told your best friend about hobbying, so IF he should be your best man years into the future, gets drunk, you do not need to worry he'll out you!
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Obviously you enjoy the ladies here but you are indicating a bit of reservation about seeing a lady because you want to enter a relationship with a new person. As it stands now there is no relationship, so you should do what feels right in your gut and not feel guilty whatever your decision is.
That being said, was in a similar situation 9 months ago, the relationship developed and we soon discovered that neither of us is monogamous and things are the are quite exciting for the two of us.

I agree with Shuda. I no longer offer to change my life for a potential significant unless it has been brought up. I really don't know how that person feels unless he/she verbalizes it, so why do I assume that is the next step?

I "date" many people. I also have many friends. I don't give anything up until there is a valid reason.

Slow that horse down, Lebron.

Mia Kat

forget the hobby, just see the girl please. I would not be here if things were happening on he home front.

but  the financial ass whipping I got the last tiem has kept me "clean and single" for about 16 yrs myself. I hope it is at least another 16 before I get that stupid again.

Do I want to voluntarily submit, abstain, go monogamist, obligate, marginalize, etc etc for the societally engineered Dating/Courtship/Coupling ritual and all its joys and sorrows?

OR

Do I want to NOT limit my options while building on the fortuitous friendship with the civvie, and giving full time too ascertain that I would "Love" her even if she wasn't give'n IT to me several years down the road?

It's WAAAAAY too early to commit to anything much more than a next date.

Sounds like you like her, but you're still in the planning to hang phase...

I agree it would be great to forgo hobbying if things heat up, but it seems like you're not there yet...

I agree with the question of whether exclusivity has been discussed/agreed upon.  What if she's a swinger and you just don't know it??  Yet.

No sex...I didn't really get a vibe from her that she liked me...She called me and left me a voice mail this morning....Her friend even called me to inform me that she's interested...

I don't think I'll ever retire from the hobby, but I do agree that a steady GF is nice....I might just take a break for now...

LOL ur funny...got a laugh reading this...No I'm not in grade school..lol....I hear ya though...I appreciate the feedback...I've been friends with her friend for over 10 years, I just met this girl through her..Anyways, thanks for feedback..

This happened to me once, my friends told me that girl was interested in me.  And it turned out she never interested in that way.  So I booked my first provider, and told her the story.  She laughed so badly, and I fucked her so badly.