You know, it's funny. We try to dress it up by using terms like "Hobby," "Provider," and "Hobbyist." We "pay for the time" with the lady; we collectively look down our noses at Craig's List and the like because of the seediness; and we generally, as a group, try to turn this hobby of ours into a respectable Gentlemanly past-time rather than what it really is. Money for sex with no strings attached.
Who are we kidding here? In our society, at this time, our whole existence is about breaking the fucking norms and laws about fucking. Yet, lately, there has been a large push to castigate those of our sisters and brothers for giving us a little reality check in the language, opinions, and visuals that they use to express themselves.
This site is the best multi-layered resource out there for making the hobby safer, more predictable, and much more enjoyable. These boards are not the end-all of it. The reviews, ads, and sharing of information are the lifeblood of the site's mission. IMHO. The boards are a bonus because we are able to discuss things here with like minded people who should be the least judgmental people we encounter in our pursuits because they're breaking the fucking law with us.
We need to lighten the fuck up, though and come down off the Cross so the wood can be used elsewhere. If Fuzzy posts a picture of a consenting porn actress engaging in rough sex (which is a form of BDSM, btw you judgmental souls) to highlight the "open your eyes" part of his post, does he need to be freaking castigated by the PC police and actually accused of advocating violence to women. If you get "violence to women" out of that pic in that context, IMHO, you are looking to pick a fight.
If an alias posts an opinion about the appropriateness of an OT post on this board, they have just as much right to that opinion as the original poster had to make their post and shouldn't be attacked as "cowards" or "assholes." I'd prefer the aliases let the board's moderators do the moderating, but that doesn't lessen their right to post opinions.
Disagreement with points raised regarding "the value of a whore," or whether or not NCNS is the Armageddon of the hobby, or that no matter how intrusive the screening information, it's request is an inalienable right does not automatically equate to misogynistic ramblings of a neanderthal deserving to be vilified and attacked. It's just disagreement.
This isn't a site for the lovesick forlorn. It's not a place to repetitively issue thread upon thread about how women need to be respected and treated, either. For Fuck's sake, we all know that and the active posters on this board don't need constant lessons about it. Find any thread where some asshole troll has come on this board advocating the disrespect and debasement of women in this hobby without getting rightfully vilified, attacked, and run off by the board participants as a whole. You can't. Preacher, meet the choir.
The bottom line is that we all get our own unique thing out of this hobby. I get the temporary connections I desire through sex and intimacy; some guys get straight up, wham bam thank you mam, NSA sex with anonymous women; some guys get long term ATF relationships; and some guys try to use it as a dating service (more power to them). Some get a combination of some of the above, or something different than anything said before. In each case, as long as there is no intentional hurting of another, NONE of us should be judgmental in any way.
Disagreement should also not lead to board stalking either. I've noticed lately that some cannot take natural disagreement, and tend to carry the argument into other threads and even onto other boards. I don't think I am the only one who has noticed this either. This kind of fucking drama has a stifling affect on the board and is more responsible non-participation as well as the dreaded use of aliases. I hope it stops.
Now, all of this may just be me, but I've heard feedback across the site that others feel the same way. If not, I'll shut up and go away and please feel free to disregard this post.
My 2 cents.
