Scheduled a professional date tonight after 2 months off. The lady had 6's - 8's in looks and performance. Not great, but good for the city I'm visiting. In the past, I've had bait and switch, I've had upselling, I've had agency hassles. Those events left me angry, but this evening left me feeling much worse inside.
And maybe it's just that I've met some really great women lately that made this one tough, but this evening I experienced for the first time a person that needed the $$$, but didn't want to be there. I felt like I was masturbating with a blow up doll. Her rent was due, electric bill behind, Christmas coming etc. She didn't appear to have any reasonable skill set or people skills. So spread the legs and be the receptacle.
I've read the psycho-babble about women in this profession being victims controlled by evil men with money etc., and never bought into it based on the really wonderful people I've met. The events this evening sort of brought it all home to me, and it made me re-think some things.
I have a better understanding of myself as a result. For me, dating a pro is like a great meal you treat yourself to, not lunch in the drive through lane. Search hard and find the special people out there in the city you're visiting, or don't do it at all. And I genuinely feel awful for the folks doing something as personal as this who hate it.
...so I take it that she was reviewed here in TER. It leaves me wondering how no one in those reviews caught wind of the situation then...even phrases like "...she was a bit mechanical", or "...she wasn't really into it..." are enough to make me choose a good restaurant instead...or shoot for an honest massage at the hotel.
While every person is different, every encounter is different and every day is different, and yet, amazingly enough when you consider all the variables, we have some great experiences!
Then, along comes an experience that pulls you up short and makes you remember..well, life. And the other side of things. I'll never forget the post by the guy who called an escort while he was away traveling, and he later discovered that she had a colostomy bag. Wow. That really hit home, and dug deep in the heart.
Who knows what was going on in this ladies life, her day or week, or what was going on in her mind. The fact that she had good reviews makes you think you caught her at a really bad time. I hope so. I feel badly for her.
You reminded me again how very grateful I am to love what I do, and to (sometimes) be able to afford to make the decisions I do in order for it to be a good experience for us both, which may mean NOT accepting the date, rescheduling, or referring out, etc. I am grateful for the wonderful gentlemen that I have seen and the great experiences. Sadly, that's not the case in many people's lives and my heart goes out to them, hoping that they can reevaluate some things in their own lives and make them better.
Every experience in life is for our benefit, and when we are in the right frame of mind and heart, we can see it as such. It appears you have.
I think a lot of it is you don't know how things are going to go until you're well into the appointment. Then when you've paid the money, you've scheduled 2 hours, and you've figured out she's just gonna lay there, it's a little late.
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