Same here for both matters + anal sex...

I'm with you dude, I love the basics. Not because I'm conservative, but cause I'm into the connection, a woman's body, that's what satisfies me.

I'm still somewhat limited in the experiences I've had, both hobbying and civilian. Never experienced greek, (maybe someday) not into pain, giving or receiving. Waste? I think I'll put that one on my don't do list. Humiliation? Not for me. I'm married, and can get that at home.

Never.....never underestimate the deliciously dirty, wanton, brazen, and downright slutty appeal of a good facial *grin*

Regarding your question, having sampled a rather wide variety of sexual pecadilloes - including a fairly deep background in BDSM (both as the submissive and as the Dominant at various times), among other perhaps slightly less shocking experiments, the only logical conclusion is that the human brain is positively amazing in its capacity to respond sexually to a wide variety of stimuli.

For myself, the limits of what I will not do basically revolve around safety. Body waste being at the top of the list simply because it is unsafe, and to me at least, utterly unappealing. Alot depends on my partner though. If I know that something in particular is a huge turn on for him, I am more likely to want to do it because I know how much he will enjoy it. Even if it is something I don't really get into, seeing how much HE enjoys it will turn it into a huge turnon for me. If that makes any kind of sense.

But just for the record - definitely don't overlook the attraction of a good facial

hmmm...well being a submissive, i don't engage in any sexual acts which would involve my being dominating, aggressive, or catered to. that would include a wide range of activities, from having my feet massaged and kissed to my spanking someone or giving a prostate massage. these acts just aren't comfortable for me as they would just go against my nature. sexual tastes i just can't understand? men who are sexually submissive, and want a woman to treat them the way i want a man to treat me. in that respect i admit to being old-fashioned...i think a man should be the more dominant/controlling/aggressive partner.

as far as pain, i'm not a masochist or really into bdsm, but i will gladly accept and tolerate pain up to a reasonable extent. i place it in the category of suffering for the pleasure of another, which makes me feel all saintly and whatnot, lol. i do engage in watersports (with me as the recipient), and i would have to say that for me the appeal is in the objectification and humiliation of it. sort of like someone's marking their territory, which happens to be me. i enjoy receiving facials for much the same reasons.

No to the waste stuff here too, and blood letting, extreme sensory deprivation, humiliation and belittling, verbal abuse, Extreme pain, enemas or douches..

I really don't understand why people get into the whole degradation/humiliation thing.. I saw a scene once at a local BDSM club.. It pissed me off and I had to get away from it..

Different strokes for different folks..

Now for the rest.. I have to say I am open, very open..

Facials , ride my ass I hope you pull my hair (just don't try to pull it out) BTW I hope you smack me a time or two to raise the heat a bit..
Mild to med pain..
But if these are not your thing that is all fine too..

Before watching some soft-core porn type stuff, I would never have thought that any woman would want her hair pulled during sex.

But, after reading some posts here, and reflecting on a couple of my past girlfriends, I do think that they might have been open to such a thing.

For me, it would have been a little awkward, but intellectually interesting.  If it turned out to be a good thing for them, it would have been MUCH more interesting for me.  I would have gladly indulged them.

My question (thanks Mutant for starting the thread), is "how do you segue into such activities?"  Do you simply ask, "Honey, I know we've never talked about this, but I saw it on a video at a bachelor party and was wondering if you would like me to yank on your hair during climax."

Is that the ticket?

Not into the bathroom stuff either, never understood that. I don't understand blood play or fire play either.

I do like giving a nice easy erotic spanking though, just enough to give a sting with a lot of caressing and rubbing.

b-

Facial hard to grasp? mmmmm... can no communicado with you senior. Facial is the best thing on this earth since sliced Wonder (tm) bread?.. I hope they don't grasp the facial though and let it fall on the lips, and cheeks and mouth, and toungue as it may...Oh my I digressed... OOps.

-M

I've always loved being on the receiving end of bondage.  I think that's because I associate sexual pleasure with surrendering control.  I don't understand simple masochism, either, but pain, in the context of bondage, helps emphasize that lack of control.

This is where I would draw the line (link)

www.nypost.com/seven/02132008/news/regionalnews/they_beat_it_out_of_me_97391.htm

I'm into just the vanilla GFE. Though I had a lady a couple of weeks ago ask me to pinch and pull on her nipples. First time for me and I felt very uncomfortable with it. It's so hard to know when it's too hard until it's too hard.

Probably the wildest I've ever gotten is using food during sex. Dinning at the Y is soooo goood with a well placed chocolate covered strawberry. Ymmm!

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