So, I've been 'stood up' by a provider twice this week. Twice she leads me all the way out to her incall location, then suddenly stops answering my calls and texts. Both times the next day when I get hold of her she gave vs excuses (first time it was a car accident causing serious injuries; second time, just two days later, apparently by a miracle her severe injuries were healed as she didn't recognize me from the first time, and this time her excuse was she 'fell asleep' right after telling me the motel name). And I am enormously frustrated because 1) I can't review her since I never actually saw her, and I don't feel sshe should be able to jerk me around with impunity and 2) because she was actually reviewed and moderately well-reviewed at that, so I can't blame it on my unscrupulousness (though it was my mistake to give her a second chance; will definitely not give any more of those).

I think you're the only person on this forum with worse luck than me.

You knew she had to be lying as she could not be scheduling again if she had such severe injuries.

Yes, this is part of the hobby I'm afraid.  It happens to me now and then, but as I tend to stick to gals who I see regularly, it does not affect me as much.

By the way, while you can not review these gals, there is nothing to keep you from calling them out on your local board and naming names and tell what happened so that other will hopefully avoid the same pit fall.

The younger ones who are often less professional.  There is a reason the older ones may have lower appearance scores, but they have loyal followings.

I wasn't aware of what the policy was on naming providers in a negative light in discussion boards, but since you assure me it's ok, her name is Vanilla(/Daniella/something else) of Columbus.

They were indeed younger (20s) which I guess makes sense. I'm pretty young and generally I habitually "date" within my age group, perhaps a policy I should be reconsidering though.

we bring the pain upon ourselves. Sheesh!

And why not?

Well when 3/4 can't be remotely on time, and it seems to apply as much to high end as low end, maybe it's par for the course here. But I'll probably withhold my pity whenever I hear their sob stories about the profession, because with the absence of mind and dearth organizational skills the ones I've seen have, the highest they'd get in life even in the best of circumstances would've been being a Walmart greeter.

not stay and actually become an asshole.  

I am considering quitting, but also of course considering staying and becoming an asshole just out of spite as a close second.

Posted By: MasterZen

not stay and actually become an asshole.    
   
 My experience isn't anywhere near 3/4. More like less than 5%. I don't know why there is such a discrepancy.  
   
 BTW, being a HDH is probably a few steps above being a Walmart greeter - assuming money talks and bullshit walks.  
   
 

Furthermore, she lists her age as 19.

Into Almost every appointment.  While I have had some punctual providers, the vast majority make you wait.  I've only had one refuse to answer my calls after getting directions to her incall and sitting in the parking lot call for the room number and get absolutely no response.  after an hour of waiting/ trying I resorted to BP for the "quick fix" and lo and behold that second provider was in the same location and I was already at the incall!!  So I got her room number and had my fun anyway, but not the way I expected.  being a BP gal she was a wham bam thank you ma'am sort with no GFE and wasn't really my type anyway, but hey, any port in a storm as they say.  Anyway, as I am walking out I see the gal I had originally booked kissing a guy goodbye at her door three doors down.  She had double booked and I guess the guy got there first.  When he left I knocked on her door and asked what the deal was.  she apologized and said... "Well, we're both here, let's go now."  my reply was "Nope, I just dumped two loads down the hall and triple tipped her with the money you could have gotten." And walked out. she calls out after me to call her tomorrow but I ignored it and headed home.  It burned me that she just was so awful to a client like that as to ignore a booking that had not only be made 72 hours ahead, but confirmed and given the address to and known I was on my way!

either looking in the wrong place or not reading reviews carefully.

Once this happens in 20+ years of seeing providers and my process needs improvement?  That's like saying no one should ever work in Manhattan because 13 years ago somebody destroyed two buildings.  As for the lateness thing, I don't think it's just providers, most women are habitually late IMHO.

The fact is that this is not a career, just a route to quick money for most providers. They can feel burned out but need the money so they book. It can take a lot of effort to put on a good show, so sometimes when the appointment time comes, they just decide to pass rather than grit their teeth through it. Or, one of their favorites came a-calling and you just got bumped. I'm not saying it's right, it's just how it is (of course it sucks getting the shit end of the stick!). You win some, you lose some.  

If the lady is well-reviewed on TER, I've had a very low rate of no-shows, as long as our correspondence has been very clear.  I usually try to book about two weeks out (other than my regular) because I enjoy the anticipation and the ritual of getting prepared.

if it's closed, I feel really good about it. If it's open, I'm pretty sure someone has been in the flower garden fairly recently. lmao

...it's very common. When considering my own experience it's not common at all. However I need to let you know my first few years of seeing escorts I used an agency exclusively. There were 2 cancellations with plenty of notice during that time but no other late, or no show issues. In the last few years I have seen mostly independents and have had no cases of very late or no shows. I have had a few cancellations but had plenty of notice so I could make other arrangements and a couple of times was asked if a reschedule was possible and did reschedule. I'm lucky I guess but I do check things out thoroughly before deciding to see a particular provider.

The rate the more punctual they have been, at least in my case. Low rate (beliw 500) usually book several a day so more chances they accumulate delays.

The rate for the reputable providers in the city I visit is $300 to $350. $400 to $450 are for what are generally regarded as the best. But even they can be unreliable.

is not enough to quit the hobby. quit trying with her, yes. Move on and don't look back.

Fuck me over twice, shame on me for giving you the opportunity to do it a second time. And then wow, factor in her ad and it's tell-tale man.  

Young,  and very dumb. I am sure he won't mind being insulted as he feels okay doing it.

of posts and this will be clear.

Wow that is too long to read