when I realized that I may have a problem.  Now, it’s definitely a problem I may not particularly want to solve, but it is a “problem” none the less.  Or is it? Please don’t get me wrong, I’m not talking about the hobby, but, rather, these TER boards.

I’ve been on that damned top 10 poster list for a couple of months now, and no matter how hard I try, I just can’t seem to stop myself from coming back again and again for a little taste of TER.  Does anyone else (besides the other nine) have this problem?  And are we, collectively, worthy of a sociological experiment to determine just what our “problem” really is?

Most know (because I can’t seem to shut up, hence my “problem”) that I’ve been hobbying for 25 years, and started at the age of 17.  I’ve been doing the board thing, though, for just over six months, and, brother, let me tell you, nothing has taken over my consciousness quicker or harder in my entire life.  Now, I’m not a total dweeb – I actually get paid my regular hourly rate to do most of this board surfing and posting because I’m usually doing it on my phone in court, waiting for my cases to be called.  I used to watch the misery while waiting, now I get to read TER boards and reviews on someone else’s dime.  (before anyone blows a nut, I would get paid for the time no matter what I do, and it is impractical and impossible to do anything more constructive during the time).

But, and this is very hard to admit because I would probably laugh at someone who admitted the same, I find myself thinking about the posts on these boards more and more, and even drafting responses in my head for later log-on when I haven’t been able to respond in real time (sometimes the phone is just too fucking hard).  I also sometimes get a little bold after hours by having TER open on my Laptop while watching TV with my wife.  I once laughed out loud at something SOTF wrote and had to come up with a cover story quick (very sad thing on TV did not match the laugh lol).

The benefits have been absolutely fucking fantastic.  I’ve never been able to discuss this hobby with anyone before, so it is a Godsend to have this outlet.  And the women I’ve met on this site through the boards have rocked my world and curled my leg hair.  Guys, you can be fun to talk to, but the ladies are mind boggling.  I’ve also met some great people through PM’s because of some of my posts.  

Bottom line, is it a Problem or not?  Am I over-thinking it, or am I the dweeb that I’m afraid of appearing to be?

It's like making out during Schindler's List. But seriously, I believe it's a more common problem than you think. I've been afflicted with it myself. But the first step is admitting you have a problem. Ha! It's difficult to moderate one's participation on boards such as this precisely because we can't discuss what we do with civilians, and in the process we find ourselves part of this incestuous family usually only available through the internet. Try staying completely off the board for a whole day, or if that's too much, just read the board and don't post. It's flipping hard to do, trust me. Obviously I'm not taking own advise at the moment ...! -e

10.  You try logging on to your work email with your board handle and wonder why it doesn't work.  (Yup, I've done this.)

9. You start rating every woman you see.

8. You start using strange acroynyms in your everyday conversation.  ("Well you know Bob, life isn't always a BBBJ.")

7.  You begin to wonder if everyone you meet is someone on TER.

6.  You're visiting a friend and forgot your Blackberry and begin thinking "Hmmm, I wonder if they would mind if I logged onto TER from their home computer?"

5.  Internet cafes; yes internet cafes!

4.  You tell a new employee who asks a basic question to go to the Newbie Board.

3.  The thought of being on vacation on a tropical island with tons of pretty gals but no internet access is depressing.

2.  Your fingers are involuntarily clicking away even when you don't have your Blackberry.

and the number one reason you may be a board addict:

You keep clicking away even while having sex during a session.

I'm afraid it's hopeless Dixie.

-- Modified on 4/7/2008 1:10:02 PM

but except for the church part, you've described a whole lot about me, ever since I discovered the boards. All of you people amaze me. This is a place I can come to, and talk to people about things that I want to talk about, get advice, and just have fun. I had the chance to actually meet some folks at a M&G recently, and I had a ball.

Is this an adiction? You bet it is, and not one that I'm willing to give up anytime soon.

Is it a problem? I doubt it.

Are you over-thinking it? Probably.

Are you a dweeb? You tell us.

10, 6, and 3 are hitting a little too close to home. Hella funny. -e

I was briefly the #1 poster for a matter of a couple of days. I had to fight the urge to post for a couple of days to let some one else take over the number one spot.

My hobbying experiences are similar to you. I've been hobbying basically all of my adult life, and while most of my friends know about my hobbying it's hard to really talk to people about the hobby who don't really understand.

TER might be a problem for some, but somehow I doubt it will ever be a real problem for you. Of course what do I know? I post about as often as you.

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BTW: I have not watched TV in 3 years ( since I joined TER!)

a very large or unattractive man with a svelte blonde bombshell I used to always say/think that this guy has a trophy wife.  With my experiences on TER I begin to wonder if instead, he's paid the $10,000.00 for the vacation interlude????
One other strange thing is I work for a major airline and see very attractive women in terminals across this nation all alone quite a bit.  I'm always tempted to ask "are you traveling to ____ and do you have any reviews?"  Very wierd.

LOL...you should see the look on your face when you read this...priceless.

Not as bad as you guys, but it is a place to come and talk with others who Know what I am actually talking about.
My Sis is a shrink but so Not open to what I do. I think it's the family connection that mostly bugs her, it may be the twin thing too any way, I can't really talk to her about some stuff it's all foreign to her.
I had to drag myself away from my computer to make dinner...thats pretty bad. Now dinners made and where am I? Back here...

-- Modified on 4/7/2008 4:21:38 PM

Preacher's wife was damned hot looking that morning.  I was looking to see if she provided, or at least if there was a look alike.



Any way, if I'm going to hell, I may as well have fun along the way. lol I'll lay odds too, that I'll be talking to some of the same people I do now.

Dixie, you are gonna burn in hell!! gonna be a good burn though..

Hell we need something to do durng the sermons eh?

Any nice looking potential providers sitting close by? LOL

SQG, I understand this situation completly. I however have developed a PM/email relationship with a fellow hobbyist here on TER; I tell you it has helped us both quite a bit to be able to discuss and talk these issues out among ourselves..

We now have a few wonderful ladies we have both spent time with in common.

Who knows one of these days we may even meet for a drink or a cup of coffee.

SQG, I understand this situation completly. I however have developed a PM/email relationship with a fellow hobbyist here on TER; I tell you it has helped us both quite a bit to be able to discuss and talk these issues out among ourselves..

We now have a few wonderful ladies we have both spent time with in common.

Who knows one of these days we may even meet for a drink or a cup of coffee.

-- Modified on 4/7/2008 5:44:23 PM

LOL...Guess even a newbie like myself admits to this addiction. I also sit in a chair with my laptop tuned in to TER watching TV with my SO...LOL But how about this for addiction:
I was staying at a Best Western Sat. night (work related) looking for a local outcaller and wouldn't you know it, my laptop was in a blue screen boot loop. I quickly headed for the lobby where I knew they had free Internet for guests. What a mistake that was. The monitor faced the check-in desk so anyone walking by couldn't help but see TER on the screen. I kept switching tabs on the browser between TER and Yahoo every 30 seconds. I finally gave up and went to bed...ALONE!

Wasn't that a cowinkidink.

Had my eye on the Preacher's wife, but I don't think she provides. lol

how would that next confession go?????????

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-- Modified on 4/7/2008 9:41:55 PM

I have to congradulate you Dixie, you went from # 2 on the list to #6 of the most frequent posters in the last 3 months.  You are working on your "problem"  good for you.

xoxox

I shall Endeavor to Persevere

Stolen from the Outlaw Josey Wales, which has too many great one liners.

do this on purpose to disuade people from looking at porn, etc.

IMHO, naw, you may have a little addiction to TER... but in my experience, that's normal with a message board that you really like.  hehe.  i do the exact same thing with message boards i happen to enjoy.

Your fine Dixie Chicken, just fine, It is not a problem until you say it is a problem, it goes a little something like this, HI MY NAME IS DIXIECHICKEN AND I AM ADDICTED TO ADULT MESSAGE BOARDS AND HOT CHICKS.

THEN WE SAY, HI DIXIE CHICKEN!!

Until then or until you get nabbed at work, your just fine. I am sure god did not mind you doing a bit of reading on the side at church.

I thought until you mentioned your wife, I thought you were a provider. LOL how funny is that.

I have always thought you were a women.

LOL

Since you are a Dixie Chicken, and I am a smokinhot Dixie Chick we ought to meet someday, don't you think?

Not that you would be able to post a review cuz I only have a blog but you would have a sweet sweet memory.

I would love it.  If I ever get to the Carolinas, you're the first person I'm calling. I love your blog, and I am definitely fond of your pictures.

You're the third person to tell me that they thought I was a woman based on my handle. I'm starting to get a complex.  I'm in touch with my feminine side, but not that in touch. In the song, Dixie Chicken was the guy and Tennessee Lamb was the chick. It's my favorite song about the hobby, and I was sure a Sweet Southern Lady like you knew it.



Dixie Chicken by Little Feat

I've seen the bright lights of Memphis
And the Commodore Hotel
And underneath a street lamp, I met a southern belle
Oh she took me to the river, where she cast her spell
And in that southern moonlight, she sang this song so well

If youll be my Dixie chicken I'll be your Tenessee lamb
And we can walk together down in Dixieland
Down in Dixieland

We made all the hotspots, my money flowed like wine
Then the low-down southern whiskey, yea, began to fog my mind
And i dont remember church bells, or the money I put down
On the white picket fence and boardwalk
On the house at the end of town
Oh but boy do i remember the strain of her refrain
And the nights we spent together
And the way she called my name

If you'll be my Dixie chicken I'll be your Tenessee lamb
And we can walk together down in Dixieland
Down in Dixieland

Many years since she ran away
Yes that guitar player sure could play
She always liked to sing along
She always handy with a song
But then one night at the lobby of the Commodore Hotel
I chanced to meet a bartender who said he knew her well
And as he handed me a drink he began to hum a song
And all the boys there, at the bar, began to sing along

If you'll be my Dixie chicken I'll be your Tenessee lamb
And we can walk together down in Dixieland
Down in Dixieland, Down in Dixieland

um, dude, you're a dweeb... EOM