If a client is a steady regular, two to three times a month - multiple hour sessions - what types of arrangements are typical?
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Is the client expected to pay full rate all the time? Do providers typically give extra OTC? Can a "volume discounts" be reasonably negotiated?
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I'm in such a situation (over six months), but don't know if it is reasonable to expect special consideration or not. I pay full rate every time (plus tip), and the provider has never offered anything like OTC.
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I'm really smitten by this provider, but maybe I should move on?

There's no standard.  If you want an arrangement, you should go to Seeking Arrangements and find a girl for monthly payments. Theoretically you can get a lot more hours for the same money.  See The Erotic Highway forum on this site for tips on finding arrangement.

You are talking about the kind of things that just happen for guys who have some game. No one here can explain to you how to do that.  You either have it or you don't.  Step up and talk to her.  Then you'll find out.  Or not.

The rates for my arrangements are based on my personal finance guidelines. Therefore it is inexpensive for me to offer arrangements and it is more convenient for me to devote my time and priority to someone whom I have an arrangement with.  

...maybe not. Seeing some other ladies before you see her again is probably a good idea. It could give you better perspective. Probably some new ladies you've never seen before.  

Thanks everyone. Of all of the comments, I find this one the most relevant.

either gets greased or thrown away for a new one. If you are OK with the status quo, shut up and accept the status quo. If you'd like to find out about some other kind of arrangement, find a way to bring it up.  
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I hope that someone with better board memory can help to find a fairly recent (less than 1 year old) thread. The regular started to feel like he was being taken for granted. He started to cut back and got a shitstorm of abuse from her. Stuff along the lines of "We always do X hours." "How am I supposed to pay my bills?" "I AM ENTITLED!" (not exact quotes from the regular's post).  
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I think you should broach the subject even if it's just to find out where you (both) stand. If she thinks you're her regular meal ticket and nothing more, at least you know to suppress your feelings and not "go there" (the smitten thing).  If she reads you the riot act and exposes her BSC side, I'd say sayonara in a hurry! If she sweet talks you into to continuing as is, at least she knows how you feel and might work towards some kind of change (or immediately offer some other arrangement just for you).  
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There is always the danger of being overly smitten with an ATF in what is usually a "no strings attached" situation, but that's a whole other topic. Yes, it happens, but be careful of strings and their potential to create entanglements.
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And give some thought to your last line:

If she only has 2 similar clients per day and only works 4 days per week, then you amount to less than 10% of her business. How much of a discount do you think that deserves?

If she is busy and has a large clientele, then she is more likely to view your hours as fungible with all other hours.  In other words, if don't book the time you book, then someone else well, and she gets the same amount of income either way, so it makes no difference to her WHO is handing her the envelope for those particular hours.  

If you and her have some sort of minimal baseline emotional connection then it might be possible to pay a discounted rate for being a steady regular. It varies from each provider. Generally if you're super nice, polite, respect her limits,  then getting a discounted rate is possible. The girls I see don't mind I pay a discounted rate from their full rate. One girl I see I just pay for the motel room. No payment to her. Her decision.    

If so, then be happy you have found such a great gal and don't do anything to mess it up.

I think , MOVE ON , before it's too late.

Your last line puts the rest of your questions in a new light. If she really liked you the way you liked her, there should have been some OTC by now, without you asking. There hasn't been, so you need to see her less often and see some other providers for the variety and some perspective.

Agree big time  with all of these advice posts and especially with de lion's.  I`m in a somewhat similar situation as you. My #1 ATF gives me mucho OTC perks like dinners/drinks, overnights (with continued sex) and even asked if she could join me on my vacay last month to Miami. She then got booked up for those dates and canceled and made business her priority and I respect her for that.

I get it that you’re smitten, but you’re already having second thoughts.  

you're not entitled to anything simply because you've been seeing her ofr 6 months. I have guys i've been seeing for almost 2 years and haven't ever stayed more than an hour, nor have they asked. I have some who i do give otc to, and that's just because i want to. if you're having fun, why stop?

With one provider I reached an agreement after some months of seeing her every time she toured my town that I would always be her appointment right before lunch or dinner. We'd have our private fun, then go out to a nice meal, and sometimes she'd even bring along her touring partner. We were mutually fond of each other, and her reasoning was "I have to take time to eat anyway" so she enjoyed it as much as I did. The OTC time was always considered her option, and she could (and sometimes did) cancel if she had another appointment or some scheduling change. But, many times it worked fine.

You sound awesome! What's your screen name??

...you're asking her to flip her own alias.  Brilliant!  Ever heard of PM?  You can PM an alias you know.  Not that she'd ever tell you who she is because she can see who she's dealing with.  You couldn't keep her "screen name" secret for a second.

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stoopid are the ones that don't know how to spell "stupid"  and the ones still doing shopworn bad impersonations of other providers.    

I was being facetious... I could care less who that is / was (probably a solid 6.5/7 from middle America)...

of course, you still might need to explain to some people...

The most cowardly of the wimps here.  He may be a Shar Pei, but not close to an Alpha dog.  Lol

I have been in that situation twice and both were very different.

If you truly are that regular with the same woman for that long, have never cancelled, see her for multiple hours, tip and never ask for a discount?  

It can get awkward when the client keeps pushing for more time for the same amount of money. Somr also start wanting more online time etc over time... for a small raise, or no raise. Which can 1. Take away from other ladies you might be seeing (cheating at costs can be controversial,) and 2. Take away from her ability to sustain income.  

You had me at smitten.... be careful.   This is her job.  I do give discounts (usually more time) for repeat clients.  Always remember that it will be her decision to give discounts (our extra time).  

just like most bosses will not offer a raise, but know full well the employee is worth it, and will give it and just waiting for him to have the courage to ask..

When I have a good long term business client, I do extra things to show that I appreciate their business . Not anything extravagant, but something other than “thank you “. A bottle of wine, movie tickets, etc. Not regularly but often enough to let them know I appreciate their business.

...you say you were just kidding.  No you weren't; you're stupid.

And what most forget who own any type of business, if you don't appreciate and thank your customers/clients you wouldn't have a business to begin with. The little things make all the difference on both sides. From the business owner to the customer and vice versa. Too much competition to not pay attention.

example -Your boss comes to you and says 'you're doing a great job. So good that we want to use you more and cut your salary. '  How does that make you feel? You jump right in there and give another - please sir may I have another?
Do you need to have your ego stroked by getting OTC and free time? Naked Opera got it right in the above post.
A person's got to make a living and stay healthy.  I know some mongers don't care about that but don't be that monger. Be the good guy.

Amazing post you OG monger stud...

Taylor; thank you for the kind comments. I appreciate everyone''s response on this thread - regardless of their point of view.

You mention a ,monthly "dick limit"...
Do you also have a "career dick limit"?

To see a post from a provider that is an "enlightened entrepreneur" - probably would take very little to tighten this guy up a little and secure a "long term contract" well into the future...

You’re defiantly most providers dream client!  
I always appreciate when a client goes above and beyond.  
I’ve gone to dinner with regulars or hung out by the pool with them as long as I’ve been treated nicely also doesn’t hurt if there’s chemistry added.

You are the owner of your own business, this is hardly a boss/employee relationship.

that because he's never broached the subject and she's never offered an arrangement, he should stop seeing her is a bit presumptuous. Voice a concern but know that you are potentially crossing a fine line that might upset a balance depending on how you broach the subject.

Sounds accurate.

I'm the one with the prixe fixe menu that doesn't leave you wanting freebies, but might gift you an aperitif or dessert wine every once in awhile if you truly are a so called regular and I like you.

Attempting to expose someone's alias goes against the spirit of this forum.

I'm sensing a kind of Fatal Attraction vibe.

Riiiight. You just happened to stumble on a three months old thread.

a little too manly for you?  Me, too, but I could still go there as long as she would start cleansing before Greek.  Asking me after-the-fact if there is shit on my dick when withdrawing is just not appealing, although she has said that she has some clients that are okay with it.  Not me.  Yuck!

You seem to be fascinated with the idea of shit on your dick, you keep mentioning it.

post.  She said she doesn't prep for anal.  Instead she just asks the customer if there is shit on his dick when he pulls out.  She said one customer told her, "Don't worry about it."   (That was probably really a "yes" - lol)   I used to link it to my comments about her, but she finally got wise and had it taken down.  Most here remember that discussion.  I'm surprised you don't.  It was last fall.  Her comments were pretty gross about her hygiene practices.  If you're going to see her, wear a HAZ-MAT suit.  

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just pointed out it wasn't hard to figure it out for her. Two different things entirely!

There you go again, dreaming about shit on your dick. Whatever floats your boat.

that said, "Don't worry about it" when you pulled out of her ass and she asked you if there was shit on your dick?  OMG, was that YOU?!!  You're starting to sound like you've seen her, so I'm guessing her little anecdote might be about you.  Did she blow you right after, or ask you to wash your dick first?  (Just trying to understand the big picture on whether there's ANYTHING she won't do from someone who has been there.)

You seem to just keep playing that movie in your head. Not that there's anything wrong with that.

Who will rid me of this troublesome priest?

its not a movie, it was her post.  She said it.  I don't know why you're acting like she didn't.  Too many here saw it and remember it.  Is she giving you a discount on your next session for white-knighting her here?  I have never seen you so animated about a provider before.  You are usually one of the cynical ones.  That's why it makes me think you have seen her . . . . . . and maybe got some shit on your dick.  Am I right?  

You're like Pavlov's dogs, I just have to make a short post and you start salivating again about shit on your dick. Ding.

So we can assume that YOU are THAT guy.  I can't get past "What were you thinking?"  I would have passed just seeing the photos on her website.  Lol

something special to offer providers other than money.  Often times, when a provider is an exceptionally good actress, said client now believes a solid connection has been established and he/she is important to the provider--beyond the $$$$.

of the time that you feel you have made a connection with a provider that transcends money, it is all in your head (I'm talking to everyone collectively as "you", not NYM specifically).  I have had a handful of long-term outside relationships with providers and I can say from experience that meeting a working girl as a customer and then moving on to a real life relationship is often one of the most difficult transitions to make in life.  

So you deny asking around because it was so easy?

Dev does have a point, Do you REALLY want to keep this thread alive and on the front page for all to see? If I were Smartie, I'd be bitch slapping the fuck out of you right about now. You fucked up, you know it, we all know it, Now for Smarties sake can't you just STFU already?

Nah, the mean girls clique (CDL honorary member) got nothing. If they are going to stalk her I'm going to call them out on it.

Like you I enjoy long-term relationships with my providers. Some I see for years. I love the connection and the emotions that come with it. However, there comes a time when the "relationship" fades. For me, it was one telling me she wanted rights to first refusal. Meaning when I came to town I had to call her and if she did not have a regular or a new client she liked she would see me. If she refused me then I could call another provider. REALLY?

I am in total agreement. In all my years dealing with providers. I have only had a few who have suggested that I not pay. One it was just for a special night. Although I love role plays where when we travel they might play my girlfriend or my wife. Once the date is over it is over.

well depends, if the guy is easy going, clean and respect the house and me as a person: YES of course I provide a good discount for a reasonable number of hours.
If the guy is demanding, pretend to get everything, and drive me crazy with requirements: NO he will pay for every second.
If the guy is very complicated person, not clean and disrespectful and complicated: Bye bye, I will not answers his calls anymore.

Sending you a PM wouldn't knock this thread off the front page, nor would it undo what you did months ago.

Wow, now the plot thickens. SMH...

I spoil my regulars and remind them they are as special to me as I am to them.
Find someone who will appreciate you .