I love this book The Rules. A dear old client of mine who has since passed on gave me this. I have tried it in relationships & it works but I think I did it too much, keeping my feelings all to myself.

I've told a few guys about this book too.

Sara

I started to type that there isn't really a "chase" with providers, but that isn't always the case.  Earlier today I got a confirmation from Nikki A, and I'm pretty sure I squealed like a little girl.  So much for that theory...

In the room I generally prefer to be treated more or less like a lover.  It's on the edge of pathetic, but for that several hours I want to beleive.  I have said it before, but if I can look in her eyes and believe in the fantasy during the time we are together, it is time well spent.  The few times I was treated purely as a client were unsatisfying, unrewarding, and unrepeated.

Alas, there are some providers who remain out of reach for what ever reason.

To finally hook up with a fine woman, such as yourself, is a rewarding experience, not unlike landing that date with the girl all the boys talk about in gym.

The only difference with the hobby is that money simplifies an awful lot of the mystery, which I think is to the good.

Your new pics are lovely by the way.

If the weather in Seattle gets too crazy for you, there's always a spot for you back here in the east.

Kate -

Boston had almost convinced you to relocate here from the NYC region, and then at the last minute Seattle hypnotized you (and your two dogs) into crossing the continent and abandoning us!

Is there something in The Rules we as Bostonians failed to master?

No sore feelings, though. All the best to you, Kate. Stay in touch. And maybe you will return for a Second Coming.

-Cod

if we wanted the chase, we'd leave the hobby and simply tithe 50% of our salaries to the restaurateurs, jewelers and spas that civvy girlfriends would make us pay for just to get next to them.  If I'm already taking what I thought was the direct route to pleasure, I'd rather avoid that crap thank you.  Which is not to say it should just be a client transaction--a good provider and a knowledgeable hobbyist will put something more into making their hour together a little special.  The thrill is the same as in a movie--you know it's pretend but if it's done really well it can be emotionally as well as physically stimulating.  No chase needed.

much preferred at least for me... it implies more of a give and take... call me a die hard romantic if you will, but there is something more rewarding about sessions where you are treated like a lover and you in return, treat the lady as such...
I just love the means to the end... sensual kisses to her neck, nibbles to her ears, hot breath lightly over her nipples... ah, the quest.

enjoyed by the hobbyist in near solitude. His PC is the vista of opportunity as ads, web sites and reviews are read as prerequisite research to spike the interest. While some voice contact may eventually be intitiated, I'd venture to say that most follow-up communication with the provider is accomplished via email.  At this point the deal is either sealed (chase over) or not (who's next on the list?).  So in this vein I think there is little comparison to the dance of the civvy dating scene.

Now once the 'date' occurs there can always be some degree of teasing and flirtation during those beginning intro moments and the anticipation during this time can be awesome.  But let's be honest, unless the lady is a poor provider and/or the guy did not research properly, the conclusion is a sure thing.  Again quite different from the civvy game.            

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