A lot of good questions have been popping up lately, so let me try a variation of one.

I see an ad and the lady requests pre-booking.  She arrives.  And for whatever reason at the end of her tour, when my pre-booked appt is scheduled, she's offering discounted sessions. (maybe to drum up business??) Is it ok to inquire if I am eligible for this?  Or is it a case of pre-buyers' remorse and I am already booked at the original rate?

willing to spend it.  Why try to get a discount now?  IMHO, that's low class and you shouldn't do it. She's not a store offering price protection.  Besides, it couldn't be that much - just pay her.

Some are going to advise that you bring it up with her as some sort of non-penalty for pre-booking thing, but, again, IMHO, that's just low class. You knew the price when you booked and were willing to pay it then - nothing has changed.

Good Luck

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Negotiation-in any form-is just plain bad.

I think it's perfectly okay to mention it, but don't haggle. It will make you look like a ninny.

I'd say it doesn't hurt to ask.  If I was in the provider's situation, I'd be fully aware that the already booked clients see the offer and anticipate them asking me about it.  Personally I wouldn't make such offer because I don't think it makes me look good.

it will definitely take away from the evening. Just pay what you agreed to pay, and be done with it.

Reduced rates might reflect that some days of the week are often busier than others. She may be offering that as incentive to visit her on one of those days.

If you try and negotiate it is wrong. To ask in a tactfull manor if the "advertised special" applies to you then I think that brings up a another set of rules.
She is a visting provider that put on a "sale" or "special" the last day initiated the concern for a "what price do i pay". Yes the gentleman thing to do is pay the rate you signed up for, but if the merchandise was worth xxx on day 1 and 2 and now worth xx on day 3. What if the price went the other way? When she arrived decided that her price was not enough for the going rate in the area and when he arrived she said oh by the way my website said xx but that was wrong it should be xxx my website has not been updated yet, has that happened? hell ya! Read the post 5 threads down.
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If you were buying, that would be prostitution.  

If I become a NPR member at the coffee cup level, that does not mean I am entitled to the NPR other fine gifts without donating more money at whatever membership level they represent.

Hopefully, when you initially booked her, you had done your homework and were very excited about the prospect of seeing her at the original price as you felt it was a very good deal for you.

I agree with the majority of other posters that you pay what you agreed on but you need to be excited about doing it.  

If you no longer can be excited about paying the original price, you should consider seeing another lady where you could feel excited.

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When you buy a ticket for an airplane, your trip is not for several days (or more) later. The price changes as your trip nears, but when the price rises the airlines still honor your ticket. Likewise, if they find themselves stuck with a bunch of empty seats, they may offer low fares the day of the flight, but you don't get any money back.

Rate posted, date made, end of story. Later rate changes should apply only to future dates.

And yeah, I know a provider is not like an airplane. Airplane food is never as good as DATY.

Just expect the kind of non-gfe service you'll get after haggling over the price. If she was worth what you booked at don't worry if someone else is getting it for more or less. Just enjoy.

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IMO If you agreed to pay the normal rate,why bother? The big question....Is this your first time seeing her??

Negotiatin rates is BAD practice!
If she says no you might feel she is not being fair.
If she says yes....you WILL get what you pay for!! Not always true but I am talking for myself. Either or is thats a big turn off for both!!!
Another thing, if you really like her and plan on seeing her again DO NOT DO IT!!!

You might mention that you saw her special, that you're hoping that her trip is not going poorly, and that you are perfectly happy to keep your original arrangement. At worst, she'll see you as one of the "good guys", at best she may go out her way to treat you even more special.

You'll get all the benefits of giving a tip in advance without spending an extra  nickel, and more importantly you won't come off as a cheapskate, nothing will spoil a GFE like coming off as a tightwad.

is low class and tacky, accepting same for being a nice guy is not.
Well maybe accepting a discount might be a little tacky, but if a woman wants to go out of her way to be especially nice to me, who am I to refuse? I am not much for accepting discounts, whenever they are offered I usually give them back as a tip anyhow.

I think you might be able to bring it up if you were considering adding on some extra time.  It's not going to come as a surprise to any lady that a guy who only books a 60 or 90 minute appointment may be operating on a budget that won't allow him to spring for a three-hour date.  

However, if she posts a "see me before I go" special, and you tell her, "I'd be happy to either keep our original arrangement, or to book additional time if you'd like to extend the special rate to me", then she's at least got an option there.

Let me give an example, in case I'm being less than clear.  Suppose a lady comes to my city and originally says her rate is $250 for 60 minutes, $350 for 90 minutes, and $500 for 2 hours, and my budget is a little tight, so I just book the 90 minute session for $350.  Her bookings turn out poorly (for whatever reason), and she decides to offer a "$300 for 90 minutes, 400 for 2 hours" special.  I'm on the hook for $350, no matter what; that was what I agreed to, and I'm OK with that.  However, I don't feel like I'm totally off base if I ask her if she'd like to allow me to upgrade to the 2 hour session for an extra $50, instead of the $150 that was originally quoted.

If she decides that she's not OK with that (for WHATEVER reason, be it tight scheduling or astrological sign or my taste in email addresses), that's her right.  Still, she's blocking herself from extra income if she does, so I'm guessing she wouldn't do it lightly.