OK, I'm learning some cool stuff with every new encounter.  But my latest encounter was definitely a home run (review coming soon, either a 9 or 10, wish there was a 9.5).  Anyway, the next day after it was over, I was bummed out.  Really bummed.  Not depressed, mind you, but generally down in the dumps because it was over.  Kinda like when you were a kid and it was the day AFTER Christmas.  I can budget one, maybe two encounters a month, so it's not like I can run out two days later and indulge in somebody different.

Geez whiz, time is one god-awful & dreadful enemy in this glorious hobby.  I HATE it when it has to end.  Does anyone feel the same way the next day ????

Yes, I do feel the same way. When you meet someone wonderful you want it to last, and dread the feeling of it, being  over.
Believe me you are not alone.

I only see my ATF every other month because of distance so I get it bad.  Typically gets a little better when I have contact with her but doesn't ever really go away until I see her.

I'm in the same boat with the once or twice a month. It seems like an eternity until next time.

No activity has ever made me more aware of my fiscal limitations than the hobby. It's like a very cruel joke; You discover total bliss but find it is not in your tax bracket.
(from here on out you may find yourself engaged in some extreme budgeting practices)

Damn, you nailed that one perfectly Cm. I think back on all the things that i wanted to try, experiment with or do thru life that i stayed away from because i knew that i wouldn't be able to afford it if i liked it only to be blindsided by this.

Hangover is the perfect term.  Only problem is, nothing helps make it go away and it lasts more than one day.

i discovered the hobby. now, i am trying to figure out how much each month i need to save for the hobby. i hit the dumps after the session also.

I was searching for a way to describe it. Your phrasing is perfect.

When I see her it's like I'm somebody else, better than I am in nearly every way. She is a joy to be with even when she cries. She likes my music and seems to understand where it touches us. She is stunningly beautiful and I just flipped out fell in love with her from the first moment she let me in. She gave more than I thought anyone could. Every time I see her it's waterfalls and rainbows.... Even when she cried but especially when she laughs.

She says she is a fantasy actress and I know it must be true. She let me believe that I am special to her, as she is and will always be to me.

When a woman like this let me in I feel better than I am while I'm with her. She let me take a little of that feeling away so when I go back to real life I am.

All your comments touched me and made me realize that I am one lucky woman to be a provider. Sometimes I fall in love a little with a client, (and sometimes I fall in love hard), and I wish that I could just run away and marry him. Like for you, finances get in the way of my being more consistently with whomever I am loving in this way, because it would require me to quit my business and find something equivalent. There isn't much that is equivalent in terms of enjoying my work so much, at such a high hourly rate that gives me so much leisure time for the rest of my life. In that way I feel priviledged, and I'm grateful.
And I also get the hangover when I realize the person in question can't see me until the next month.....

Trust me when I say we feel it too. I have met some of the most passionate and incredible men and women for that matter in this hobby.

I have often found myself thinking of a gent long after I have left his company. You are kind of torn... You want to extend your time with them but most of the time it isn't meant to be...
Or when you finally do leave them you are left with their cologne scent on your clothes or in your hair. Often it is a special memory of having your first glass of scotch and meeting a TRUE gentleman who loves your company. This only wants you to become the perfect woman and experience for this fine man, above and beyond what you may normally do.

When your time is over and you are driving home, you say to yourself, what an amazing man and I hope to see him again.  I hope he enjoyed his date and special time... The longer I am in this hobby, I can say that I have been smitten by more of you gents that I could have ever conceived doing so in a lifetime.

Yes, we women experience it too.

Oh my friend, we all know of what you speak of. It is an intoxicating & invigorating elixer of lust!! The women I have known, to me, are akin to the Sirens of the Illiad and the Odessey, calling to the brave Ulysess and his crew, trying to cast themselevs upon the craggy rocks of the distant shore. You literaly need to strap yourself to the mast to resist their charms!! My advice: revel like a drunk in his whiskey as life is so short.

I share your pain. If someone had asked me a year ago whether I'd quite regularly toss $500/hour on "fun" (not even specifying what the fun was), I'd say they were NUTS! Yet, here I am doing exactly that.

Men engage in this for many reasons. That's been covered here before. I suspect that those who post here about rationed time with an ATF are looking not just for orgasms, but for intimacy. Their ATFs are able to provide that, but THEY ration it too, in a dramatically different way. How many of us, in the afterglow of a session with our ATF, really consider that tomorrow (or maybe later on TODAY) she'll proceed to rock the world of the next of 10-30 guys, ALL of whom consider her their "ATF."

Perhaps chanting the mantra "remember, guys, it's ALL about the money can force us back to a realistic perspective.

This is in NO way a knock against the providers. Every one of us who does this while hiding it from a SO has some disturbance in his own intimate relationships. I read time and again here that providers "have problems with intimacy." Guys, the good ones have that scoped out FAR better than we have. They're far more honest with themselves, and many of them are completely honest with US, too.

We're so hard-wired for sex because it's what makes the species last - millions of years of evolution have perfected this. The provider-client fantasy is a decided variant of how this is "supposed" to work. Little wonder that it causes us all so much trouble.

In other words, I don't have a pill that helps the hangover, either

For those of you folks who have never participated in the hobby. The hanger over never goes away. You get flashbacks. It something you can never give up. It is like a spring that bounces back and forth. You will soon have a PIT (* investment trust). Investments that help the hobby be self funding.

I became a provider to fulfill something that was missing.I have made more dear intimate friends here,than in My personal life.It is nothing but the best feeling to see someone You have missed,and better Yet has missed You,and has been thinking about You.That leaves Me floating.I recently lost a client of mine,He was 84,and it left a hole in My heart.I always let My dear friends know to call,Even if it's just to chat,for the simple fact of the bond that You share.