I saw on Tryst that a very attractive escort was coming to Nashville the second week of August. I checked her on TER and saw she had 70 reviews and all were 7, 8 or 9.

appointment of the day THE WAY YOU DID IT implies that you think she is not going to be clean enough for you once she starts her schedule for the day seeing other customers.   If you had merely said, "I start work at 12:00p, so I would like to be finished in time to get to work,"  you would have gotten the morning appointment you wanted.  Its pretty clear you have no clue that you insulted her, and then made it worse by saying its just a quirk of yours.  She can read between the lines.   This should be a learning moment for you, it cost you what would probably have been a great session.  Sorry to put it so bluntly, but it is what it is, Max.    

but I think she thinks you implied she was a whore?

When someone asks to be the first appointment of the day or on a tour it's a faux pas. I would even go so far as to say it's not just the possible implication that this provider wouldn't be "fresh" enough for you but also that you questioned if their "performance" would be optimal if you. If they are an established provider with the stamina to tour, I would imagine they are rather astute when it comes to determining the number of clients they can realistically see in a day while remaining bright eyed and bushy tailed.  

to be the FIRST guy she MET in Nashville. To me meaning the very FIRST client of hers for that city tour, which I believe would expand upon your noted reasoning for being first of any particular day of her tour.

But I think you nailed this one.  
CDL = blind squirrel!

Also always state the time of your desired appointment in the first contact. That was probably your first red flag in her mind..

But, it might also be that the last five guys who asked to be the first appointment were total jerks so she instinctively rejected any further requests of this sort.  Alternatively, if he said, I like early AM appointments, what time can I come by she also might have nada for the same reason.  

remember a top girl gets dozens of texts and emails ...  so .. she doesnt have time for non specific requests or obscure requirements.      the whole not clean is probably secondary to ...  " i dont have time to go back and forth with you, just request a specific time.  or i am moving on to the 3 other guys that answer questions directly and in one text.   "  

“High maintenance John “

might as well give out her profile so I won't be bothering to ask her if I can be the last one of the day. lol  

is a blind squirrel without a few nuts around him.  Lol

It is yet another dumb unwritten rule amongst providers.  Although I wouldn't have necessarily asked to be the "first" (that may have been a little off-putting) if I were you, you should of simply just asked what was her earliest availability.  I am guessing you took away the allure of her wanting to present a session to you that made you feel like you're the only guy in the world for that day.  Kind of silly if you ask me, but that's just my opinion.  

Because  I said something about what other providers have said to me. She said I shouldn't talk about the other women I have been with. WTF?  But live & learn I guess.. providers have told me about other guys..things they like that are kind of odd.. so I never worried about it.

who is "bright-eyed," but I don't see ladies who are "bushy-tailed."  I prefer shaved.  

Sounds like she got offended by what you wrote as it does seem to imply that she’s “dirty”, and therefore you want to see her when she’s “clean”, or rather, before a barrage of men have had their way with her. When she asked why, you said it was a “quirk” of yours, which could be interpreted as you avoiding the question by giving a weak answer.  

The online form at her website does not ask for your preference of time or date. It asks your name, age, and the names of two providers you’ve seen in the last eight months. Only after she hears from the providers does she contact you to ask what time you prefer.

I mostly agree with your explanation.

Now I would see a provider wearing a "bushy-tailed” butt plug though.

she had already told him that his screening went well.   It was when she asked him what day and time he wanted that things went South.  

Probably less to do with her profession than the fact she is a chick. Chicks get upset at the stupidest shit. You can attempt to rationalize their behavior. But basically it's because they are chicks and therefore borderline insane if not completely. Hope this helps.

the "first one" sounds rude to me. I do not see several people. I have personal obligations and I take time to see one person per location, on my way home from work etc. I also hate when guys ask "you have a spot today", or "can I be the first?" because he is assuming my door is revolving and actually is not. Many of those who have actually meet me, knows that I make a reservation to meet with them and then I go home. We both leave usually at the same time. (Regulars, never with first time cuz I dont want them to know the car I am driving or what I way I go) .  

You did nothing wrong, it’s your  right to ask for what you want. I’m surprised at how many guys are saying you should word things differently, that’s absurd. Hookers are so sensitive these days and always complaining. Let the other guys stand in line in the hall way and wait!!!!

It's honestly rude and a turn off to most of us to hear you talk about other women unless it's positive and we personally know the women you're talking about.

He can ask for what he wants and not be rude. And what hooker in the world who's worth her business is letting men wait in a hotel hallway, lined up? Your hyperbole is truly outrageous here.

He obviously crossed a boundary that she did not want crossed.  He did not get to see her and he wanted to.  Hence he did something wrong.

It's pretty clear that YOU'RE seeing them because you know little about women in general and probably can't get a civilian date.  Hookers are also women, and you looking down on them is going to be apparent to the ones you see, sooner or later.   I try to treat the ladies I see the same way I would treat a civvie woman I'm dating.  Even though sex is a sure thing because I'm paying, there is no reason to treat them any differently.  If you do this, you will most likely have a positive experience.  

Big sagging balls with no sperm.  Who the hell are you, a PHD of ultimate male inspiration.  Here's what you wrote followed in CAPS by reality.

is a good way to close the back door on you, . . . . . or maybe its a subtle invitation?  Lol

OTOH, what if he is worried about catching the delta variant?  He is very  horny, vaccinated but has been reading about breakthrough infections.  Figures that his risk is reduced if he is the first one.  You think that is unreasonable and condescending?

simple. "can we meet in the morning before I go to work?"...  

By no means was I trying to be condescending or think she wasn’t “fresh” enough. I like early morning appointments. Then I have a smile on my face and a spring in my step the rest of the day. Whereas if it’s later in the day, all day long I’m thinking about it and I can’t get anything productive done. I sent an email apologizing to the provider.

I don't think OP insulted her deliberately. I mean he didn't call her a "whore", "bitch" or "cunt" did he...

that I don't think he had a clue that he insulted her.  Its not a matter of being "sensitive", its a matter of understanding what women are sensitive about.  it comes with experience with all different types of  women . . . . different ages, different ethnicities, etc.  Providers are women, so they are no different than civvie women in that regard.  They just fuck more and are better at it, but their emotions are often the same.  

OMG. You were dead on with your reasoning in your response to Max.

..if we want to worry about all these things, why even monger.. Just have an affair with a woman..  

I think as we get older, the social aspect of sessions becomes as important as the physical.  I look at it as a "date" like I would have with a civvie girl, if I could get one that's 30 years old to go out with me.  Lol  I do okay with 40+ civvies, but I really prefer 30's, so the social connection (whether its genuine or fake doesn't matter . . . . I'm not going to marry her - lol) is what gets me to repeat, not the sex.  You can get sex anywhere, and when you're paying, if you have done your homework before choosing, you will rarely have a bad session, IMO.  So  I think the importance of good manners and civility with a provider is a function of age and perspective.  Obviously, there are a lot of mongers who look down on providers (I'm not suggesting you're one of them) and it shows in the way they talk about them and deal with them on a professional level when scheduling.  

It good way to get a deal on some wet tight pussy, you just can't ask for it you have to get lucky. That just my experience.

It is that social interaction had me go the SB route about 5 yrs ago.. After being in the "hobby" for about 15 yrs, I was already burnt out at 35. I  had pretty good success w/ SB world  initially and up until COVID hit us..  Something happened during this COVID era and that world has just imploded with nothing but scammers and time wasters.. So the value in social communication is not lost on me.  

CDL looked into his crystal ball and saw that the OP "knows little about women in general and probably can't get a civilian date," that the OP "looks down on hookers," and "he is obviously upset" that she passed.

Are you on your period?   It doesn't seem like its been 28 days since the last one.   Anyway, nice to see you and the fat guy trading off on who's the "top" and who's on "bottom. " Impotent guys should always stick together.  You never know when you buddy might need a hand.   Bwahahahahahaha

How's it going with working along side your current girlfriend?  Its a nice bounce back from losing your job as a grocery bagger at the supermarket.  And perhaps working along side of her you will grow closer together.

It all depends on what mood I'm in when I see your email.  Normally, I'm fine with it.  (ok, I roll my eyes but I don't say anything) and my assistant simply ignores it.  

Just say you'd like to see her as early as possible/ her earliest availability.  That should be fine.  

If I say 10am chances are I’ll be first anyway and the lady will come back with a time convenient for her - usually later, rarely earlier.  

These points have come up before but are relevant enough to repeat again.
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Some clients' real life is centered around getting up early at 5 AM, going to work, going home, in bed by 9 PM. Wash, rinse, repeat. (Or some variation on that.) Several have posted that they like to take care of R&R in the early morning before going to work. Try stating your preferred meeting times around your schedule.
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Some clients get up at 10 AM, go to work, R&R or sports bar til midnight, in bed at 2 AM. Wash, rinse, repeat.
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Some Providers are also early morning people, up at 5 AM, and love those 6 AM meetings, etc.. (One of our frequent posters has that schedule ... I just don't remember who it is as she isn't in the northeast.)
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Some Providers are out working or clubbing until 4 AM, get home tired at 5 AM, collapse in bed, then wake up at 2 PM to start their day. Wash, rinse, repeat.  
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Just express your schedule preferences and work it out with her schedule availability w/o the "first guy of the day" innuendo. If the night owl Provider agreed to see you at 5 AM you would be the LAST guy of that working day. She would still have other guys' cum on her lips and their saliva on her boobs and pussy. And you wouldn't know unless she told you but you would think that you are the "first" of that day.

I see it the same way! The social connection is also important to me! Even if someone gets a GFE session , but without a connection or chemistry it's kind of a wam, bam, thank you mam encounter! Granted, it would be a good average session, because it's GFE, better then an all business, mechanical session ( get 'em clean, get 'em off and get 'em out!), but not as enhanced as it could be with a social aspect, IMO!

until she asked him WHY he wanted the first date.  He first did what you suggested.

He said.. He wanted the FIRST date..  All he had to do was say, can I get an early morning date, and in all likelihood he might have been able to score the first date.

When I get emails from the gents who want to be "the first appt of the day" it kinda rubs me the wrong way.
It comes off as oh if I don't see her early she is going to be too tired,not clean,or not provide a great service.
Perhaps it is wrong to think like that but the few times I saw gents who worded their emails this way.
They were some of the most demanding and some were even rude clients I have ever seen.
How about wording what is your earliest availability on so-so date I would be interested in (insert time/day)
Just my .02

Is we can see who we want, when we want without answering to anybody. I know for me, I can usually tell immediately if it's a gentleman I want to spendd time with. Sometimes all i's are dotted and t's are crossed and something tells me to pass... there's no formula, just how she's feeling at the time I presume

Unless it's her first time EVER, you're not getting any less of a whore.  Also, you implied she was a whore and the "quirk" here is that you don't understand people, yet alone women and definitely not escorts.  

I agree!  I entered the scene as an independent in 2005. If someone is persistent on being "first", my immediate inclination leans toward LE. As we know, there are many unscrupulous characters who can screen well but still have holding cell intentions. So much depends on how it's approached, however. "Hey dear, I'm working 12p-8p, so I'm really going to need an early time" comes across much better than "I want to be the first you see". 16 years and I still dance the dance when it comes to meeting new folks. We can't be cautious enough.

But either way you bugged someone. Bookers have an obligation in protecting/screening their client, if it was indeed a booker.But anyways, you just rubbed someone wrong with that request. But consider yourself lucky in that they told you that they're moving on from you and to "Have an awesome day".... She could have just ghosted you.
Classy chick or smart booker.

Because I know him, I know he simply wanted her earliest availability.    

between "I'd like your earliest availability" and  "I'd like to be your first appointment".

It's all in your head (big one) gents, especially us seniors from back in the 70's when gloves weren't necessary and nobody wanted to think they were getting "Sloppy seconds" me included. When I first started in this game 6 yrs ago it bothered the shit out of me being of that mindset at that time. I even posted and bitched about it over here on the GDB and oh brother did I ever get taken to woodshed on my "Lead off batter" preference and deservedly so. Maybe a couple of you remember. Didn't take me long to come 180*and change my tune, it's just how it is.

Dear Alex,
I know that you would say that it is all in your approach.

She likely has a quota of 1000 a day.  It's rude to insist on being first.  She showers between.  Respect women.  

Where's that Falcon?

First of all, You never have to explain to her why you need the earliest appointment (Do you call up a restaurant and ask what is the earliest that you can go into the restaurant to place your food order?). If you answer "NO" then why explain why you need the earliest time to see the provider?! Just ask the provider what is her earliest Opening for when she gets to Nashville and if she doesn't give you an exact time, then say "Thanks for your time. I'll move on to another Provider."  And do just that. Don't waste your time  & Hers.

TOO subtle.  If she says, "Why?", and he give the same response that its a quirk of his, he winds up in the same place with  a pass from the lady.  Maybe it sounds a little more polite, but its going to mean the same thing, and she may only be marginally less insulted.