But there is a lot of spectrum within that.
I don't often get into discussions of things that could be termed debates, like politics, etc.
I prefer to talk about interesting subjects like culture, etc. that lead to harmonious and educational discussions.
We also talk about interesting stuff that is going on in our lives.
My favorites and I tend to have those kinds of talks.
Do you never have impassioned discussions about something controversial?? Those make me really hot. 
I have booked many dinner dates over the years. Most of the conversation is light hearted, in particular stories about the hobby. Ladies always have them and I find them entertaining and fascinating. (obviously all client confidences are kept as such). I have really yet engaged in a serious conversation where we actually debated the pros and cons of a sensitive topic. Moreover, dinners are usually the mid point of the evening. No point in getting into any type of debate on a topic, where your differing view points could dampen the rest of the evenings festivities. Keep it light and fun and always flirtatious.
Now you are not going to (nor are you expected to) agree with everything the hobbyist says, but you should really pick your spots to challenge him (unless he is saying something so repulsive and offensive in which case it was prob. a bad idea to even go on a dinner date with him in the first place). A little debate on something is fine. Most hobbyists shouldn't mind it. A full debate, however, on a sensitive topic is something to most likely avoid in this setting. Remember, you want him to want to see you again.
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If we have a difference of opinion I'm not going to pretend to agree just to impress you. I'm gonna be myself, and if he don't like it, oh well. Now if we stumble on some touchy subject, I'll probably just steer the convo in a different direction.
Is gonna blow me under the table in between courses rather than hanging out with the guy cutting the roast beef . And or thinking she has to dive into the shrimp bar to find the best 1.
I like talk about common interests and experiences to build a stronger base of rapport, and then find some differences to help us both differentiate ourselves to one another. Not argumentative debate, but intellectual in the spirit of learning - all good. No way would I enjoy spending time with someone who just nodded, smiled and agreed with all I said. Hard for me to shift mental gears and realize "yes lady" is an act, and not simply lose respect for her. I think light and fun is important - I like liberal flirting and teasing. A good sense of humor is really important, IMHO.
The mile high club on the ground ? Common Zen , nobody wants any kung fu fighting over dinner !
LOL. I prefer some fancy (but gentle) footwork under the table. Although it is harder to clean up discreetly than a bj... I've heard a wine chaser works well for that, though.
Posted By: MasterZen
Not argumentative debate, but intellectual in the spirit of learning - all good.
I have learned a lot this way from my friends. I love a genuinely lively discussion- especially about something we both find fascinating. A good debate is great too! As long as people know how to debate sanely and fairly.
I am happy to pay you money for hot sex but not to watch you eat, listen to you talk or *shudders* watch you sleep.
I love the women in the business and am happy to take them out afterwards for a bite to eat and to chat. They seem happy to do it.
I do not condemn any guy who will pay for the above, but it's not me. In fact, later this week I'm having lunch on consecutive days with providers I know and we're not even having a session first (or second.)
Both women are real intellects and we talk about literature, art, politics and fucking. It makes for a nice mix. We also share sex industry gossip and news. In New York right now there's more of that than is healthy.
This is what I love about this game. It's the opposite of civvy sex. Here, we get the fucking out of the way first. Then, sometimes, a friendship follows.
Thanks. I just get a vibe sometimes from a lady after we've clicked in a really good session and I pop the question. Works for me!
On Friday, my ATF is taking me to lunch -- yes, she insists it's on her.
On Saturday I'm taking another lady to lunch.
No sex in either case, at least that's not the plan. Just friends.
Once I took a gal to the museum after a session, then she sprung for dinner.
It's all good.
Hopefully you are not going on a dinner date with someone you have zero clue about.
So read how they react, the art of debate is lost on most people. A debate is never heated, no hurt feelings and emotion kept to a minimum. It revolves around facts and logic, not feelings and beliefs.
That being said, IMO if you care to debate intelligently on a subject of disagreement, by all means do. But if it gets emotional, failboat... if it devolves into a ideological he feels she feels, failboat...
I so agree that it is a lost art. And too many people come to the table with too much opinion and not enough facts to back up those opinions. Or they come to the table with Jesus, and ya can't argue Jesus. No fair. Lol!!
I love debates. Especially when it is with someone who knows more or differently than I.
the level confidence the man have to engage in a debate. Some just wants their ego stroked and want others to tell them how smart they are.
Self Ego≠ healthy debate
This is true, I'm certain. Luckily I have rarely, if ever, run into such a gentleman professionally. IRL- all the time. Lol!
Posted By: anonymousfun
the level confidence the man have to engage in a debate. Some just wants their ego stroked and want others to tell them how smart they are.
Self Ego≠ healthy debate
