Hi - I find your remarks very interesting.  Let me share something of my experience from the other side of the mattress.  I am 6'2 and currently weigh 290lbs.  I have a 52" chest and lift over 50,000lbs a week. I cannot walk straight through many of the typical interior doors due to the width of my shoulders.  Since I have retired from the US Navy I have gone from a 38" waist (at less than 6% body fat) to a 44.  In "fighting trim" I weighed 255lbs.  So I am a huge guy but not your typical huge guy.  I also have a great deal of mostly gray body hair.  I have numerous scars from service in 12 combat campaigns (5 awards of the Purple Heart) and a few from 4 months spent as a
prisoner of war in Viet Nam.  OTOH, I am well groomed (including my crank) and clean, I can't bring myself to think I'm handsome but I have nicely greying hair and a silver mustache and goatee. I take care of my skin. And perhaps most importantly, I'm a nice guy.  All of this being said, I have NEVER noticed a hesitant or fearful reaction from a provider in the US, Asia or Europe.   Perhaps the level of interest I show in a lady, my relationship skills and the sexual skills picked up carousing around the world "outweigh" any of my cosmetic negatives.  I've had quite a few ladies including providers tell me that they prefer an older man with a bit of a belly and skills, even if he shows some wear and tear and is a bit cosmetically challenged.  And my regulars are always glad to see me!  Also, let's be honest, I've never met a provider who is perfect or flawless physically.  I guess I'm a realist - I should be - I would have a hard time listing all of the countries I've hobbied in, let alone all of the ladies - but still - physical perfection has never been on my list of requirements for the ladies.  If it was, I would have missed almost all of the best experiences
I've had...  In the civvie world, I have found that I have no trouble at all picking up attractive women for low rent rendevous.
But I have found that, if one were to categorize amateur ladies in attractiveness strata, the
2nd and 3rd tier ladies have provided almost all of the top notch experiences I've had. I have never been turned off by discovering that a lady had a surgery scar, obvious signs of motherhood, or any of the physical imperfections or signs of wear and tear that are normal and expected.
I've never minded being with an older lady that had aged gracefully.  If I'm interested in the lady, these things don't bother me at all.  The only things that will turn me off to a lady are poor grooming or hygiene, obvious poor self image, or self absorption.  So, in the real world, and within certain limits, just how important is physical appearance, and why do so many obsess over it?

Maybe us "mature" provider's are a different breed, better in lots of ways...

WELL TAWNEY u are not a ugly woman really.....some guys view females in this line of work as "MEAT".BUT 2 be honest i dont or could i ever treat a woman any way other than a woman.....but how many guys have ever been with a woman of your looks?why do you think most guys see providers anyway?most of them just have low self esteem if they treat you wrong

Agree!

I always find things I love about all of my clients if they are kind & considerate..

I have not been with anyone who was physically repugnant to me!

I also date nerdy guys in real life & often wish I had met some of my clients some other way...quite a few i would totally date.

The money helps but more so for the reason that I truly am appreciative that they make my lifestyle possible & keep me in cute shoes, lol!

Darwin's therory is about attraction to reproduce not fornicate as the 2 are extremely different!
My personal take on it:

1. if a person says they can find something attractive in anyone, then they are getting over nothing in order to this..

2. nightclubs are hardly a true standard in gearing anyone..even using Darwins theory.
Places like that are always based in the world of shallow plastic coupling that are usually just for bragging rights after sobering up. Hopefully!
LOL!

3.True while the enevleope is at first the driving force, it is not the only one, and i have found I like more of my working experiences than not..

4. Attraction: maybe that is the difference between a GFE experience and going thru the motions experience

Re: Darwin's Finches aka Galapagos Finches: Adaptation

Darwin had no idea of the significance of his theory of evolution by natural selection, nor of the significance of these birds.

See the wikipedia article;

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/darwin's_finches

Paragraph's 2 & 3 under Darwin's theory gives me my premise: "A series of ground finches which are so peculiar as to form an entirely new group, containing 12 species"

I actually met a provider who has worked regularly on the Galapagos islands teaching diving, and who also answered me the question asked here.....she is a variety of finch as are all provider's .....but what does that make us???)

Hi - FWIW, it's been my experience in life, my military career, and 35 years of hobbying all around the world - that no theory of personality works in contact with real life. Humans are unique, we have the capacity to shape and create ourselves. We are not machines. Unlike the birds, many if not most of us are not slaves to appearances....

Cheers -

gregory

In my owqn experience, It's as simple as a kind word.

Someone can be as big as a house but still have beautifully elliquent statements come out of their mouths that it makes me more comfortable.
The fact that I soooo love the art helps a lot too. A gentle touch or a smooth caress means so much when your trying to put a smile on their faces.
I look in their eyes, and see a need...which brings out the animal in me. LOL

xoxo
Lusty