That's the thing...as we all know, a even average looking woman can get laid any time she wants. SHe might not be able to get the pick of the litter, but she sure can get what she needs. Women....with only the exceptions at the extreme....HONESTLY don't have to pay for it.
So this means that any woman a male escort would have for a client would be a woman who "had to pay for it". And when we say this, we are talking about a woman who probably isn't average looking, and is probably someone (assuming said escort is attractive himself) the guy would NEVER consider dating or sleeping with.
Do this on a consistent basis? Not me...not for the sort of money male escorts make (much less than women, BTW...unless you are at the TOP of your game).
Now we all know it's the Provider's Job to make us leave feeling as though we were the King. I have not conducted many reviews althought I've had my share of experiences.
I've had many of the ladies compliment me on my skills, patience, and passion and said that the shoe should be on the other foot (metaphorically speaking). I take it all with a grain of salt and move on. But recently I saw one of my favorites and she had a serious conversation with me that I should become a provider for women (this was a conversation, not a comment from her). My last session with her was at no charge to me.
I'm truly flattered, but can't perform such a deed for the female species. I would love to, but the 'real world' calls and my schedule is very busy in life. But damn what a great idea. Would any of you guys ever consider doing something like this? How is it different for men than women?
this doesn't apply equally to every sex worker out there, but, my semi retired amiga was one of the big names on the scene. We
talk a lot of shop, and her side of the story is that it is a hell of a lot harder work than it seems to the customer. Part of her special gift was making the job appear effortless. She is a genuinely ethical and extremely sweet girl, but she does find listening to recitations of personal problems and gaseous boasting tiresome in the extreme. Seems that there is a certain contingent of customers out there that have a Jeckyll and Hyde personality disorder. They can come in all content and mellow and flip to hostile and weird with little advance notice. These guys really scare her. Women probably aren't as looney as men in this exact way, but you'd probably have more than your share
of needful types who'd want to call you up and chat at all hours.... "should I paint the bathroom seafoam green or eggshell blue"... you'd have to be an empathetic patient guy...
It's been my understanding that most men are more visual than most women. When looking for providers, don't we (men) generally (there are always exceptions) look for women we consider visually appealing (and that have other qualities, of course). Can you accept having sex with those whom you have no emotional attachment **and** are not attractive in your eyes?
I saw this fellow on Playboy TV ( http://american-gigolo.com/ ) -- was a segment on Sexcetera. If you are seriously thinking of entering the biz, try to get an informational interview with him to find out more.
-Hoot.
That's the thing...as we all know, a even average looking woman can get laid any time she wants. SHe might not be able to get the pick of the litter, but she sure can get what she needs. Women....with only the exceptions at the extreme....HONESTLY don't have to pay for it.
So this means that any woman a male escort would have for a client would be a woman who "had to pay for it". And when we say this, we are talking about a woman who probably isn't average looking, and is probably someone (assuming said escort is attractive himself) the guy would NEVER consider dating or sleeping with.
Do this on a consistent basis? Not me...not for the sort of money male escorts make (much less than women, BTW...unless you are at the TOP of your game).
Guys can't fake an orgasm.
Guys can't fake an erection. Some customers might be a challenge to your senses and make you limp.
Guys can't "perform" for as many customers as ladies can per day.
Are you prepared to "dine" on every customer?
I hired a guy once, wasn't my idea, was my X-husband's in Vegas. I was a tender age of 21 and had really been coerced. But this man was supreme! I was very scared, and he was a complete professional and drop dead handsome malato. Being inexperienced I had no tip ready for him, told him he could leave and I would just lie to my husband. I had requested an hour, but he stayed 4 hours! I learned from that encounter that my husband was NOT supreme! We didn't last much longer, lmao.
Several provider buddies have given me similar feedback following our tete-a-tetes. One lady told me I could "make a fortune with that cock." While I'm flattered by the compliments, I take any such pillow talk with a grain of salt. As you correctly note, part of the service offered by a (smart) provider is to pump up her client's ego. So, I've developed a healthy skepticism concerning comments made by women I've hired to spend time with me. Also, I understand many male hustlers have to service male clients too. Are you prepared to do that? I know I'm not. Besides, I already have a very successful career and earn enough money without having to prostitute myself. So, why go there if you don't have to?
Not that movies depict truth, but in this this movie, even in the cases where the woman was wealthy and a looker, the was a side shown where one woman's headiness of having money & power, & being societally accepted, contrasted to the male and the stigma of being paid for sex (yes, even with men) caused one man to feel well, less than potent (for lack of a better word).
(Andy Garcia & Mick Jagger)
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There women who do buy time and if you can find them you can do OK. Mostly the market is in the larger metropolitan areas where business women travel to to do their work.
The money in the male escort business is in this usually older business woman who really wants a companion as well as a sex partner for a long night. They are not interested in the one hour thing that lady providers commonly fulfill, that is , they want the whole package not just sex. They are usually smarter and well groomed (don't expect shaved) but not necessarily attractive. They are not usually interested in a 25 year old studmuffin but do often like a gentleman who is younger than they are. They will often return to the same gentleman when they return to the city if things work out well. They are well organized and once they can make contact will usually do so well in advance of the desired meeting time.
These women think more like the men in the business world in which they work. They are still women and like verbal strokes and excellent maners and hygiene, but are not as likely to have a rush of guilt the can accompany the "wife" who just wanted to see what it was like.
Where men who see women providers for a high fee then may get a special lower fee for repeat favorites the approach from a male escort to a woman client can work oppositely. These business women are very concerned about anonimity and discression and are not likely to act like horney men (they don't have a small head to think with). Contact and reference checks are delt with very cautiously and occationally done via a trustworthy male. Fees can be presented with a reduction of regular fee for the first visit to test compatibility. Once the woman client has found a favorable comfort zone the previously mantioned "regular fee" can become active. These women frequently tip very well to regular men that they see. They seem to like a relationship that isn't a "relationship", so to speak.
So If you are of a mind, I suggest you go with the attitude that you can be available for just the right type of women clients and forget the notion of "escorting" as the women providers do on such a frequent basis. Take time and carefully nurture a clientelle.
It's good to hear the positive side of this. Just as in the case with female escorts, it's all about nuturing a certain type of clientele, and definitely water seeks its own level.
Good to hear that this really does exist for the male escort. Were I in the position of one of these ladies, I certainly would seek a male escort for dinner, theatre, companionship, etc.
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My experience as a male dancer was, that the vectors were all wonky. It wasn't a quick fix for great sex, if that's what you're thinking. I was a cage go-go dancer at a gay male strip club, where (if you just think about it, you'll realize, it's pretty obvious) the patrons are after EACH OTHER as well as the dancers, so my job was just to provide eye-candy for anyone who had a random moment of boredom. I was briefly a stud dancer at a straight male strip club, where (it's not quite as obvious) the women are performing "Look at me I'm so damned turned on and I can be louder than any other chick in here" ALSO for each other more than for the performers.
The few times that a woman was interested in me for a direct one-on-one at the dance club, it was pretty obvious, because she shut the fuck up, stopped her performance of squealing glee, and started paying attention to the conversation at hand in that directed, glazed-over way that you've seen many male patrons do at a straight female strip club. And what turned on those very few women (none of whom I ever slept with) was strictly, entirely, utterly, conversation. Shared interests and the capacity to discuss details of emotionally meaningful experiences -- whether opera, or snorkeling, or sixth graders' Newberry Award winner books. My butt was nothing but the entry ticket to the boat ride, and once she was on board she felt utterly free to abandon ship at a moment's notice if I didn't have the perfect rejoinder. In fact, most of the time I got the sense they were "testing" me just to see if they could push me to make a wrong answer. Not enjoyable -- all the rejections of real life, but on steroids, from uglier fatter women.
There's an excellent documentary about male sex workers in Sydney, Australia, of both the gay and straight varieties. (Prostitution is largely legal in most of Australia.) There's this one guy, Alex I think his name is, who is much in demand for his physical technique. He runs a service, but his work partners are disappointments to the clientele, so he has to keep running out of the house at the last minute, leaving his wife and kid to fend for themselves. He does pretty well, but there's an obvious strain on his marriage. If I can find more details I'll try to remember to post them.
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So nice to see some strong thoughts on this subject and thanks for taking the time to respond.
I also have had some of the same experiences such as you, I have
had the pleasure of seeing a provider and upon leaving I was
given a discount or given all of my $$ back more than once, and
of course I have been told that I should be a male provider by
a couple of providers, but I really cannot see my self as providing such services to any one, to me there was some connection that was made on a very sexual level between me and
the provider that I was with, and I was totally turnned on
to the point that I preformed so well for them, and to be honest
I don't think that providing for someone who did not turn me on
would be very destructive to me emotionally.
I'm really curious as to why you were given your money back or at least part of it? Was it because of your performance in which the female provider enjoyed herself so much that she felt the need to pay you? Or did you and the female provider form a bond/relationship in which introducing money would have ruined your relationship? Or was it being very attractive to the female providers? Thanks for your thoughts.