I've never given it much thought, but recently a few of ladies I've seen have commented on how many I have. One even went so far as to call me a slut. Of course, I owned up to that. Hell, it made me want to go out and get more. lol.  

 
Any of you ladies want to ride a slutty hog?

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I have to confess, I like it that P 411 changed the rules to where you have to request an okay for a provider to be able to give you one.  

I don't mind being called a slut, man-whore -et al, but I do know that once you get hundreds of okays, It can actually work against you. I find it even more ironic that hookers avoid "high volume guys" in the very same manner that johns avoid "high volume hookers. The hypocrisy is mind boggling, but true.

So yes, I will admit to only asking for okays at a rate of about once every month or two. Just enough to keep  enough current reviews to make screening easy, but not so many as to scare any women off who don't want to book with a man-whore. lol

Recently, after our session, my ATF asked me if she has ever given an Okay and I said , yes you have, about 5 yrs ago. I have been seeing her since last 5 yrs. regularly twice a month. She said let me update it and
Right away logged on to P411 and updated her Okay.
That's when she found out that I have 66 Okays since the first one she gave about 5 yrs. ago!!
I could tell, she was disappointed to see that!!
Since then, I sense that her disappointment has turned into slight anger and disbelief.....
I am hoping , it will go away.....

...but then, you had a huge head start.

how many ladies you see... nor a clients business how many clients I see either.  

Vero,

which I don't think is all that many. One provider said something like, "You've been busy." Teasingly, not judgementally. That was because I'd only been hobbying for 8 months or so.  

I don't think I'll ask for any more. Not for a while, at least. I don't expect 11 or 111 to hurt me, but there isn't any advantage in having more at this point.

who has over 120 okays on P411 he seems to not have an issue seeing ladies.
I don't care how many okays a guy has just like I would hope he would not hold the number of reviews I have here against me.As long as a guy is respectful I don't care if he has 1 okay or over a 100.

You want to make sure the last few are reasonably new, to make up for the fact that older OKs may have retired or gone UTR.

I have seen a couple of P 411 providers who I would NEVER go back to, and I don't even want the evidence remaining that I ever saw them in the first place. That is the reason I completely support the P 411 policy that you have to "request" an okay before a provider can give you one.  There are a couple of women (out of hundreds of great ones) that I want no reminders about ever having been with.

a fellow slut!!  
I have found it funny when a guy has more OKs then I have given on p411 but I actually love to take a look and see the type of lady he generally enjoys or if he spreads the love around.
Reviews I don't really care because I do not assume them to be true like I do a vouch on p411.

One gent reached out to me about a swing date and basically told me that his one review and White list was sufficient to screen him.  
Nope it sure isn't.  

Kisses

Elle Vegas (the Sexy Swinger)

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If you think you have too many or some you do not want you can blow them away
On the other hand if you have some favs that Okd you years ago get an update. If I am not wrong she will get some credits for doing so.  
These to me are similar to what clients get for Problem reports here.

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Just like reviews, too many can be problematic... you'll get the "Gee you see alot of women".. and then the "I dunno about you"...But after the opening jitters are gone and the lines of communication have been established then all is forgotten and it doesn't matter.

...but it's been awhile. Most of the time it occured when I tried to save a few bucks and regretted it. Not that she didn't look like her pictures, but the sex was unremarkable.  

Most of us would like to have a good amount of "regulars" because it's dependable income and you get to establish a friendship.  I like regulars because I tend to be on the shy side and I'm not comfortable meeting new people all the time.  A long list of recent okays/reviews pretty much tells us it's not likely you will be a regular and some may not choose to invest their effort in someone that will probably be a one time deal.  I'll admit I get hesistant at the number of okays/reviews someone has but if they seem nice and want to meet at a convenient time I would likely still meet with them if I'm feeling up to meeting a new person.

The thing that bothers me is some ladies will decline a guy saying they prefer quality over quantity which is flawed logic IMO.  You can be a quality guy and still see a lot of women.  You can have both quality and quantity.

I've seen some quality women who have a lot of reviews and seen a lot of guys. Also, I've seen some women who don't have a lot of reviews and weren't all that great. So, quantity has absolutely nothing to do with quality.  

Also in my case, there are not a lot of local options that I would consider for a regular gig. So, most of my liasons are with visiting ladies. There are several of these that I see regularly whenever they visit, it's more like 3 to 4 times a year vs. every month or every week. I guess the point is that even though a guy has seen a lot of women, it doesn't mean he doesn't repeat with ladies he connects with.

Because it helps with my screening process if he's seen well known ladies that I admire and/or know, but conversely if all he's seen are PSE providers or ladies who charge very little and do a lot for it then I question why he suddenly wants to see a GFE provider with a much higher rate? I guess I find that offputting in case he's going to spend the whole time pushing my boundaries. Also if a guy hasn't had an okay for two years I'd wonder why?

by the fact that she is somewhat an introvert.  Which can make things a bit more challenging for a lady to be a provider.  It can be that same way for a guy as well.  

More important for me how recent they are (I prefer them not older than 1 year.)
In that case additional info needed for screening.
Also, I hope they don't find my number of reviews too much.
I like to feel comfortable with my date and a lot of okeys don't bother me a bit

She claims that guys who have lot of okays aren't likely to have regulars and that is simply not true. Some of us just like to have a lot of sex and can have two or three regulars that we see once every week or two and still manage to see a couple of new girls every week.  

There are several "high volume" guys I can think of, one that comes immediately to mind is CDL, he has stated many times that he has many regulars, but that doesn't stop him from seeing quite a few new girls as well.

coupled with the fact that she describes herself as an introvert.  The mindset and personality of an introvert is going to lead them to have a different perspective.  So perhaps from her own personal experience and where she is based, her answer is logically.  We don't have to agree with it, just understand that it's her's.  

I'm an introvert so that totally changes the way I look at things.  I have no problem with people who want to check women off their list but thats not generally the type of client I'm looking for.  I perform better when I get comfortable with someone usually.  

I also tend to make a lot of correlations between things.  In my experience it's helpful to discover trends.  I've discovered that those with a lot of reviews/okays may repeat a few times but don't usually become regulars.  While this may not be true for everyone it is generally true for me.  I have also discovered those who see me most don't typically review.  That is probably why I have a low amount of reviews in comparison to how long I've been around because I typically see more repeat clients than new ones.

No I didn't say guys who have a lot of okays aren't likely to have regulars.  I said guys who have a lot of okays aren't likely to BE regulars.  I find most of the time when someone books me with a lot of okays they want to check off "being with a tall woman" on their list or experience some other kind of service that I provide that most don't.  I try to keep in mind that there are a lot of business travelers to my area so that could be a factor as well.

For a guy to "have" a regular, he must also "be" a regular to that woman. I am trying to be nice, but your statement makes zero sense. You simply cannot see a woman on a regular basis without that same woman seeing you on a regular basis as well. That's just a ridiculous concept.

Maybe they won't be a regular with YOU,  but many/most guys who have a lot of okays do have their favorites that they see over and over again. Even a guy like me who's "number" is well up in the thousands, even I have favorites that I will see dozens or even hundreds of times, all the while seeing other women at the same time. Now that does mean that there are a lot of women that I will see only once, but that doesn't preclude me having regulars as well. Just because they don't come back to see you doesn't meant they aren't coming back to see many of the other women that they see.

I feel like there's a difference from my perspective.  I'm not speaking for all providers; I'm speaking for myself and those similar to me.  So while a man with many okays is likely to see some particular providers on a regular basis, often times this doesn't include me.  Does that make better sense?  I'll admit that I realized that a lot of this is due to me doing mostly outcalls (usually to business travelers) and having infrequent incalls (which causes locals to find someone more accessible).

As a guy, I do kind of understand her logic as I'm very similar as a client. I have one review here, could be a few more but they asked not to be reviewed so I respect/respected there wishes.  

I am a low volume client even though I have to travel. I have a favorite regular but like to expand a little. Meaning that when I book with someone and find a connection, comfort zone, I will pretty much lock in as a regular client and continue seeing these only. So it does effect my Okays a lot. When I'm comfortable who those I see, I just don't tend to feel the need to keep branching out. It's more than just being called a Regular to me, there is a reason I lock the way I do.  

That's not to knock anyone who has many okays, many regulars, or different weekly, etc... To each their own. Everyone is an adult. Just me...

As for marriage, $75,000 barely pays for a wedding, much less a divorce. As a gambler I know when the odds are against me, I don't see any marriages in this gamblers future.

I only heard one provider say that a guy with over 100 OK's had TOO many saying, "Who does that ...?"
 
She saw him anyway AND she had (she's gone) over 150 TER reviews herself at that time. So my thought is,  
it does not matter.

Tall woman? I don't have that one on my list ... oh that's right, I don't have a list.

Did she tell you how many guys she's seen in the last 5 years?

I reached out to a provider on the OK site and she said that we were NOT a good fit and wished me luck finding the right "one(s)

Since she reviewed my ok's, I assumed the right "one(s)" remark was a passive-aggressive shot at the number of my OK's.which wasn't that high ... I thought, but apparently this provider viewed me as a collector of sorts.  

She also had a strict NO REVIEW policy in her ad so my TER stuff in my profile might have sunk me. It's popular to be a hater these days it seems.

Hookers sale themselves.Guys paid to gey lucky.

the last paragraph. Even though I'm low volume, I know once I reach that inevitable 100 reviews it'll be downhill from there I like to receive a review every so often so that I'm seen as relevant while still keeping my number of reviews relatively low so as not to scare off any potential clients

I personally don't care if you 600+ plus reviews all it lets me know is your safe ( with a reference's check, more options who will respond quicker ) you're experienced and I can get more info about you, I want to know more about I am seeing.  

I don't think about the client being a regular because if you're looks and service are on point, he will be back. Simple.  

JessicaJordan

Update: I actually heard back from Miss BSC and in addition to having too many OK's (27), she bitched about my TER stuff (she is a no review provider) Well now I see why she was so bitter in her email to me because in addition to being BSC, she is also a raging BITCH. I can't say her name here because I'm guessing she's one of those slick, TER-hating providers who got herself delisted so she can't ever be talked about on TER, but PM me and if you're a Carolinian hobbyist I might give you her info.

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You're new at this ain't ya? Nobody pays much attention to Anonymous Blacklists. Anyone, including douche bags here (like you) can blacklist another person and they do it just like they make passive aggressive comments under an alias here. Yes I still mean you. Providers know BS when they see it and more importantly they talk among themselves. Grow a pair and then come back.

Damn those ladies who don't like incriminating info posted on a public website for all to see! Where do those whores get off! *humph!*

I'd think it's a matter of personal opinion. Can a girl sleep with too many men? 😎

Personally, the hobby is something I enjoy and make a good living from, so if a guy who wants to see me has 600 okays, that is fine with me so long as he has the cash and has the right attitude from initial contact on. If he turns out to be a jerk, I don't care if he offers me a planet, I would kindly suggest that he finds #601 elsewhere.