Posted By: mongo19621954
I think that your definition applies to the use of drama rather than drama itself. In my opinion, drama by itself is not necessarily a bad thing. It can be quite entertaining. The example cited in the OP could be educational, entertaining or manipulative depending upon context.
Drama must have protagonist(s) and antagonist(s) and it must be presented to an audience. If there is no conflict, there is no drama. If there is no audience, there is no drama.
In terms of "the hobby", drama can be manipulative, educational or simply entertaining depending upon the context. As an example of manipulative drama in the hobby, a tale of woe (imaginary or not) can be used for a provider to ask for money from a client outside of their professional relationship. The classic is "come bail me out". As an entertaining example in the hobby, any decent role play must have a dramatic element; the naughty schoolgirl must have done something to deserve being sent to the principal.
Good one! In the "Psychological" point of view,
Drama queen implies it’s a girly thing. It’s not. Males and females alike are equally capable of requiring way more energy than a relationship with them is worth.
Drama, being a close kin to high maintenance, may manifest itself in behaviors that look different across the continuum of masculinity to femininity, but make no mistake, drama kings are every bit as real as drama queens. So for the purposes of this piece, we’ll be talking, “drama persons.” From there the issue is, what do you do with such people????
Perhaps nothing. But it is a conscious, deliberate and strategic nothing that nets the most impact.
Drama is a symptom*a symptom of childhood. If you participate—on any level—you feed a monster who is trapped in a time warp, but escapes every so often. That monster is determined to suck you into his or her own personal, self-esteem issues (a.k.a. drama) that were never resolved. It is an ego-gone-wild, trying to right some wrong that you need to see contextually with its origins rooted in the past.
Drama persons thrive on attention! Hello!!! because they learned to feel invisible and unimportant. This is where the drama comes from. They are merely trying to convince themselves, by trying to convince you, that they matter. They are blind to the feelings of others and have failed to develop the coping skills necessary for an adult life. Call it arrested development, call it a failure to grow up and evolve, but underneath it all they have yet to outgrow (or dispel) whatever negative feelings they learned to believe about themselves. The sad part is that if their behavior weren’t such a turnoff, there would be plenty of reason to have compassion for them, which ironically is what they really need to heal their wounds and move one.
