I've noticed something disturbing lately, and was hoping some of you would weigh in on your experiences.

and not to suck up here, but you are rather hot.

Speaking for myself, I can't imagine pestering a woman for her number once turned down. That's not "having game" or even "being persistent" that's being an ass, and I mean that in the "not good" way.

My board persona aside, I am not really the type to simply "hit on" an unsuspecting woman, I am the type that needs at least some kind of encouragement so your manner of dress would be immaterial to me. As for your safety, I would simply suggest you stay on well lit, well traveled streets, and be polite but firm. I wish I had better advice for you.

is a guy hits on you and ya politely decline and not at all a bitch and he then calls you a bitch because you have just rejected his advances.

the attention before you pop out some kids and get fat . then you"ll be begging men to ask for your number. you weren't in a scary situation , you made it a scary one ..and if your still scared , next time tell him to whip it out balls and all  right there , and yank it hard and squeeze his golf balls  . bet everyones gonna look at your pics now ( wink wink ) creative post 9/9 ..  

this world is full of depraved degenerate fucks..only the sane ones hobby..

At least the murder rate went down in the big Apple since I left.  
I felt that people are a bit more aggressive there and have that stereotypical New York attitude.  Can't you tell from Nicky's posts??  

Avoiding eye contact, especially looking to the side or down, shows insecurity or not 100% assertive or confrontational. When someone is dangerous, make sure they know you know exactly what their face looks like when interacting with them.

I look at it as men appreciating beauty, i doubt they would rape me right there and then so usually i would stop regardless of who they are (rarely scary people). I give them my full attention to say whatever, depending on how aggressive they are which is never beyond normal i'll tell them next time  for my number or if i don't want to be bothered i would lie that i am married. I love NY the attention, the energy, the people etc..  Every so often to make them not feel so rejected i will give the gentleman a hug depends on how clean he is before i walk away. You never know, a simple act of kindness could make someone's day..

your waiting for the short bus and the rest of jerrys kids and move on to the next piece of hot ass and the op definitely has a hot ass .. yummy ... so all you ladies who feel " scared and threatened " and don't want cock right at that moment ...ridiculous .. just praise the lord .........rotfflmao as so should you .....................

yeah I couldn't wait to get the fuck outta there either .. to fucking expensive , but I enjoy visiting from time to time so I enjoy it now .

Posted By: Drunken Asian

At least the murder rate went down in the big Apple since I left.  
 I felt that people are a bit more aggressive there and have that stereotypical New York attitude.  Can't you tell from Nicky's posts??  
   
 I generally don't hit on random girls cuz that's just not how I roll, not to mention that randomly hitting on girls on the street never really worked for me. They are mostly defensive and I found it easier to make it look like I'm NOT hitting on them and simply looking for direction help or something like that. lol  
   
 If the girl I met at some public event shows some interest,  then I'll proceed but even I don't like to be bothered when I'm just walking down the street minding my own damn business.    
   
 I assume any girl hitting on me in NYC or pretty much any Street in any city would probably be a street walker or an undercover LE.  lol

Bitches be crazy..

the one chasing guys around giving out your number and asking them to marry you . rotfflmao oh zoe /eve/? ... your competitions isn't she , and she only has one name ..rotfflamo and you should be too..................................................

That's the total opposite of what I've always done.  I always try to avoid escalating the situation, especially if the guy looks a little crazy.  But maybe you're right-- be more assertive instead of non-confrontational....

And yet I sometimes drive there to see touring girls instead of seeing local girls.  lolol  

Scat play all the rage in NYC right now. She does that, she might have a line around the fkin block.

If it was a good looking businessman, I wouldn't be complaining (lol).  Crackheads and thugs, however, are not!

wrong with my idea ? it works , ka ..  

not talking about the girls talking about the city itself .. but the over priced venue in the country since you bought it up  
 

Posted By: Drunken Asian

And yet I sometimes drive there to see touring girls instead of seeing local girls.  lolol  
   
 Hi my name is DA.  I'm a moron.    
   
 They were very very hot though and worth it.  I wouldn't have been able to see them otherwise cuz they weren't touring my town any time soon.  

I don't think I could assault anyone but that's funny.  Reminds me of one of my girlfriends who has a patented "bitch face".  She can turn it off and on as needed, and it seems to deter people from coming up to her in the first place.

Would have every masochist lining up too? Hmm maybe another business opp.  

I am not boasting but usually when i walk in to a room, restaurant, event etc.. 50% of the room turns around to look and to make it worse some  will even whisper  to their company and they too will turn immediately like something just happened.. I am not as Beautiful as they may think i am, I am CONFIDENT in my own skin and with my look and I dress elegantly to the nines; with short hair it makes it worse/better.  

You're not a woman.  How can you tell me what's a scary situation and what's not?  

Just make sure you buy a drape big enough to cover you both. If such a thing actually exists.

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Not because women are throwing themselves at me because of my looks or anything of the like, but because I spend a lot of time at places like the Del Rey where the women are the aggressors because of our huge gringo "wallets" (credit to Inicky)

but that's where the similarities end, I am never in any fear from any of these women, unless of course you walk around the park where the trannies hang out, but only fools do that, so I can't say that I can really relate to what you are going through, nor can any man I would imagine.

Send me to the website that you get those giant paper bags you take to a session, you know the one you put on and the one you give to the hooker in case yours falls off.  

I heard you usually trip on purpose and cause a scene in a desperate cry for attention .  

You could say that she is my competition, however, in life there is always going to be someone better or worse than you, rich or poor than you and so forth. It should never be a competition but rather pay compliments and an appreciation where its due. She stunningly beautiful, skinny, classy and so much fun in bed.. ( no i haven't had the pleasure) but i am sure she is. And i need to mention a very sweet REAL woman.

By the way, you are rocking that hair style and it fits you well!  

Where you have more concentrated date as and are among many people you will surely get hit on. I get hit on alit when I am hopping on a train at Union Station! Lol.. Or anytime going out for the night. It is getting warmer out so expect to be hit on even more!!

I am from Greece and lived there on and off growing up. The guys there are pretty aggressive. But the men on Italy and France are also VERY forward. They will follow you all the way to your house!!

Not to say it can't happen and you're hot enough to make it believable.  But it's not really common, to my knowledge.

Hit a full on leather and bear gay bar or any gay bar for that matter. Yeah a lesson in what not to do to women because you will find out fast what it like to be the recipient of unwanted attention aggressively metered out. And these men are just like any other man, "no might mean yes if I persist long enough and wear him down".

Dam, I would carry a tazer.

Let's face it. The percentage of women who look as good as those here is pretty small. If you're showing some lecherous jerk a friendly or even just a neutral expression, your chances of being hit upon are much higher than average.  

I lived in NYC for about five years.  One time, there was one day, when I really needed a new kitchen knife.   So, I bought one at a Brooklyn bodega.  I had been living on Bushwick Avenue for years, at this point, so I felt comfortable doing this.  I seriously wondered; how would people treat me differently, if I walked on my "stomping grounds" with the appearance of being armed ?  I am kind of like a spontaneous anthropologist, with my attitude towards life ...  I am like NUDE MARGARET MEAD or something like that !!!  Anyway, I was walking down Bushwick Avenue in Brooklyn + I was trying to maintain a neutral poker face + I was carrying a giant knife out where you could see it ... GUYS STILL STOPPED TO OFFER ME THEIR PHONE NUMBERS !!!  IT WAS INSANE !!!

On serious note - we just learn to deal with it  Like we deal with morning Battle For Seat on subways, 2h lines in Starbucks and shoe box sized apartments

DC guys hit on you?  lol

I can't remember the whole thing, but the funny part is when he talks about guys saying all a lesbian needs is a "real" man to turn her. He turns this logic around by wondering aloud then is that case all a straight guy needs is a "real" man for him to want to start taking it up the ass.

and yes I have been in a few gay bars and got the "creep factor" but I am sure that it's not the same as what a woman goes through because although there might have been a couple of guys who outweighed me by a hundred pounds or so, I've never been worried about one of them trying to "take me" by force. Maybe I am just not cute enough? lol

is my favorite follow up line to be used when he doesn't let up after the first "no". You must put your bitchface on for this.

So I'm walking out of my hotel to a sushi Restraunt which wasn't close but I'm from a walking city so the distance was not a prob...... As I'm walking, a car on the other side of the street screams "Hey baby" ... I just ignore & keep walking... Then they proceed to drive up next to me yelling out, what up baby, etc etc... I still ignore .... Finally got fed up & was like: why r u bothering me.. I'm not interested... Then they started their bipolar attitude into "you think your to good to speak to us"... Finally so fed up I yelled: Go FUCK YOURSELF & some other profanity I will not mention on here.. Then I'm called a Bitch & a Racist.... I'm thinking WTF!!!   What gives anyone the right to harass?  I don't have a sign that say: hey holler at me!!!  

Actually, your subject should read, "We men lack self control, so it's going to happen."

is on google (212-479-7990. The official New York Rejection Line!)  
I just called to make sure it's functioning. Yup, indeed. This is how I go about a renlentless asshole who won't hear "No."  

It's the attitudes like that that really bother me. We're bitches when we say no; they are victims for getting rejected. Fuck that noise, seriously. It's an entitlement attitude that also perpetuates rape culture.

They can see intimidation, so using the energy to intimidate back is much better than showing in just standing there looking away.  

Either way,  I'm guessing Lila being hot had a lot more to do with it too.

I would lol. I've done it with ghetto clients when I was clueless about screening... (And so was the BP agency I worked for...)

The fault NEVER lies with the victim of sexual harassment/unwanted sexual advances (or worse). The fault lies with the perpetrator every.single.time. People are responsible for their own actions. A woman is not "asking for it" by what she wears, how much she drinks, where she walks, how beautiful she is, how she dances. Never.

In Texas, everyone has a gun, but the problem with getting one for protection is that you've got to be prepared to use it.  Or someone will take it from you and use it on you.  

With their canes, handbags, high heels, anything they can grab...

And depending on who you want to discuss that with...there is a very different version of that.

you're still more likely than most women to be bothered. Excuse me if I phrased it in a "you're asking for it" sort of way, which I didn't think I did.

I get that a lot from people. I just say, "well, if it's so easy to take a gun from somebody, I'll just take it right back."

No, you didn't. I'm sorry, Springer. It's a touchy subject for me. I've had girlfriends get blamed for being victims of sexual harassment and sexual assault.

Problem solved.

No wonder this country has the highest murder rate in the world.

Posted By: StinaValentine

Problem solved.

I should have been more clear. I didn't mean shoot him for sexual harassment. I meant if one is being attacked.

Posted By: ChgoCPA

No wonder this country has the highest murder rate in the world.  
   
 You're a genius...but I'll bet you wouldn't pull that trigger either...or if you do how will you be able to post on TER from the Big House?    
   
 I guess you'd throw out the "self defense" as your reasoning.  Yep...shooting an unarmed person in broad daylight...self defense  LOL  
   
 I needed a good laugh today...thanks    
   

Posted By: StinaValentine

Problem solved.

Shooting someone (especially at close range) who is simply asking for a phone number over and over isn't threatening whatsoever (as in doing you bodily harm).  If you want to tell me the assailant is chasing you down, brandishing a weapon (of some sort...maybe his cock?) and verbally threatening you (with hopefully some witnesses to corroborate your story) then perhaps I can see you pulling out a gun and firing a warning shot...and if he still doesn't want to back down...then take his leg(s) out.

Posted By: StinaValentine

I should have been more clear. I didn't mean shoot him for sexual harassment. I meant if one is being attacked.  
   
 In her state and my state, the attacker doesn't have to be armed. The victim has to be in fear for their life.  
   

Posted By: ChgoCPA

No wonder this country has the highest murder rate in the world.  
     
  You're a genius...but I'll bet you wouldn't pull that trigger either...or if you do how will you be able to post on TER from the Big House?    
     
  I guess you'd throw out the "self defense" as your reasoning.  Yep...shooting an unarmed person in broad daylight...self defense  LOL  
     
  I needed a good laugh today...thanks    
     

Posted By: StinaValentine

Problem solved.

People are busy and self-absorbed but generally helpful to tourists.  Why do you think so many people come to visit?
And, yes, Lila's hotness factor must have had something to do with it.  But why assume the guy lived in NY?  Maybe he was a tourist from Cleveland.

Not in Illinois, but in Texas and Georgia you can shoot someone if you are in fear for your life. There's more to it than that. But, the person being shot at does not have to be armed for the shooter to be justified.

Posted By: ChgoCPA

Shooting someone (especially at close range) who is simply asking for a phone number over and over isn't threatening whatsoever (as in doing you bodily harm).  If you want to tell me the assailant is chasing you down, brandishing a weapon (of some sort...maybe his cock?) and verbally threatening you (with hopefully some witnesses to corroborate your story) then perhaps I can see you pulling out a gun and firing a warning shot...and if he still doesn't want to back down...then take his leg(s) out.  
   
 Otherwise I can't see how a judge/jury won't find you guilty of murder.  But at least you'd be allowed a trial to prove otherwise.  And that dude who just wanted a phone number is dead...he won't be testifying.  Good call on that  
   

Posted By: StinaValentine

I should have been more clear. I didn't mean shoot him for sexual harassment. I meant if one is being attacked.  
     
  In her state and my state, the attacker doesn't have to be armed. The victim has to be in fear for their life.  
     

Posted By: ChgoCPA

No wonder this country has the highest murder rate in the world.    
       
   You're a genius...but I'll bet you wouldn't pull that trigger either...or if you do how will you be able to post on TER from the Big House?      
       
   I guess you'd throw out the "self defense" as your reasoning.  Yep...shooting an unarmed person in broad daylight...self defense  LOL    
       
   I needed a good laugh today...thanks      
       
   

Posted By: StinaValentine

Problem solved.

1 Sam 21. I did get the details mixed up, but oh well lol. It got him out of a bad situation lol.

Because you will have a rude awakening with your rudimentary understanding of how the law actually works.

Posted By: StinaValentine

Not in Illinois, but in Texas and Georgia you can shoot someone if you are in fear for your life. There's more to it than that. But, the person being shot at does not have to be armed for the shooter to be justified.  
   
 And, I did clarify. Not for sexual harassment or asking for a phone number.  
   

Posted By: ChgoCPA

Shooting someone (especially at close range) who is simply asking for a phone number over and over isn't threatening whatsoever (as in doing you bodily harm).  If you want to tell me the assailant is chasing you down, brandishing a weapon (of some sort...maybe his cock?) and verbally threatening you (with hopefully some witnesses to corroborate your story) then perhaps I can see you pulling out a gun and firing a warning shot...and if he still doesn't want to back down...then take his leg(s) out.  
     
  Otherwise I can't see how a judge/jury won't find you guilty of murder.  But at least you'd be allowed a trial to prove otherwise.  And that dude who just wanted a phone number is dead...he won't be testifying.  Good call on that  
     

Posted By: StinaValentine

I should have been more clear. I didn't mean shoot him for sexual harassment. I meant if one is being attacked.    
       
   In her state and my state, the attacker doesn't have to be armed. The victim has to be in fear for their life.    
       
   

Posted By: ChgoCPA

No wonder this country has the highest murder rate in the world.    
         
    You're a genius...but I'll bet you wouldn't pull that trigger either...or if you do how will you be able to post on TER from the Big House?      
         
    I guess you'd throw out the "self defense" as your reasoning.  Yep...shooting an unarmed person in broad daylight...self defense  LOL    
         
    I needed a good laugh today...thanks      
         
   

Posted By: StinaValentine

Problem solved.

Chances are while one of ya was feeling violated, I snuck up and took your taxi you hailed.
Then, when you knocked on the window to complain, I flipped you off and told ya to go back to Kansas (or Texas).  

Deadly force cases hinge on the DA or the jury's willingness to believe that the person attacked was in fear of great bodily injury. The bodily injury does not need to happen.

I said Gentlemen!

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The victim doesn't need any net worth to "go after" you, but there is no sense in going after someone who is broke themselves. You can't spend a judgment unless you can collect on it.

Aside from that, you and Stina are correct, at least as the law is written and enforced in both Georgia and Texas, I wouldn't advise testing this theory up north though. In places like NYC you could be getting gang raped by a dozen armed thugs and still be likely to face charges if you used deadly force to defend yourself, but at least you would be alive

I wish it was okay to carry a fake detective badge to flash with some of these parasites. Or it might get ya shot depending on their views of cops. It just amazes me how these douchy dickwads yell at a lady, she is not interested and they call her a bitch.  

GaGambler, I'm from the north, Wisconsin to be exact. I spent several years heading a group lobbying for shall-issue concealed carry laws. As such, I had to do a lot of research, and keep track of defensive "civilian" (I hate that term) shootings.

I am thankful that I have spent most of my adult life in the South where the guns laws at least make a lot more sense.

I assume you are an NRA member which would mean that you must be very familiar with the town I used to live in, Kennesaw, Georgia where they still have a law on the books "requiring" citizens to own a firearm. I can't speak for the entire city, but my neighborhood was a rather safe one. I won't claim cause and effect but..........