Just wondering what responses the ladies give when they meet someone they like in the non-hobby world and would like to go on a date with them.  

They usually take the hint.

And you would be "dating" and taking 3 large bills to do so as well so stop your damn belly aching. lol. Last time I spoke with you, Mr Hetero, you were touting your happy gay side. lol.

Back-in- front can't get a real date without paying for it.

And, wanting that cash BEFORE you even go to dinner with him.

Ok, that guy proly wasnt CPA. I mean I dont THINK it was him. lol. Did he look like Danny from Full House? lol. Ok, to be serious, you had an egotistical jerk wad. (Are you SURE it wasnt CPA? lol)  

If not, then my answer is something along the lines of "sorry, we're not compatible."  

relationship with a wonderful man for years... we have a daughter... and no he is not ugly, he is quite handsome

Then you are doing pretty good. I thought most civie guys would have a hard time accepting that their girl friend was a "hooker" (no disrespect to you by the terminology). that it would be necessary to "lie" about what you do - of course that then creates a whole series of deceptions which ultimately he will find out the truth and would hurt him enough to leave. So I guess honesty upfront is the best policy.
(of course maybe some guys are flattered at the prospect of "dating" someone for "free" that others guy have to pay to date - so it may make you more attractive to them?)

but learned that work was work.

My calendar honey to see when I'll n a town close to you haha.

You mean he "tolerates" it right? If he "accepts" it, he wouldnt want you to quit. Or Caitlyn do you think I am mistating it? I am not busting on you at all mind you, just interested in how you/your guy deals with you and the biz. I know it can be difficult.

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This is hilarious, because when you posted that I actually was working bwahahahaha. I know...shocker! Not a bad week thus far lol

he has learned to understand the difference between work and love  

found that the only guys I attracted were men just looking for sex.... not a relationship...  

I actually use to have business cards, & when asked out, would hand them a business card(this was 5+ years ago)... most got the hint, but a few would actually still call wanting to go out on a "real" date. Now, I'm rarely ever in situations where I'll be asked out... unless it happens at the grocery store, oil change/car repair, or running other various mundane errands...which most guys won't approach you to ask you out or strike up a conversation when your with your kids(they are a detractor usually!).  

I had a provider tell me that for hobbyists, obviously she required condoms, but for boyfriends, they were allowed bareback...and that makes a certain amount of sense, depending on the sense of trust or not one had with a significant other...What was your policy? How did you justify it? Did you come to regret it or not?

use condoms for Clients, and CIVVIE sex, was condom free... I definitely regretted it...  

I can't count the number of providers who insist they NEVER have unprotected sex, yet they are raising three kids. lol

I had a "condom free" relationship with a provider a few years back that I felt safer with than any civvy woman I had ever dated. She worked at one of the legal brothels outside Reno and was tested every time before coming to work and again afterwards. By coming to work I of course don't mean each time she had sex, she would work for a couple of weeks and then come home for a week or so of vacation. Needless to say, I slept quite well at night where it came to worrying about any chance of catching an STD.

or exproviders, I think they would disagree as well.

People love to use these broad, sweeping generalizations about the hobby. I think it's a defense mechanism for when:

a provider won't see them off the clock

an asian provider claims she "can't" date

or she tells him any of the other excuses he list's here.

I know a lot of the reason asian sex workers are labeled sex slaves is that many of the girls in order to chase off guys they aren't interested in either claim not to speak english, or say they will get in trouble with the mamasan if they give out their own telephone number. I have known probably at least a couple of hundred asian providers on a personal level of some kind and probably half of them had a boyfriend.

that they always had protected CIVVIE sex before this profession, I would have to call their bluff...  

that even after decades of P4P the only STD's they have ever caught have been from civvie's, not pros.

But I had been hurt and burnt and used with EVERY single guy I was honest with, and so when I met my bf, I was just on rebound, and thought he was not my type anyways, so I figured, lets test the theory of not telling the guy at first...