Need advice/opinions of those with experience with longer term arrangements. I have been seeing the same provider twice a month for the last 8 months or so and always have a great time with her. She has always been professional (on-time, communicates well, etc.). Here's the thing. In our last session she left a little before our time was actually up and she had never done that before. I didn't think much of it until this week. We had a session scheduled for Wednesday and late last week she contacts me and asks if we can change it to Tuesday instead. It's OK with me - I'm retired and flexible so we schedule for today instead. Today, a few hours before we are suppose to meet she contacts me and asks if we can move it back to tomorrow because she just has too much to do today. I agree but in the back of my mind I'm questioning if I'm being too accommodating to her schedule and if she is starting to take my "patronage" for granted.

Regulars. Here's how I look at it and it works for me. I care about their financial well being so I try to make sure I see them "when no other business is available to them". For that, I get great GFE & sometimes extra services. But, the difference is I  communicated with them that this is OK. So I don't mind if they blow me off, becuase they always blow me off when they see me.

I had seen a providers for about a dozen times (basically whenever she visited DC). It was great the first half dozen times but then her services began to slip. I think I waited too long before I finally confronted her. She got defensive of course, and things were never the same afterwards. I stopped seeing her after one more visit.

when it suits you and inflexible when it does not suit you. That is exactly what she is doing. You may be able to be flexible, but clearly it is a concern for you that is unsuitable in this case. Bet she has a "timewasters" statement of some sort on her website. Turnabout is fair play - timewasters (of either sort) get put on the DNS list. Only you can decide when things have hit that point for you.  

I saw a Fav lady...  one of my first...  monthly (more or less) for the first year...  then she started taking short cuts & rushing.  I took a year off from her (she thought I was never coming back) & found a couple more Favs.  I went back to her but only in a loose rotation with other Favs.  She had begun rushing & shortcutting and cutting out services I expected to be included in her bonus rate (I bumped it up in the past & if I went back to her original rate, I'm sure she'd be furious...  but that's where the services are now.)  I have just ended it...  after 6 years...  because she went ballistic on me for a misunderstanding which was mostly her fault & lack of communication on her part.  I'm going to miss her, but "know when to fold 'em, know when to walk away..."
It is pleasant to have Favorites who we get to "know" some...  but I will never go "exclusive" with one gal...  remember she's not being exclusive with you!

The sooner you realize that the better.  This whole "ATF" thing should be replaced by "ATM" in all mongers minds and things would be better for both parties. I plead guilty to the same thinking. As has been said many times. For a reality check just ask for some "OTC" time and you will understand where things really are. Been there. Done that. And it works!

You feel taken advantage of. You can't keep your schedule open at all times just in case she reschedules. Even if it is open, I think you feel you need to put your foot down.

How many times are you going to tell that story?

The thing that irks me is how after a few times the gal seems more interested in just hanging out and talking rather than activities.  

I just stop seeing them for a while and then when I finally do see them again after several months, I find that there service has gone back to the original get-up-and-go.

Try that and see how it works.

By the way, up in New Hampshire, the Old Man in the Mountain was taken for granite and look what happened to him:

I agree with Fisher. My reg. was outstanding then suddenly we where pressed for time for a second round because we spent the entire time talking. I am more than happy to be sociable but if that is what they want they should allow more time for their regular proven clients. I won't give up on her but I have found somebody else too see for now.

favorite girls to see.. its that simple ...and shell miss your $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$ ....

And you're allowing it.

The same stories over and over and over.

...out of your time.  "The Old Man" - very punny, mrf.

I bet you girls wish we all did .......

Posted By: RobbinYoung

"Communication - the human connection - is the key to personal and career success."  
 -Paul J. Meyer  
   
 Tell her your feelings = communicate.  
   

Posted By: B9TAG

Need advice/opinions of those with experience with longer term arrangements. I have been seeing the same provider twice a month for the last 8 months or so and always have a great time with her. She has always been professional (on-time, communicates well, etc.). Here's the thing. In our last session she left a little before our time was actually up and she had never done that before. I didn't think much of it until this week. We had a session scheduled for Wednesday and late last week she contacts me and asks if we can change it to Tuesday instead. It's OK with me - I'm retired and flexible so we schedule for today instead. Today, a few hours before we are suppose to meet she contacts me and asks if we can move it back to tomorrow because she just has too much to do today. I agree but in the back of my mind I'm questioning if I'm being too accommodating to her schedule and if she is starting to take my "patronage" for granted.  
     
  Just need opinions and some advice from others on how to maintain this type of arrangement over the long term so that we both continue to get what we want/need out of it while respecting the expectations of the other. Who knows maybe it is just a one off and she just has an unusually hectic week and everything goes back to normal tomorrow.

Ditch the bitch. Eight months is a long time. The thrill will soon be gone. Congratulations on finding a lady that you like that much. Remember, love ain't on the menu.

Dear Ms. Young:
I was just wondering if you ever had a long term client? If you did, whether it was you or him, went did you know it might be time to go your separate ways? Also when did you know or him when he wasn't starting to compartmentalize his feelings in a way that was consistent and if there was a point in which Familiarity brought comtempt? Please feel free to share any professional experiences that would indicate such.

Consider asking if everything is OK? You ask because of the reasons you stated. If you do ask, and you ask without implying anything, ignoring your feeling of being taken for granted, you will gain more information which may help you grasp the situation better.

you should always let performance for your dollar dictate your choices -  

I have dudes that I have been seeing for years..12 in fact every week. Yep I am not shitting anyone. They get extra time actually double for an hourly rate.

With one client and he is AMAZING and fun and I love hanging with him and I have met his family and he has met my SO when I had one. We are true friends and always will be and I can say I truly love this man and he loves me.

it is more like having another lover who compensates you -

robbin i think your mojo is working on me ....yes

I have feelings and I cant hide it anymore , its a longing and its below the gut ...... .. oh no im good its just a boner your words made me hottttt....xoxo ..thanks robbin detention was fun ..I thought about you ...xoxo. .you got me through it ...

Posted By: RobbinYoung

Hi Black_In_Black, and welcome back!    
   
 I know it's hard to admit but ALL men have "FEELINGS" and why they enjoy spending time with providers.  Connecting mentally and physically is an amazing thing, and brings us ALL pleasure.  If men just wanted sex, they'd go to a Glory Hole.    
   

Posted By: Back_In_Black

I bet you girls wish we all did .......  
     

Posted By: RobbinYoung

"Communication - the human connection - is the key to personal and career success."    
   -Paul J. Meyer    
       
   Tell her your feelings = communicate.    
       
   

Posted By: B9TAG

Need advice/opinions of those with experience with longer term arrangements. I have been seeing the same provider twice a month for the last 8 months or so and always have a great time with her. She has always been professional (on-time, communicates well, etc.). Here's the thing. In our last session she left a little before our time was actually up and she had never done that before. I didn't think much of it until this week. We had a session scheduled for Wednesday and late last week she contacts me and asks if we can change it to Tuesday instead. It's OK with me - I'm retired and flexible so we schedule for today instead. Today, a few hours before we are suppose to meet she contacts me and asks if we can move it back to tomorrow because she just has too much to do today. I agree but in the back of my mind I'm questioning if I'm being too accommodating to her schedule and if she is starting to take my "patronage" for granted.    
         
    Just need opinions and some advice from others on how to maintain this type of arrangement over the long term so that we both continue to get what we want/need out of it while respecting the expectations of the other. Who knows maybe it is just a one off and she just has an unusually hectic week and everything goes back to normal tomorrow.

Re: You are right..it is different and I do get your drift... .e

Damn. Superwoman. Let me guess. Northeast to DC corridor?  Late 20's to mid 30's. Smart. Hot. Sophisticated

What do these friendships consist of? You like the same music? The same comedians? Same political views?

My guess is that the Provider I'm seeing does not. She never has rescheduled our meetings. I can usually see her anytime I want.  

Thanks everyone for replying. I appreciate all the feedback. At a minimum I do think we need to have a conversation concerning my expectations of her and her expectations of me going forward and see were that leads. I probably just needed to vent a little bit in the moment and hear from others what I already knew.

A quick scan usu tells if there is anything interesting at all to comment on.

Then step away and come back later.

Like how much they wan't Johnny's cock. Sounds more like an overcompensation, these ladies probably don't actually like men at all.

trying to take advantage of you.

all you have to do is not contact her for a while. not to say what a great client she 'll be missing if she doesn't see YOU but  that's how businesses learn to respond to the market.

I'd just avoid her. this (hobby) has to be easy if it get's hard or complicated, I'm out!

enjoy your weekend babe ..... xoxo and thank you ..EOM

think u can rock my world ...hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm ...)..

Posted By: RobbinYoung

LOL, Back_In_Black, love you!  
   

Posted By: Back_In_Black

I have feelings and I cant hide it anymore , its a longing and its below the gut ...... .. oh no im good its just a boner your words made me hottttt....xoxo ..thanks robbin detention was fun ..I thought about you ...xoxo. .you got me through it ...  
     

Posted By: RobbinYoung

Hi Black_In_Black, and welcome back!      
       
   I know it's hard to admit but ALL men have "FEELINGS" and why they enjoy spending time with providers.  Connecting mentally and physically is an amazing thing, and brings us ALL pleasure.  If men just wanted sex, they'd go to a Glory Hole.      
       
   

Posted By: Back_In_Black

I bet you girls wish we all did .......    
         
   

Posted By: RobbinYoung

"Communication - the human connection - is the key to personal and career success."      
     -Paul J. Meyer      
           
     Tell her your feelings = communicate.      
           
     

Posted By: B9TAG

Need advice/opinions of those with experience with longer term arrangements. I have been seeing the same provider twice a month for the last 8 months or so and always have a great time with her. She has always been professional (on-time, communicates well, etc.). Here's the thing. In our last session she left a little before our time was actually up and she had never done that before. I didn't think much of it until this week. We had a session scheduled for Wednesday and late last week she contacts me and asks if we can change it to Tuesday instead. It's OK with me - I'm retired and flexible so we schedule for today instead. Today, a few hours before we are suppose to meet she contacts me and asks if we can move it back to tomorrow because she just has too much to do today. I agree but in the back of my mind I'm questioning if I'm being too accommodating to her schedule and if she is starting to take my "patronage" for granted.      
             
      Just need opinions and some advice from others on how to maintain this type of arrangement over the long term so that we both continue to get what we want/need out of it while respecting the expectations of the other. Who knows maybe it is just a one off and she just has an unusually hectic week and everything goes back to normal tomorrow.

She has something going on in her life that is causing a time crunch or issue.  It may be personal and not something she feels comfortable sharing

How do you arrange this?