Duh, it would seem as if that is an obvious answer being all we can talk about on a fk board is sex, but I feel kind of odd that I am not about all things sexual like the majority of people here. I don't watch porn, don't really masturbate, don't fk guys for free, don't swing/go to strip and swinger's clubs, and really don't work that much as a provider.
Am I the only one who is NOT focused on sex most of the time? Can't be lol.I think about what it would be like to bang you so it is partly your fault I am so depraved lol.
A friend and I were talking and I said to him, "psychiatric studies show that men think about sex every 10 seconds" he looked at me and said "if not more" lol
Am I the only one who is NOT focused on sex most of the time? Can't be lol.
I don't think about sex every 10 seconds. But, that's only because I'm not done with the last time I thought about it to start again in only 10. I like to take my time and warm up the object of my imaginary tryst. How else will she have multiple Os? No, it's more like every 25-30 seconds for me.
:p Heh
Am I the only one who is NOT focused on sex most of the time? Can't be lol.
My life for certain does not revolve around sex. BUT when I see a beautiful woman who fits exactly what I am after I become pretty consumed with the notion of potentially meeting that person in an encounter. I have learned over the years that the truly outstanding women both in terms of looks and performance I highly regarded and often unavailable unless you know ahead of time when they are coming. Aside from sex throw a fast car in front of me and I most likely would opt to drive the car for 2 hours first then grab the girl
I think if we are overly obsessed with anything it is a bad thing balance is important from sex to work etc etc. With that said I am off to go get some porn LOL... JK
And London what is the deal with your site would love to see what a 10 and 10 looks like in person!
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Hell, I'm making up for lost time during two marriages that ended up sexless. So I spend a fair amount of time planning my next exploits. If you're serious about having a good experience you need to do your homework. It's fun anyway, but the result is I've rarely not had a great time.
Of course there's more, but that ain't anybody's business.
Then I'm horny and/or see something that makes me think "I feel like getting laid". Lets face it, sex is fun, exciting, pleasurable, etc.
and how most of my friends act....I don't feel very sexual at all.
I hardly ever focus on sex, although I do think about sex a lot. I feel as if I have control over my sexuality...if that makes sense?
Yes, that's more what I was hinting at, I suppose. Sometimes you think people in our business are just a bunch of animals who will do anything to get off, and that is so rarely the case with those I am close with. Most every provider I know has either a full time job, or is going to school...if not both. They spend time with friends and family in (square) surroundings, none of which have anything to do with sex.
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No, they are a bunch of guys like myself that have wifes that don't want to have sex anymore. My wife doesnt want to have sex so I'm forced to look outside the box.
If we're talking about the pursuit of peak life experiences, the kind where you feel the most present and alive...well, you can narrow those down to "sex" (in its various permutations) and "near-death" experiences: anything that gets you in touch with your animal instincts and mortality. So yeah, sex is awesome and hugely important, and anyone who has never had good sex is absolutely missing out. Does my life revolve around it? No! You already answered it - this is a fuck board; do you really want to see a bunch of threads about paper mache and cooking and water skiing, etc.?
London, I'm guessing you're just bored; it has been a slow day on TER general.
LOL, once again, I mean your life when you are NOT on TER and us. Do you spend coutless hours masturbating, watching porn, going to swinger's clubs, and actually having sex, or is the hobby how you get that desire filled? Yes, I am bored, but I see I have a new mouse to fk with. I wish it had more sense though, because she is not much of a challenge.
London, if you're really curious for your survey, I'm not really a "hobbyist" in the sense that I spend all my free time and money on this. Honestly, I'm actually pretty much like you. I hobby no more often than you provide and I only see high-end providers for extended dates. I treat it more like the best kind of mini-vacation for when I'm feeling stressed or otherwise need a break from the day-to-day grind.
Yes, I have a great life outside of TER filled with family, friends, kids, productive hobbies, and I'm on a path to retiring at 45 (read 'em and weep suckas!!!) if I don't let myself get carried away any further in the hobby. The discussion boards are great for a laugh.
I did not think it needed to be spelled out in fkin code for some people, but I digress lol. I will put you in my book ha ha.
Seriously, if you write that book, I will be first in line to read it. Although, you better not go all FarrahGFE and only dwell on the ass end of the biz.
I suspect you may quit doing your current work in that context...but to retire from staying active is not good for the soul.
What I have seen is many folks can move on to another chapter of their lives in their 30's or 40's....but most seem to find staying active and involved is the best way to stay healthy.
I've seem many folks in their 60's take on per diem work or consulting engagements simply for the fun of it. And many seem to like doing that well into their 70's and 80's.
Having enough money to do the things we want should be the objective. If you get there at 45...you're just starting on the next chapter. Hopefully you'll find it fun.
Yes, I have a great life outside of TER filled with family, friends, kids, productive hobbies, and I'm on a path to retiring at 45 (read 'em and weep suckas!!!) if I don't let myself get carried away any further in the hobby. The discussion boards are great for a laugh.
Yeah, "retire" is a bad word; I will be financially independent (can't fking wait!). No, I will not be watching tv and playing golf all day. The big plan is to traverse the globe on motorbike once the kids are off to college - ladies, I may be in need of a companion for that!
I'll bet that after some time you'll get the itch to get back in the game. It's a VERY different game however when you don't care about generating any real money.
Golf will become a chore as well...you can't win at that game LOL
Good luck hitting your goals!
I can't wait for an old favorite game called Thief to come out in March next year. I hope the new installment is as cool as the first one on the old Xbox. Until then, I will be busy with the new Assassins Creed and Madden football.
When my eyes are about to fall out of their sockets from all the gaming, then I may just get back to painting the rest of my house......Adult responsibilities, who needs them.
I am starting to feel like I am getting burned out on all the action with providers lately. Can to much of a good thing make a person burned out on them? Maybe. Well, I have experienced enough eroticism lately to fuel plenty of dirty fantasies for the foreseeable future. Maybe around my birthday I'll see if I can get lucky again.
I like reading your posts Ms. London. You seem very sharp minded. Would have loved to hook horns with you over a Scrabble game
Now you are talking my language. I play online with internet friends. You would never guess it but the talk there can be more sexually graphic than here. lol Let me know if you ever want a good game Wonderboy.
To answer London's question. Sex is not the most important thing to me. My family is and that needs a lot of time and attention. But I'm horny just about every night. It's just a high sex drive. But other things take up my thoughts and energies most of the time.
When my eyes are about to fall out of their sockets from all the gaming, then I may just get back to painting the rest of my house......Adult responsibilities, who needs them.
I am starting to feel like I am getting burned out on all the action with providers lately. Can to much of a good thing make a person burned out on them? Maybe. Well, I have experienced enough eroticism lately to fuel plenty of dirty fantasies for the foreseeable future. Maybe around my birthday I'll see if I can get lucky again.
I like reading your posts Ms. London. You seem very sharp minded. Would have loved to hook horns with you over a Scrabble game.
Well, I do know my four letter words, don't I lol. Thanks for the response...makes perfect sense. I am more obsessed with my TER buddies than with sex..that's obvous. Do I have a problem? Hey, maybe so, but as long as nothing in my life is suffering as a result of this, then I am not hurting anyone. I certainly do not post on here whilst with family....ever. I do not even take emails durig that time.
CoD Ghosts is out. And new Fable. Aww shits about to go down. Haha. But my life revolves around sleep, sex, books videogames and work .
Typical.
No. I have a lot of other things going on in my life. My business. My hobbies.
I will say that I've become more obsessed with sex since my divorce, and that since I found that there were good providers in my area, I've become even more obsessed.
I will not, however, ask for the password to your site. That obsessed I'm not.
A picture is worth a thousand words:
Too many other priorities, but If I were in a position to revolve my life around sex I probably would.
I would pay big $$$ to do a double with you two! No fighting allowed...
Lets me know when...
Dammit! And I had a grand scheme planned too.
This would be a fucking blast 
The spider and praying mantis are not the only creatures to eat and spit out their own.
BTW, would a gallon of NURU gel be enough for those two?
If she wants to try and be a woman, she needs to let her insults stand vs. pulling them like a scared alley cat, but that's what hooktards do. She's the one still trying to get business as a provider...not me lol. This little exchange won't hurt me one bit, but I bet it has already hurt her.
But yeah. Posting and then editing comments to make someone's response look out of line is not cool. It is a pain in the ass, but quoting the reply saves the original wording.
No comment on editing..
Wouldn't want you to break a nail...and this will get you to China faster.
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She insisted on showing me some power tools
You do know that she moonlights at Wal-Mart don't you?
So to stay on point here....I guess I don't think about sex 24/7/365 ;
Bullshit like this could never happen then. Things were a lot better when the volunteer mods ran the place. They knew much more about the way things work in this world than the current Admin.
but the edited version would go to moderator for approval, even if you were in unmoderated status
I have edited my own posts from time to time...and they go up immediately.
The only times they don't is if the post was "pulled" for moderation (as some are randomly done now). Then the edited one is also moderated.
Yes, now they go up immediately, unless the post has been randomly chosen to be moderated, but back when LP and GaG were moderators of the boards, any edited post would go in moderators queue.
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I'm very err. Ecsentric. (Did I spell that right?)
I go from extreme to extreme in lots of things.
Bouncing from obsession to obsession.
Typing on this board can become an obsession.
But this isn't sexy at all. It's funny, and sometimes educational.
Then tomorrow I might be reading about ancient aliens, or tectonic plate movements.
I write, draw, play record music.
Played every game I can get near.(pinball champion)
I study slight of hand, and mentalism.
That means I have to read books.
It's really hard to do those things with my dick in my hand..
So.. No. Sex is not always on my mind.
I also happen to have found this place.
I had lots of hobbies before this one.
I never stopped doing any of them after starting this.
Did I become obsessed at first? Hell yeah.
But I do that with every new thing I discover.
I always level off so to speak
Gold star for you and your answer lol. I will use 'stupid' code for my next post. 
Would not want to leave anyone out and all.
I don't understand Zoe?
I'm being honest. I'm trying to help.
I don't lie... Ever.
I didn't read your thread with London.
Why are you so pissed?
I don't look at your profile when you post.
I still haven't.
I don't care.
I just started in this hobby.. 4weeks ago and I have had nine visits with 4 seperate ladies.. making up for a lot of lost time with the wife saying leave me alone.. and me waiting for a change of heart (12 years at least.. but who's counting).. since starting yes.. 100%.. I paid bills this weekend and reality set in.. gotta slow down a bit.. so I did see one ATF or at least all month favorite and I scheduled a 2 week visit.. so now I wait for the two weeks to pass.. every day I think of calling someone.. (new).. and because I have something scheduled.. I stop and tell myself to wait.. but in the meantime I count the seconds.. so yes.. That's all I think about now..
Thank you for your honesty....a varying opinion, and further proof this was intended to be a serious discussion. Sorry about the drama newbie.
I understand when the guys get frustrated. That the SO won't put out for what ever reason.
My home boy won't fuck his wife even when she begs for. He will occasionally give in, his wife is very pretty, I personally don't like her attitude sometimes, and I think that has something to do with why he won't put out. I wouldn't call there relationship healthy, but healthier than some.
What I find strange about this scenario is my friend is always talking about sex, and wanting to have sex with the other women he lusts after. I never find myself disagreeing with him about the other women. I know he loves his wife, I think he is just board with her, she is fairly vanilla in the sack. He knew this before they said "I do".
...in summary --- He comes across as a horn dog, who won't fuck his wife.
You are more adjusted in the head than most.
Just be careful you don't start asking girls to spit your cum back into your mouth.
But the spin rate varies. There are days when it is on my mind off and on (usually at work). When I am active in one of my other hobbies or with family I don't have that focus on sex or the hobby.
I will watch porn a few times a week, but I don't go to sex clubs. If I am bar hopping then sex is always on my mind. So I guess that means that sex is on my mind most of the time.
...and spend time with family. I have so far spent nearly every Sat since Sept at my college football games. I participate on a message board dedicated to it. I spend a lot of time at my local sports bar. I am a man though so sex is on my mind at times. Usually when I see an attractive lady while I'm at work or whatever. The sex thoughts do go up when I'm planning a visit with my latest favorite. No my life doesn't revolve around sex or sexual things.
household to maintain, kids to look after, friends I hang out with; a complete life. Never been to a Swingers club, haven't been to a strip club in years and generally don't watch porn. This is just a fun break from real life, whether posting on the boards or paying 4 play.
Just like in a marriage, sex isn't what it's ALL about. It's a part of life, a part of marriage, (or unrightfully not, unless due to illness,) and part of our days/weeks/months.
Guys and gal's, when looking ahead in life, what do you see? What do you REALLY desire?
How do you look at the world around you, or are you blinded by your addictions to sex, money, and material things?
Illnesses can be blinding as much as addictions. But they can be eye opening as well.
I say this about sex and sexual things vs. my life. Sex revolves around my life for this time, but there have been years spent joyfully serving, never having sex, but getting the extreme satisfaction of seeing children on the streets learn to be happy playing simple games, learning new things, being motivated because they've become a part of something, and having a glimpse of another life besides gangs, violence, drugs, and abuse… maybe the future to them became just a little closer because someone stepped out of their own addiction and poured life into another.
Life is watching a gift of yours pour into another's soul as you see their eyes light up with hope as you sit by their bed as they suffer in illness. Life is a friend who calls them once a week because that's all they can do, not knowing it means the world to them. Life is calling a 90 year old grandma just to say I love you.
Life is missed if we skip those little things so we can get laid over and over again…
Life is "hookin' so someone else doesn't have to hook' to survive. Making $400, sending $200 home to a struggling single mom.
Oh. And life is giving the gift of thanks to someone, not for yourself, but because the person helped your friend. "Hey, you helped my struggling friend who had no help… I have something I can do for you, because he/she can't do anything to pay you back." That one actually chokes me up, because I've seen it happen before my eyes.
Then, after all is said and done, you fuck in-between because your body says, "I need to fuck NOW or I'm going to be a bitch and stop doing all this shit for people." Maybe that's just me, haha.
And London, I have a wonderful toy and watch porn… does that mean I like sex too much? LOLOL
Sex is great, but it can be a trap, too. It causes frustration, mourning, the feeling of rejection even when the person really 'has a headache', lol…
When in a relationship, I would want to know the person more than his dick… then I'd wanna' suck the dick even more, joyfully sucking him for who he is and not for what I can get. Feels better that way. hahaha… still gonna' hire an escort one day when I travel to TX, lmao. Cowboy… yum num
In terms of "Nature" and survival of the species we'd have been extinct eons ago if men weren't constantly seeking sex.
With a nine month gestation, frightening death rates from child birth, infant mortality, very long maturing process, vulnerability to disease, little natural defence from weather and other animals, and warring against our own species the odds were not all in our favor.
Now we are ubiquitously sexually repressed from youth, commonly learn the details from the least qualified to teach us, horrifically manipulated by commercial interests, further manipulated by GFs SOs and wives, made pariah by organized religion, and made impotent by 2/3 of the products manufactured by Big Pharma it's no wonder we're looking for solace and community when our DNA is no different than 10,000+ years ago