Lately I have found that I really enjoy having a glass of wine with my date. Whether he brings a bottle of wine or I have one provided already.

A single glass usually helps me loosen up some with new clients or can serve as a good way to catch up with my regulars before fun begins.

However, I have noticed that when I have longer dates with gentlemen where more alcohol is consumed (2-3 drinks) it is increasingly harder for the gentleman to reach orgasm.

We all know that is a problem when people have a few drinks. My question is:

How many of you gentlemen avoid drinking on a date to make sure you are able to cum?

How many ladies will share a glass or a bottle of wine on a date?

~ I will share a glass and if it is a long date (3-4 hours) a bottle of wine or champagne.

Do you like/dislike consuming alcohol on a date?

~Depends on the time of day and who the date is. Obviously no ladies will partake in wine that is already opened when she gets there...too many stories of ladies being drugged running around in our heads.



One date comes to mind where I was with a gentleman for a long (6 hour) date and we played before dinner and everything was fine but after dinner and 2-3 glasses of wine and a cocktail he was not able to perform or obviously reach orgasm.
This was very very frustrating to both of us because I had teased him ALL through dinner and was REALLY looking forward to getting....um...worked over so to speak.

In this case it would lead me to want to severely limit the amount of alcohol that either partner consume during a date. While 1 or 2 may be fine I truly do not want anyone's performance to be affected while we're together. There's no reason to be paying me for my time when we can't even have fun.

Thank you for your thoughts!!

~Rae Monroe

I enjoy sharing a glass of wine if our meeting is at least an hour and a half.  Any more than one glass and performance suffers.

As important, however, is time.  I have found that discussion over a glass, which I do really enjoy, greatly lessens our opportunity for intimacy.  I have been disappointed, even in 2-hour sessions, to suddenly look up to find that our time has almost expired when it seems that we've really just begun playing.  At $300-$500/hour that becomes a very expensive glass of merlot.

Is that butter?

You are such a perv.

but if a lady prefers a glass of wine or a drink with dinner or in the room with some snacks, I have absolutely no problem with that. I've been clean & sober for 23 years, and am quite comfortable in my sobriety. In fact, I always let the ladies know that I don't drink, and offer to bring along a bottle of wine if she would like. If so, I also bring a bottle of non-alcoholic wine for myself. (Grape juice with a cork)

Some folks in recovery are bothered by being around alcohol, but it doesn't bother me in the least.

I drink alcohol rarely but have absolutely no problem with anyone else who enjoys drinking (as long as they don't drive after they do.) When I am inviting a provider to my hotel room, for example, I always ask if she likes wine or other alcoholic beverage and make sure to have that available if she does. I can't imagine having sex with someone who is drunk, but you aren't talking about that.

If it is a dinner date, I'm not adverse to one drink, but wouldn't go more than that. I haven't yet been in a scenario where the lady and I drank any alcohol in the room. I wouldn't object to it, but I don't think I would be inclined to linger over drinks either. While drinking can be pleasant and social, I wouldn't want it to interfere with intimacy.

I know that sharing a bottle of wine will not make me drunk. Sharing two or three bottles of wine....good chance of that.

do other people find that drinking anything causes more trips to the restroom and the the need to do a thorough cleaning afterwards?

If I hold a full bladder I can't reach orgasm and sometimes can not reach full hardness.  

Asking a sensitive yet honest question...do any of you feel uncomfortable asking to use the restroom and then do you fell the need for a full cleaning with soap and water to be ready for oral again?

I have had a glass of wine or water during a date, but will refrian from sodas as it excellerates the need for bathroom breaks.

I don't drink but I have no problem with it.

but I told him that I can't drink that much.

Seriously, one glass of red wine each day is excellent for blood pressure.  If I drink two I'll get too sleepy to be any good in bed (or anywhere else.)

The only exception is when I'm with Bev; she loves the bubbly.

and try to perform 4-5 times a day while drinking like a fish. Oh to be 30 again. lol

I drink quite a bit more than a person should. I don't have any problems performing, but I will admit to having a problem finishing if I've had too many.

I think the burden is on the hobbyist. He should know how alcohol(or any other substances) affect him and act accordingly.

I prefer to relax after the date. Alchohol and food both have an effect on Viagra so I wait until after the action to chill with a glass of wine or a meal.

I have no problem with a lady relaxing with a glass during the session.

All depends on the Lady. If I am doing a 2 hour or longer date, I will often ask the lady if she would like some wine. A glass or two is ok, but any more and it can make it more difficult to cum. I agree it can be a nice ice breaker.
I had one lady friend who always loved it when I brought a bottle. I forgot once and she was really disappointed.
So moderation is key.

at least in Arizona YOU can be held liable for supplying him with the alcohol.  

I personally do NOT offer any alcohol or drink during the session.  I want to enjoy it fully. And yes it has a negative effect on the men.

So look at your state laws, you could be in trouble for what he did AFTER he left your place with alcohol you provided.

seriously, a glass of whine never hurt anyone... but when she goes on an on about whatever, it tends to dampen the mood....

oh, you meant alcohol....   same.

I am very much in favor of enjoying a nice bottle of wine during an evening date. Dont seem to enjoy drinking during the day much any more..

Of particular enjoyment to me is a quality red zinfandel wine. We will usually finish the bottle on an extended date.

I will not open the bottle (good red zins need to breath for at least 45 mins)with out asking the lady if she has any concerns. If we have seen each other previously opening the bottle doesnt seem to be an issue.

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I no longer have the tolerance for alcohol that I did 10 years ago, so I find that one drink is just enough to help break the ice and loosen up conversation without the alcohol "drop."  More than one is already walking the edge of inebriation for me, and when the "drop" kicks in Penumbro Jr. often follows suit.

A second drink with a meal is OK, but that's a matter of pacing.  More than 2 is no longer my style.

I only schedule multi-hour dates with providers that will party with me. As you can see from my handle that doesnt necessarily mean alcohol.

If she doesnt. Cool. But she has relagated herself to the ranks of sex only and an hour is plenty for that.

That doesnt mean that if she does, she is guaranteed to multi-hour dates. I like to have some chemistry as well. This usually excludes providers under 35 or over 40.

Am I being too picky?

Never started.

But if a woman wants a glass or two, fine by me.

...but simply because I do not enjoy the taste. Blech!  However, I do not mind if/when a gentleman wants to enjoy an alcoholic beverage on our date.  I have yet to find that drinking has negatively impacted a friend's performance in a significant way -- if the alcohol makes it take a little longer, well, that's more fun for me!

Like another guy said, I probably consume more than my fair share of alcohol.  However, when meeting a lady, I generally don't imbibe during the date or even a couple of days before.  Definitely don't want whiskey-dick when the time comes and I can't.

I have on a couple of occasions, had something to drink with the lady, and it may or may not have impaired my cumming ability.  Condoms do enough of that often enough without the added inhibitor of alcohol.

A drink or a beer afterwards would be more my speed.  I normally don't drink much wine, but if offered, I will accept a glass.  It's just not my drink of choice.

Swim

I also have to acknowledge what AZ Misty had to say about it. I like to have a glass of wine. I'll sometimes have Champagne, but that doesn't make me a drunk. I rarely drink now unless I'm having one with a client. However, I do worry about someone who visits my Incall and if they've had too many drinks. I know it sounds like I'm being a mommy but I ask my friends to call my cell phone or email when they get home. I'm so paranoid if a guy drinks more than one and then I realize, "Oh crap! He's driving!"  Usually, they only have one drink.

Hugs,
ciara



-- Modified on 10/23/2008 2:52:14 PM

I strongly agree. It's the company that makes it worth it.

If the gent has an issue with his drinking- I hope he learns for the next time,hehehe.
Isn't that his issue? If It were me- Im sure we would only have 2 drinks and we would be all over that bed. Of course depending on out situation.

But, only you know what happen sweety.
We're in control of what we do and don't do.
Hopefully, you didn't feel bad  (or him not finishing.

Theres that and sometimes- men get to excited that,They may not reach an O. Right men?

Anyhow, I hope you know that it wasn't you. Alchohol takes a toll on us differetnly. I get even more into it...

I'll have a glass of wine, or maybe two at the most during a 2-hr date. I find it to be relaxing.

Never drank even in college. 63 years and never been drunk or even consumed a bottle or can of alcohol. What do I win? I win a f***** good time with my lady friends.

Incase anyone was wondering! LOL! I used to not drink with appts. but I think once I get there and feel comfortable it helps to relieve some tension.