So it looks like the whole sugar daddy/sugar baby (SD/SB) scene is taking off like wild fire. For those that don't know what I am talking about, Google is your friend.

Years ago the GFE thing was not really a big deal in the hobby, now if a provider isn't GFE she is in the minority for sure. The GFE concept seems to have had a fairly significant impact on the number of active hobbyists and providers.

In the last few years its seems like the sugar scene is catching fire.  

The common element seems to be having a "more normal" experience with the lady, whatever that means. But that is contradicted by so many hobbyists saying they don't repeat, they are in this to see someone new, no regulars. There also seems to be a lot less social stigma around sugar, seems like someone saying a girl has a SD is a lot more positive than she is a escort.

I am in the sugar scene and see some local providers posting on the SD/SB sites. I see bright eyed little teenagers too that have a fantasy of 50 shades of grey too. But most girls on these sites want something in between a regular BF and a quick hobby like appointment. Most are looking for a regular thing in exchange for a reliable financial aide (the allowance) and adventure/fun. A few are more into the "my rent is do, who wants to take me for dinner and sex?".

There will always be hobbyists and providers, but how do you think the sugar scene will effect the hobby?

Have you dripped your "toe" in the sugar bowl? (providers and hobbyists) What has your experience been?

For one thing, it tends to be a major cost over what most clients want or need.

For another, it is rife with boundary issues.

If the attraction is that it is somehow safer than the regular GFE hobby methods, that is easily dealt with by seeing well reviewed gals.

I don't doubt that SD situations work for some; but I doubt it will become the mainstay of hobbying.

I posted a long reply in that thread.... So I'm just gonna say... If it wasn't for sugar daddies I would have never started providing. I love sugar daddies. The only down fall is they usually want BB and to be exclusive, and I fancy neither.

Most married men do NOT want the extra hassle of having some girl call and text them 10 times a day, knowing their real name, where they live/work etc. In the provider world, that's not a given for the majority of us, but in sugar land it is. I have never been with a SD and not known everything about him, including his bank acct. number.

"I have never been with a SD and not known everything about him, including his bank acct. number. "

You're not in jail for extortion or embezzling, so you must be an honest person.

That like being married - I don't get tethering yourself to one lovely lady when there are so many to experience. It's funny how some of guys, even in the hobby world, want to domesticate.

...is like being married, with none of the advantages, and almost all of the disadvantages. The provider route is better: more autonomy, more lucrative, more security, actually, and easier on the heart strings, IMHO.

No not all.

Many of the SB at least IME are much more interested in getting a helping hand than being some kept mistress at her SD's beck and call.

Personally I think that is one of the attractive elements of the sugar scene. Around my area there are a lot of universities and other secondary education. Most of these girls are in school and want to focus on completing their education, not dating "boys" and working 3 jobs to make ends meet.

Many of these girls are looking for someone to give them say a grand a month in exchange for 2 or 3 encounters a week. We are not talking about one hour sessions, but evenings and over nights. They are seeking more than the money. They want to be taken out to dinner, a movie or on a weekend get-a-way. They want a mature man without a ton of drama that will treat them with respect and give them an escape from part times jobs and horny collage boys.

In my area you are going to drop a grand+ having a one hour session once a week.

It looks like some of you have seen or heard something other than I have experienced.

One of the things with sugar is it a arrangement that is defined by both parties. Sure there are the stereo-typical SBs like London says she was that gets into every aspect of their SD's life, but that just doesn't jive with what I have seen. Most of these girls don't want that level of involvement, they want something much closer to a reliable FB with benefits.

I used to have a SB that I seen one weekend a month. We would be together Friday evening to sometime Sunday. She had a monthly allowance of $500. She was in school with a job she liked. She had two SD's same deal with each of us, one weekend a month. It worked out great. We chat/talk/txt a couple times a week.

The arrangement can be just about anything the two people can agree to. Sure there are some boundary issues that are bound to come up, but some discretion and respect go a long ways

Nice post in the other thread Jamie. You sound a lot more like the girls I have met.

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I'm not rich enough to be a sugar daddy--it's nice to think about having the option, but then what?

I'm not into really young women in the provider scene as it is--I generally prefer them to be in their early 30s (any younger, and I feel like I might as well be interacting with a creature from another planet).  By that point, the sugar baby possibilities are more or less over for them.

If you're going to be a sugar daddy, and you know you like 'em young, why not just formalize the whole thing?  Have a contract, stipulate an annual salary, a back-end balloon payment, understandings about what happens in the event of pregnancies (no child support payments, basically), etc.  If you do like 'em young, you get what you want, and when she's no longer able to float your boat, you and she get to terminate the relationship, the girl is set for life, the sugar daddy can go and look for the next sugar baby, and (theoretically) everyone comes out a winner?

If I suddenly had some huge pile of money drop on me, I might look around for something like this--but (again) my problem would be that I'd be looking for women who most likely will have already "evolved" to a point where they treasure their independence too much to even consider such an arrangement.

My personal take is that sugar will just continue to be what it is: a sub-niche within a niche culture.