I posted a this on the San Diego Discussion Board and one thought it would be a good question for the General Board, so here goes... was curious how important it is to the ladies to know a) if their gentleman is a TER poster, and b) which poster, i.e. their TER handle? So they can relate who they are speaking with to the person posting; read their reviews, etc?; see whom they've visited, etc, etc.

Comments?


Sedona (San Diego)

Hmmmm?!? I would rather not know if the gentleman that I am seeing is a TER poster or a poster of another board. I could really care less... I treat those how they treat me and that goes along way!!!  As far as reading his reviews of another companion... I feel that everyone is their own person and has their own personality and being a individual... there are going to be different reviews from the same man whether it be the good, bad or ugly!!! I could care less as to who they have seen before... at the time I am seeing them and they are seeing me!!! A whole different scenerio... I hope they aren`t thinking of the last encounter they had while we are together...LOL!!! If one encounter doesn`t click... that doesn`t mean the other encounter won`t!!! That is why there are so many beautiful women out there to right the wrong if the gentleman had one!!! Variety is the spice of life!!! By the way Sedona... I like your website!!! Love, peace and joy to ALL and "HAPPY NEW YEAR TO ALL!!!"~  Tia!!!  xoxo

I got so carried away with my last post about this subject that I forgot to add this... a handle or previous companions would be GREAT for verification purposes!!! It would make it a very pleasant upcoming date for BOTH!!! ENJOY... love, peace and joy to all... Tia!!!  xoxo

I NEVER ask. I did have one guy reveal his screen name to me as a reference, I guess he felt that if I knew the types of providers he'd seen in the past, I would be comfortable with his choosing me. (Since I am a BBW, I ALWAYS make sure the client is aware of that up-front) I was surprised at his honesty, which convinced me even more, that this was someone I would enjoy spending some play-time with....But I didn't ask and I don't expect it....But I think if you are in tune with your clients, you'll know who's who...and remember, if the quality of your service is consistant it will reflect in your reviews.....So don't be so concerned about WHO they are since the other Hobbyists will figure out WHAT they are just by reading their reviews. Good Luck, Robyn

Hi Sexy Lady!!

You know me, Sedona, I have this INTENSE NEED to please! Anything that contributes to me being able to reach that end, including reading reviews that a potential new friend has written I'd be happy to utilize.

For instance, recently I saw a post on our local board, a regular asking if anyone was available the next day. I was available, so I read the reviews he'd written and realized I would not probably be able to provide *8-9-10* service in his eyes (just his taste in women) so I didn't send him a note.

I just don't want to be in a situation where I've not been a satisfactory date.  Anymore I don't even charge for my time. I just let my new friends know what my prior friends have given for a gift AFTER we've spent time together. Not satisfied? Don't hand me the gift on my way out!! (btw, I bring a gift too!) As I'm LOW volume, and reference only, this works out!!

LOVE your style, Sedona

*smooches*

Elise

Thanks for the responses. It is always particularly interesting to me to see the differences in the responses, or to see how someone 'takes' to the question.
For me, it's very important that the man is a gentleman; respectful, classy, someone who has his head and or heart in the right place. While I know that they have several handles, aliases, etc, it still is helpful, and, yes a useful tool to know who they are in relation to the postings and reviews on TER, or TBD, etc. For example, if I read a review, and it's written very raunchy, I will very likely not want to see him. How he posts, writes his reviews, etc, is my 'first impression' and gives me great insight into what kind of man he is. Also, it can show you some of his likes, dislikes, quirks, etc. to help you better prepare for a good time! As Silky mentioned, being a BBW, sometimes looking to see who he's visited before can help in knowing that he selected you. The same for being a 'mature' provider, thin, smoker, whatever the variables..
I just like to know, that's all!

Big hugs,
Sedona

Hi Elise,

Did I misread your post or are you saying you truly are working on a "Donation" system and theoretically a guy could spend time with you, hours, and if he didn't want to pay you he could simply walk out or pull the old "oh I left my money in the car I will be right back" and shaft you?

Please clarify.

Thanks!

Veronica

yes Veronica,

I take the chance of getting what you call "the Shaft".. I don't ask for a gift, My gents hand it to me at parting.  I try to make soem of my last words "is there anything else I can get you?"

Although I call that the "Satisfaction Gaurantee", not chancing "the shaft".

REMEMBER... I require REFERENCE.  I don't see a new friend without a stellar reference from a well-regarded lady and I'm a low volume gal, very likely to refer on to other well-regarded San Diego ladies (there are so many great ones!!!) as I'm very part-time.

*SMOOOCH*

Elise

What a wonderful approach. I'll bet you come out ahead financially in the long run too. Your high quality treatment will generate much good feeling with your "clients" and I am sure they will respond accordingly. Somehow the whole thing of money does take away from the intimacy. I always am impressed when the subject of money doesn't really come up (once the donation rate is known, via the website etc). I just put the $ in a plain envelope and either drop it on the dresser as I arrive or as I leave. When the lady doesn't even ask about it or "hurriedly open the envelope", I am impressed. I feel that is one way of judging quality and personality and it certainly implies trust and makes me feel like I am more than just the causual encounter.
Good luck to you and have a great 2003!

I'm not a lady, as far as i know but let me add a little perspective.  The men sure read the reviews and evaluate them according to the reviewer's tastes, predilections and style.  It would make sense that a provider do the same.  Not to mention that reasonably established hobbyists are safe.
Sorry to intrude.

I never ask, nor do I pay attention to it.  There are times in general conversation that the fact and handle have been given to me, but given the blonde moments I do have, I usually do not remember either.  

I also do not discuss reviews.  I think it compromises the system when done so.  Only if something questionable comes to my attention do I even take the time to read them.

I also do not keep any information longer than I need to so if Tom, Dick or Harry gave me the information forthwith, I probably will not remember six months later unless they write back to me and refresh my memory.

Lauren

Sedona, I'm not a lady either, but to play devil's advocate, maybe it's better to just let things roll, meaning, maybe let more things go to chance.  Or maybe beef up your own system to help reduce any strain you might encounter, regardless of the gentleman.

For example, if a smoking lady (cigarettes) reads a gentleman's review and it doesn't say anything about smoking, then well.... that doesn't mean he accepts such activity.  

Also, if you know more about someone, it might take away some of the spontaneous, "hi, this is me, how are you, what can we do" type of discussions which can be heavenly/hell all in themselves.  This leads to a longer ramp up time, as you and others were saying, of course.

But the question I'D like to ask the ladies is, "why don't you read your own reviews?"  especially since this whole board is intented to help guys find/avoid you?  In terms of quality control, I think it would be critical for us gentlemen to know that what we read is somewhat true and not some complete fantasy written by someone trying to get free membership.

so yes, good question!  cheers, fahrkle

I know others may (will?) disagree, but IF I know a gal is familiar with TER, I have no problem at all with revealing my handle to her.  It frequently helps cut through at least some of the screening otherwise necessary.  But more importantly if the gal chooses to do so, she can take a look at my reviews & posts to get a better idea if she thinks I'm someone she might like to see or not.  I like to think there's a possibility of some mutual enjoyment or else I wouldn't want to go through with an appointment..& I know I'm not gonna be every gal's cup of tea any more than every gal will be mine.  Whenever I've done this in the past it seemed to have worked well for all concerned.

But I don't do this when the gal isn't a known presence on TER, nor am I advocating that all that the gals make this a requirement of their screening process.

Quite honestly, for myself, I don't need to read reviews.  In general conversation, I always ask how one has heard of me.  It helps me in determining how my advertising dollars are working out and tells me a lot about how the gents go about shopping around.   For those unfamiliar with this forum,  I educate on the avenues available to them.  I sometimes wonder how many gents have joined TER or the other forums because I directed them to it.  I love those that have done their homework.

Common response?  I read your reviews.  Where?  Then they tell me and fill me in on what exactly directed their attention to me.  So between that and friends in the biz, I have a pretty good idea of what is out there on me.  The truth...which so far I understand is all good and the bad, which are the flaws I do have and are painfully true.  

Lauren

That's where I was going with this! I think some of the ladies thought this is conversation I have with my gents; like I asked about their reviews and things!!
No, this helps give me an impression of the gentleman, makes the screening process easier - can even make our first encounter easier as far as 'breaking the ice'.
I can look up in the search tools, his discussion board postings and recall them - see his thoughts on different topics, etc.

I'm glad you understood that!

Warmest hugs,
Sedona

Do you have any personal info on the client such as real name, work number, home number etc?


I have always been irked when a client calls me and asks "How much is the donation?" because a "donation" implies a charity (as I usually explain to the client that I am not a charity and have set fees but it seems you are working on truly a charitable donation system and I have never heard of that before.  Please understand I am not criticizing you.  I am just noting that we have different perspectives on the "donation" system and it seems you truly are working on one.

Good for you if it works for you