Thanks for all your insight. Everyone brings up great points & it could be any of those things. Usually all ladies I've seen in this hobby it's been clear cut & dry. Think i like it better that way & even if there are feelings I'm not naive to think there's more to it than there is. I guess that is what can happen when you develop a friendship/acquaintance comfort level with someone & maybe she knows it as well... Maybe the weirdness is a defense mechanism wall being put up for her sanity in all this!
Actually thinking about it I've been seening her for over a year... Time flies! Well hopefully the dust settles or will have to unfortunately pull back limit my time & sessions further apart with her. A shame because the quality of the sessions are great all around especially compared to another couple recent sessions I've encountered which were almost opposite of these LOLOk interested in everyone's take including other providers to shed some possible light on this?
I've been seeing this one provider regularly for a better part of a year now. A great mature provider few years older than I. Feel we have built a comfortable rapport & the sessions get better with every single session. Actually since day one we seemed to hit it off fairly well. She shares alot of personal info with me all the time that most others providers haven't. Super cool & laid back in every since in every sense of the word. Even talking about her family life & her work etc. Again not used to this "grey area" as with all other providers it's been strictly business/play. Wouldn't say I've fallen for her lol not naive to what any of this is about but do feel I have developed a trust & respect for her as a genuine friend on my end!
Lately while everything is still great during sessions, still floors me with personal info, trust on very private things she shares & has even started feeling comfortable offering me things naturally that aren't on her menu during playtime during the moment I've noticed a recent pull back on certain things.
Text responses go from luke warm to hot pending the moment with no rhyme or reason. Always send a thank you text later after sessions last couple times no big deal but no response at all. Even during sessions during a hot moment we will have a bit of banter & then right after what seems to be a heat of the moment thing she kinda gives a look/vibe like she shouldn't of said or acted that way while knowing for a fact enjoying herself.
One thing that through me through a loop though & kind of bothered me is a close friend of mine passed few months ago & when mentioned completely avoided/acted like nothing was ever said on my end awkwardness. Then two minutes later while talking about life didn't realize until well after the fact I felt like I was being Idk being tested or she vaguely throwing out hints that someone like me due to our conversion at the time is the type of guy she needs.
I'm always a gentlemen with all providers I session with & compliment them show affection like I would with any woman I would date even in my personal life. But always try to respect that line so there aren't any issues.
Want to keep it that way as I want to keep sessioning with her as I value not only that but the trust & friendship built.. but as more time passes I feel like the hot/ cold has been building up with a bit of some sort of tension smacking me in the face unless reading too much into it all? Thanks
if you see a lot of women over many years, and tend to be the type of person (as I am) who gets into sharing your life, etc.
It often leads to a lot of uncomfortable times, and even outright disaster. My suggestion is that if this makes you uncomfortable, then just stop seeing the person, especially if you have other quality providers to fall back on.
On the other hand, if you like to gamble, and see this person as someone who is sort of irreplaceable, then keep giving it a shot and hope she settles down and stops acting weird. Your odds are 50/50 at best given my experience.
Sounds like a typical woman to me. T wouldn't over think it.
The last few months have been very stressful for a lot of people. Maybe it’s been a tough time for this woman and she’s distracted by that, so she’s not focusing during your sessions as she used to.
Next time you see her, ask her how she’s doing. She may or may not want to tell you, but you can at least let her know you care enough to ask.
Agree that coming straight to the point, asking her if she is “ok”..... but tread lightly. If, she doesn't open up then you have choices. Drop her completely; wait a good bit longer between sessions (make sure duration is going to be noticeable), and see if she reaches out to you; YOU stay all biz if the sex is as good as you say. Hopefully, she’ll notice the “change” and self-reflect.
Don’t pry, or offer examples of her “off” behavior.... you’ll likely be accused of getting too much into her business.
A non-issue to me, really. Not even a "woman" issue. People got things on their mind, some stuff going on, etc. Unless you're extremely close like a relationship or close friendship, this is normal. If this lasts for a long time (months etc) , then maybe you should inquire or something.
As is, sounds like you're overthinking it. Just my two cents.
Will miss your money but not you. Always have a Plan B.
Is this same woman you reviewed? I will comment further after your answer.
No it's absolutely not the woman I've reviewed that was pretty much a one & done for reasons stated.
I haven't reviewed this lady becuase she hasn't said whether or not she wants to be reviewed so out of respect I haven't!
Yeah maybe I'm reading too much into it. One thing want to clarify is I never take advantage of a situation, we've met a few times outside of sessioning but both times always made sure to take take of her time a little in proper gesture.
It's weird thinking back I've also noticed she starting pulling back a bit after those meet ups just randomly & even once we texted briefly afterwards where there was miscommunication in a text. I went WTF as I felt like again maybe was being tested about what my intentions were possibly feeling me out? Just all threw me through a loop as wasnt expecting any of it..
I might just pull back alittle if it continues & see what happens... The sessions are bed sheet drenched amazing! That will be the test lol
Thanks to everyone who has replied so far
to have your baby.
Well maybe not.
What she is doing is playing the long game with you. Perhaps when she winds
it down and just needs a few tricks on the side who are in whatever with her.
Maybe she is transitioning to a reg boring job and supplimental income keeps the
nice vacays and shoe clothes cars up to a standard she is used to. i had a friend like
this once she told me how it worked for her.
Good luck
Thanks for all your insight. Everyone brings up great points & it could be any of those things. Usually all ladies I've seen in this hobby it's been clear cut & dry. Think i like it better that way & even if there are feelings I'm not naive to think there's more to it than there is. I guess that is what can happen when you develop a friendship/acquaintance comfort level with someone & maybe she knows it as well... Maybe the weirdness is a defense mechanism wall being put up for her sanity in all this!
Actually thinking about it I've been seening her for over a year... Time flies! Well hopefully the dust settles or will have to unfortunately pull back limit my time & sessions further apart with her. A shame because the quality of the sessions are great all around especially compared to another couple recent sessions I've encountered which were almost opposite of these LOL
Something might be going on in her own life?
That or maybe you didn't notice that she might not have been interested in your affairs at all the entire time, so when you finally said something that mattered and she brushed it off - you realized.
I've had that happen before... reminds me of a friend I had in my mid-20's. We had a blast together. We'd get dressed up and head out to the city, rooftop clubs, looking super hot, but classy. I'd hang out at her house, we would go out to eat, etc... I didn't realize this until I started reading about it, but... we were always iin her domains. She always picked the places. We met at her house, (not mine.) And wherever we went, she drove from her house to the place.
I felt ok with it, since she insisted, (aka there was no other choice.) So it was her gas money and mileage. Sounds nice, but that little bit makes you feel like they're doing YOU a favor, so you feel like owe them. (Does this sound familiar? Any OTC? Off menu choices?)
I felt like she was doing ME a favor by inviting ME out, by driving me to the city, (when I had my own car,) by dressing me up in her expensive clothes, (because she wanted to be seen with someone in expensive clothes,) etc etc etc...
The entire friendship she talked about her guy problems, boyfriends, lifestyle, and constantly gave me advice. Then one day, I was on the phone with her. I was having a bad day, so when she finished her usual boy troubles, she said, "so how are you?" I said about two sentences about my day and paused for her response. She had spaced out, and said, "I'm sorry, I'm super tired. Can I talk to you tomorrow?"
It was like I had spent an entire year listening to this chick... granted, she was super cool and otherwise a pretty healthy friend aside from her control issues... but it was pretty eye-opening that she did not care about me at all. She just wanted a doll to play with, and someone hot to have with her when she went to the city to meet guys. (She was absolutely beautiful.)
Totally worth it for me, it was the best year of my life, and she was a big part of that. I have wonderful memories of hanging out together, and also the other parts of that year...
But when my eyes were opened and I realized she was pretty shallow in our friendship, I began to lose interest. It wasn't as fun anymore. Granted, again, this was a super mild case - I wouldn't pick friends like that nowadays, but back then I was clueless and not very social haha. We complemented one another for that year.
That being said, just be ready to lose interest if you allow your eyes to be open. If you let someone dick you around who doesn't care about you, you're only hurting yourself. Perhaps you need to grow a little bit and love yourself more than your addiction to the feelings she triggers in you. Just because she doesn't mean any harm, doesn't mean you have to stick around with someone who doesn't value you as a person or care about you.
People might snicker at that, but the fact is, you are hiring us. In the end, maybe you would do well with someone who leaves their info out so you can share more about yourself to a listening ear. You're important too, you know.
You either have a need she's (partially) fulfilling, or you are addicted to the feelings.
With love interests and lovers in general, you might find yourself chasing the way it used to be, when it felt genuine. It's a pretty sobering feeling when that old way never comes back.
Perhaps find a new favorite if, in fact, she does not care about you and that puts a sour taste in your mouth, you'll be ready with other choices and the weaning off won't be so harsh.
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Wow thank you for that! Hearing a provider's perspective is refreshing. I've thought that myself a couple times & it always could be.
Outside of that one thing about mentioning of my friends passing that she blew off she has been very engaging mutually for the most part otherwise would of seen it from a mile away. So Idk... Some times texts are short with me & other times everything is cool no rhyme or reason.
Kind of taking it that maybe she realizes it & is fighting to push back or maybe I'm viewed as a "boy toy" due to our age difference, shes few years older.
Could be anything, didn't go into this expecting more than a standard client/provider deal. Almost immediately started sharing stuff w/ me etc & not used to that grey area as most providers I've seen while personable... Well a couple not but still never had anyone be so open from the get go
Maybe I'm sending signals as well confusing her as vaguely remember her mentioning once briefly as well in passing.
Just going to see how next visit goes & then take it from there. I do genuinely care for her as getting to know her & while id like to keep it FWB style don't want any underlying tension or drama.
This is supposed to be fun & while the passion is great I don't have any inclination it would ever go further than that being a realist as she's been a provider for a good while now.
Thanks
When it comes to texting, you need to just throw all interpretations of text out the window and treat it as entertainment only.
Definitely do not even try to analyze texts at all, just let it go and go by in person. We are doing so much day to day, that if we sat and thought of how to reply meaningfully to every single text, we would waste our lives. Lol. I hate texting because so much gets over analyzed. I'm actually starting to block clients who text me because I know it will turn into a shit show.
If there is anything I have learned in these past five years, it's that texting is the fking devil and I hate it lmao.