All of the amenities you mentioned are a nice touch but the difference between an 8 and a 9 for me is all about the "connection" between myself and the lady. Remember the description-"Forgot it was a service". I take that pretty seriously. If the vibe didn't honestly make me forget that there was an envelope full of cash in the room then I will not reflect that in my score. Of course what I am really talking about here is an intangible.
All you can do is the best you can do. An 8 is a damn good score in my book. A 9 means there was some magic in the room.
I don't do reviews, as I would rather pay for the privilege of viewing the board than post personal opinions about the ladies. That said, extra amenities are nice, but I totally agree with BG that it is all about the connection. For instance, I love DATY, and have an old fashioned rule that ladies come first. If I can make that happen, it is going to be a 9, because I know the lady will in turn satisfy me. Just my 2 cents worth...
Bingo! You hit the nail on the head! Ladies first, and DATY is my favorite way to get them there.
now there is one lady i've given a perf 8 to simply because silly TER rules required it. so in that instance this doesn't apply.
but in general to get a 9 she has to not be a passive sexual object but must interact and help shape the session in a positive way. she must express her own sensuality and enjoyment and be getting something out of it. (or at least make a convincing show of it, LOL!)
there is a further exception: "boy's night out". this is when by mutual agreement i totally call the shots in the session. some would call this perhaps being dominating but i dislike the term "domination" even more than i dislike the term "hobby". i only play the domination game by mutual consent, so it is only domination-play not domination-of-a-person.
i have finally found a credible favorite with whom i'd be willing to re-explore that aspect of my sensuality.
with civy SOs i'd take turns: boys-night-out on top, girls-night-out on bottom. but just for the record it's doubtful i'd pay to provide a girls night out unless she were totally gorgous, brilliant, and offered a substantial discount. LOL!
Your last paragraph reminded me of some of the exchanges between Elizabeth Perkins and Demi Moore (never prettier, with her perky A-cups pre-boobjob):
(EP) "When you called, was he home?"
(DM) "No, but it's Sandwich Night anyway."
(EP) "Sandwich Night?"
(DM) "Two nights a week I cook, two nights a week he cooks, two nights we go out...and then there's Sandwich Night."
(EP) "I bet your sex life is a real thrill. Two nights a week you're on top, two nights a week he's on top...so what is it you do on Sandwich Night?"
Of course, the best line of the movie was when EP was teaching her Kindergarten class about Christmas...
(EP) "And then an angel of the Lord descended upon the Virgin Mary..."
(kids) "What's descended?"
(EP) "Came down from out of the sky. And then an angel of the Lord descended upon the Virgin Mary ... "
(kids) "What's a virgin?"
(EP) "That is someone who's never had sex."
(kids) "What's sex?"
(EP) "Sex is how men and women make babies."
(kids) "Are you a virgin?"
(EP...looking a bit embarrassed) "No."
(kids) "So you have a baby?"
(EP...looking a even more uncomfortable) "No... men and women who don't want babies also have sex."
(kids) "What for?"
(EP, dryly...looking caustic by now) "For about 10 or 15 minutes."
"And then an angel of the Lord descended upon the Virgin Mary..."
i think i may post another reminiscence of my fabulous ex2. it was she who introduced me to "boy's/girl's night out" and the BBBJ NQNS swallows and other amusing erotic delights.
terrific woman. to bad i had to divorce her....
Because I can only see that happening ONCE in your lifetime! LOL
However, I would actually consider giving that as a gift, to a gent, IF it were an extended date (4hrs or more). I have no problem recriprocating nice gifts every once in a while.
All the extras are nice, but, it could move a $350 girl to $400 to cover expenses. Then fall off alot of guys radars. Like Boston said, it's all about the connection. Greet him like he just returned from war, give him a Hero's welcome. Keep the warmth going, and you'll continue receiving 9/10's.
One of my favorites, I was getting ready to leave and forgot all about the $$$'s until she said something. Embarrassingly, I laid the envelope down, gave her a peck on the cheek and enjoyed the drive home.
Many a time I've had scores lowered and when I asked why, the answer was that the gal couldn't get more than, say an 8, because she would only perform X and Y, but not Z.
I myself don't care for this system because it focuses on the "what" and not the "how"; but the rules are the rules, and it's their board, not mine.
That's why it is so important to be a VIP member and read the reviews to see whether you think you'll click with someone.
If a lady does something that special for me i have to give her a 9. Also if we have good convo that also helps. Dont know about other guys but thats does it for me. Good question Paris.
dfk is a nice touch, but do what you can on your comfort level. Heck I rate you a 9 if you could get me to release.
Overall attmosphere would be describes as "over the top" if you supplied the mentioned amenaties at your incall. Since our dates were outcall, I can't comment directly on your situation.
Performance, on the other hand, is spelled out in the TER guidelines. If you offer all the menu items listed, you should receive a 10. The key word is offer. For example, if the guy wants a CBJ but you offer BBBJ, you should score the point for BBBJ. Same goes for DFK, Greek, and everything else. If I'm wrong, I'm sure someone will correct me.
BTW guys, Paris is one of Orlando's best attractions. Don't miss her if you are coming to Mickey town.
Though I suspect you simply misspoke when you wrote. "If you offer all the menu items listed, you should receive a 10."
If you offer all the menu items listed you should QUALIFY for a 10, not necessarily receive one.
You're correct, Pocketfisherman. She is eligible for a 10, but doesn't automatically receive it. Otherwise, I wouldn't be asking the question....and I'd have 10's all the way down.
BTW- Keystonekid, thank you for the compliment! Muah
bottom line is the chemistry must be such that both the big and little head are enjoying themselves to the nineth or tenth degree to score as such.
Dear Ms. Bouvier:
I was wondering what would make you different and unique from any adult companionship provider out there? Also what do you try to do in terms of making the experience an exquisite one for your hobbyist? When you interview them and have preliminary discussions how do you tend to shape and plan the date? What and how do you listen for there preferences and also what cues do you take to make it the ultimate experience for the hobbyist? Finally when you do poll your guys what do they say is the reason that they came back? What it the aviance or the total experience they had with you during the rendevous? Please elaborate and also feel free to use the questions as a guide for the amelioration hosting and entertainment as a premier provider.
Dear Mr. Duplicitouslust:
Thank you for your response, I appreciate it. Although, you have raised some great questions...Ms. Bouvier prefers to keep her lips sealed, concerning her practices. You see, if I share all of my secrets..that wouldn't make me 'special' any longer, now would it? Therefore, if you'd like to schedule a private rendezvous with me, I'd love to demonstrate my business practices and skills for you. It is only then that you'll truly understand why Ms. Bouvier is a premier companion.
Conclusion: My lips are sealed until your trousers are unzipped before me!
Kisses,
Paris
pay and find out what why you're one of the premier companions. Talk is cheap!
Dear Ms. Bouvier:
Although you are not saying specifically what you would do, you are just trying to get a hint of our proclivities and preferences if we were to have a rendevous with you. Thus there were certain connotations with in your questions. Also I understand that there will be some compensation, to ascertain the aforementioned so with that said would you have any trips to the Delaware Valley area and what would you require for verification? Also I will take a trip to your website to accrue further instructions with respect to your stipulations. Also I think you might have seen my profile on date-check as well Madame Bouvier.
well reviewed here on TER. But, experiencing is far more fun than reading her reviews.
I have to admit that the amenities you mention might well affect my review, and I DO love to be pampered, but the true test is that for the hour or four that we're together you must make me believe that you would be there even without the envelope. Of course I know you wouldn't, but for that time I am willing to suspend disbelief and live the fantasy if you do your part. When our eyes meet I want to see desire, real or well feigned is fine. When we are having sex I want to be able to convince myself (temporarily) that you are as into it as I am. Note, that is NOT accomplished with orgasmic moaning as soon as I touch you.
Option B, is to just have a helluva lot of fun. There are a couple of ladies I love to see just because I know that a large part of the appointment will be spent laughing. Again though, even though there isn't a "girlfriend" kind of vibe, she makes it clear that she is honestly (or apparently) enjoying our time together on a very basic level. Of course it doesn't hurt that the sex is great, LOL.
Without that "connection" real or otherwise, you can still get a great review, but there won't be a 9 or 10 in the performance column.
My kind of gal.
The amenities are nice, for me it is how far can yo make my eyes roll back in my head....and spaeaking of head ..that's real nice too.
Thank you
2009 = 27
You have to be able to give the illusion that "you mean it". Like the guy is the only guy you know. Hence....I forgot it was a service.
Ladies that are scripted or mechanical, and just won't let things happen may have VERY full menus, but it may seem like a business deal the whole time. It's as much HOW you do it, as what you do.
For me the how goes farther than the what!
For me, the 9 needs unrestrained DFK, inventiveness on the part of the provider, vocal enthusiasm and responsiveness to DATY.
His response saved me the time of typing almost those identical words.
Amenities that I care about:
Clean room, shower, and towel.
Bed is inviting and clean.
Background music can add quite a bit depending on the music.
Lighting level somewhere between cave-dark and Klieg-light bright.
Refreshements, snack, wine, that kind of stuff I generally bring with me.
NO TV! No ringing cell phone!
Now, these are merely the physical surroundings and environment that can help contribute to a positive experience. When it comes down to it, I am not even sure if a provider can DO any specific thing to get a 9-type score from me. I'm not saying that I am too harsh as a reviewer (although some may argue that point). But in order for me to evaluate an appointment with a provider as a 9 or 10, then there has to be some kind of specific mutual chemistry. Or at least I have to believe it is so.
A score of 8 (from me) means that I had a very good time and would likely repeat. A score of 9 means that she (or her Provider Persona) stirred something deeper in me. Laughter (hers and mine) is a very good indicator of this. Getting me to (internally) say, "Wow!" in the middle of our conversation can trigger it. Generally making me think that she'd love to be on a dinner date with me and me thinking that I'd love to be there as well.
Finally, apparent mutually enjoyable sexual interaction is key. Hey, I AM still a guy! (lol). Obvious faking anything will instantly kill the aura. Any sense that she is, "Going through the motions" will as well. Unrehearsed, unrestrained, relaxed pleasure is the key.
On second thought, maybe I AM a hard scorer! Either way, an 8 from me is a good review. A nine means you are a favorite. I am not sure what a 10 would be. Maybe me taking out a second mortgage so that I could wisk you away to Tahiti for a month??
See, I don't view the number scores strictly according to some artificial check list... They are a written description... There are lots of little things that enter into the way I feel.
NO TV unless porn is requested. (broadcast TV is a real turn off)
Romantic music
Candle or 2
a chair just so for my clothing. (This has grown on me. You're expecting him to undress, someplace other than the floor!)
Shower, nice towels, neutral scented products available if needed. Hotel towels often s*ck.
Moving on,
there's the mental connection which blurs the line with the physical... Mmmm. To get a 9, I have to get lost in the experience... the world beyond our bed ceases to exist. It is a high. Even with the most romantic civie relationships or my All Time Favorites it is NOT guarenteed.
While a lady should strive for 9-10's you really should be realistic that the union of 2 unique individuals may not always be the same... And That's ok. My Favs rate 8-9 performance pretty consistantly.
The most important part is the last line of a review: Will you see her again.
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