I think providers have a rule about not using a clients name. Especially providers in the USA. In other places that I have been providers called me by my name.

Always!

Juliet claimed that "a rose by any other name would smell as sweet"  meaning that the name mattered less than the person.

Dale Carnegie wrote that "If you remember my name, you pay me a subtle compliment; you indicate that I have made an impression on you. Remember my name and you add to my feeling of importance."

I believe that using a person's name (Correctly!) reaffirms that person's importance to you and your respect of them.  

How have you felt when someone has mispronounced your name or called you the wrong name?  How have you felt when someone offhandedly calls you Baby?  

Of course, the use of pet names is different when there is affection involved, which often develops with the people that I see.  I still like to use the name of the person when I speak with them.


Yes, you do matter to me.  I like to put forth the effort to use your name.  It is a small token to show that I see you as you, not just as a random person.

Re: Ladies...Do you ever, never or occasionally...

I refer to everyone I come in contact with by their first name...How do you communicate with out calling one another by a given name?  
This is one of the reasons I like to build a raport over the phone before an actually meeting.  It enables me to become acquainted with the person I am about to meet.

I have always been called by my first name during the heat of passion. Especially during DATY

I'm a low volume type of GFE, i only see maybe 2 a week if i'm lucky 3  but no more then that, so it's easy to remember a gents name, and yes, because i cum alot and it's not staged, i really cum ALOT lol because i'm having such a great time giving pleasure and having the favor given to me in return, i ALWAYS call out his name, many many times!
Jay

Every time we make love they scream:

"Oh God, oh God, oh God...."

Every girl that I have ever seen more than once has called me by my first name.  As for a first time meeting or a quickie agency girl, most of the time they don't remember your name within thirty seconds of seeing it on your driver's license. In cases like that I'm just looking for a quickie. I could care less if they remember my name.

call me by my name. In my private life, I've been called much worse.

No offense to everyone who chimed in, but all I heard was providers saying they do call guys by their name, and guys saying that providers call them by name.  I'm with Briar and I've posted about it b4, none have ever called me by name in person, and only a couple will use my name in an email. Of course, I should probably just ask them to use my name, but then it seems fake and less GFE.

So, I'm hoping we'll finally hear from a provider who can explain why names aren't used. Afraid of saying the wrong name? Afraid of creating a connection?

I have found that he usually gives me an startled look if I use his name. It could be because he is
- surprised that I could remember it
- doesn't want me to use/ remember it
- may not even be his real name.

Because the facial response is usually negative, I have opted to use him 'baby' or 'sweetie' but when I am serious in a discussion or mean business, I call him by his name.

I just noticed that I'm wearing a very nice tie (Someone I know in the fashion biz says it's easily a $100 item.) that a favorite gave to me some ten years ago.

My closets are full of nice things from providers I've known for many years.

Even the nice leather clutch I use for checking into hotels is from a provider friend.

Women have a knack for giving impeccible clothing gifts.  I wish I had the same knack for picking out clothing for them.

Re: Ladies...Do you ever, never or occasionally...

They never call me by my first name but they all call me the same name for some reason. So I went to city hall and changed my first name to "Littledick".

being a very low volume, the very idea of not knowing the name of a gentleman who is spending time with me is appalling, frankly. not only do i know his name, i know what he does for a living, what he does for fun in his spare time, his marital status, his personality type, many of his likes and dislikes, etc. these are things i take pains to know about a person before ever meeting them. i speak extensively with any potential client on the phone (usually several conversations at least), and we may talk about any subject under the sun. so that when we finally do meet, we are not strangers.


now with that said, while in a phone conversation i may initially refer to a person by name, in person that may be a bit more difficult. i'm a very shy and submissive woman, it feels a bit awkward for me to look a man in the eye and call him by name, as if we are equals or peers, when in my heart i feel that as a female i am beneath him in status (NOT in value of course), and his servant. so it is very rare that i call someone by name in person. very often i will say "Sir," instead. if i do speak their name, it is with head bowed, eyes lowered and with the utmost respect.

first off

not being defensive here but you do Not know who I see where when or how often.
Not only have I called them by name, I recognize their phone numbers and their voices when they call.
Many of us do only see one gent a day or work a few days a week. It has nothing to do with the economy,it's a preference. I was working a few days a week before it all went in the shitter. ( the economy that is)

Many Ladies have regular gentlemen as their clients, and we have a wonderful time in many ways, so I tend to use their name alot, not just in the throws of Passion.

So all have a great nite, I have my 1 client today I need to  get ready for.

Nicole

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WHAT!...You don't find "Sweetie", "Hun" or "Baby" endearing...I

can't imagine why...lol. And no, you're not asking for too much.

What is that old saying?  When you ASSUME you make ...

There are full time providers who may see more than one Gentleman a day ... there are part time ladies .. then there are very part time ladies.

For me it is rather easy to remember some one's name since I see very few gents and most on regular basis, maintaining constant contact with them via e mail, chat and/or phone.  

In my "civvie" life however I did have a situation once or twice where I had to say "or, THAT is your name"