and that was before I discovered hobbying... all civie... and some of them he admitted were HOT!

OH, he also told me about his adventures - before he met my mom!  I miss him so!  he was a good friend as well as a great dad.

Find out which credit card TER was using and why it was still good after all these years.  Might use the card for the hobby

In my case it would never have happened.  My dad was a sincere Christian man, and I KNOW this could never have happened.  But assuming it could:

Tell Mom - no, why cause her the pain.

Tag-Team - given that my dad is gone, impossible, but if he were here today, it would be WAY TOO WEIRD!

Blackmail - yeah right!!!  Dad was a career army officer!  Too quote a line from Bill Cosby, "I brought you into this world, I can take you out of it too!!!"

ABSOLUTELY - Say Nothing

I'd love to hear how a provider, particularly one who carefully hides her profession from her family, would respond if she discovered her father was a hobbyist.

Other interesting questions - you are a hobbyist, and discover your son is a hobbyist, how do you respond?  and if you discover your daughter is a provider?