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Taking things WAY too personally
InterestingWoman 4098 reads
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A potential client email me earlier today wanting to know if I would travel to the suburbs for an outcall appointment. He would pay for the room. You will find my response as well as his respond to my response below. (It's less confusing than it sounds.) I don't travel to the suburbs for a zillion reasons. The main reason being time and convenience. I'm simply unwilling to venture outside downtown for appointments when I could make the same amount of money or more within 5 miles from my apartment. This client obviously took my response WAY too personally. Additionally, his threat is very unnecessary. You guys are living proof that there are dozens of wonderful men from this site. Can you do me a favor and exterminate ones that threaten us? :-) Any suggestions?

well...sorry to insult you... I'll make sure all of my suburban friends on TER are
aware just what scum we are, so we need not trouble you.


 ----- Original Message -----
 From: xxxxxx
 To: xxxxx...
 Sent: Tuesday, May 04, 2004 12:21 PM
 Subject: Re: xxxxxx


 Hi! Thanks very much for your note, however I do not/will not travel to
 the suburbs for appointments. I am not a suburbs kind of girl:-) Thank you
 again for your offer.

 With warm regards,
 xxxxx

xenopus4291 reads

perhaps he was over the top but you did not have to add the second line..."I am not a suburbs kind of girl."  Forget it and move on though.  Otherwise you are taking it too personally.

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MasterYoda25539 reads

For those who haven't lived in Chicago, which I seem to recall is where IW is from, getting to the suburbs can be quite a trek.  As the traffic report said (daily) when I lived there: We-e-e-elll, the only free parking in Chicago today is on the Dan Ryan Expressway.  They'd always say, "expressway" with a sneer.  It's been almost 15 years since I lived there, and I can only imagine that it's gotten worse.

All of that said, I think your potential client DID take your comment too personally...You politely declined his request and tried to make a joke of it.  I wonder if he would consider coming into the city...if not, there are probably similar reasons.

Yoda

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BluesClue3532 reads

Synthesize xenopus and MasterYoda2's posts, and you have the perfect response.  To wit, take out "I am not a suburbs kind of girl" and, in lieu thereof, say "I would be interested in seeing you when you visit the city."

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lickerguy3921 reads

I agree with BluesClue. He probably took this phrase to mean you considered yourself better than him.  If you had done the phrase substitution like BC says, you'd have his business.  

Or you could have explained that you don't like to travel far. Ah well, we learn from our mistakes, too.  At least I hope I do, but sometimes I wonder!  :)

Perhaps he'll read this and understand what you meant.  :)

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Guz2962 reads

Yea, IW, I don't think you did anything wrong. The guy just took it the wrong way. Whatever. Pay no mind to it.

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BenzGuy644322 reads

I live in Chicago and would like to meet you.
Do you have a web site?  How can i contact you?

RAY :)

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tennislover1913 reads

Let me tag onto Ray here.  I'm a Chicagoan as well, and I'm happy to come downtown.  An "Interesting Woman" is one I'd like to meet also.

tennis

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PeterPickle2495 reads

This is case in point as to why your better off sticking to just the facts in written communications like email.  The lack of human interaction can often lead to misinterpretation. It happens all the time. He certainly over reacted, but if you stick to the facts you significantly lessen the chances of the reader having anything to misinterpret.  Why you won't go to the suburbs isn't anyone's business but your's so it's better off unmentioned.  A short yes I will/no I won't type answer would have sufficed just fine.  

Your just fueling the fire if you take any action to "exterminate the ones that threaten us". As they say.......Fuhgetaboutit. Don't make a mountain out of a mole hill.

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r_bear114055 reads

I think we should replace the word please with your reply.

What do the guys think? Your woman asks you to take out the garbage and instead of saying please she says... "I'll give you a BJ."

Would you do it then?

How much more could she get done around the house?

Just a thought.

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Dirk Bogard3678 reads

From what I've read and heard about you, Dollie...
I'd personally ride horseback in from the country and would be most gracious if you let me have my WAY with you, dearie.
GOODNESS GRACIOUS!

Tally-Ho!

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-- Modified on 5/5/2004 8:54:10 AM

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Dirk Bogard3917 reads

better "fel-late" than never, my dear...and twice no less...

If I ride bareback...three for a quarter?

for a minute there...I thought you modified it to fillet...YIPES!


Tally-Ho!

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