Maybe you folks should wear "outfits" next time

you can be one of the Power rangers & she can be
one of Powerpuff girls------aye caramba !

The hobby is not about your *performance*, it is about your pleasure.....

note the direction the money is flowing '

If you happen to be able to please the lady du jour, and happen to enjoy doing so, well and good.

But do not pressure yourself to "perform", unless she starts donating to you lol

Hey - whatever floats your boat but I'm there for her to impress, and please, *me*....

I sometimes need a penalty shot to get it over the crease.

But seriously folks...

She is out of line saying that to you.

Sex should not be about performance, leave that to work and sports and that kind of thing.

Sex should be about fun, and putting performance expectations upon you isn't helping matters.

See someone who is committed to you having a good time.

Don't worry about hitting one out

Your performance?  I thought it was about your pleasure.  Pleasure can come in many forms.  Powerful mind-bending happy endings or not.  How about walking out the door happy because you spent time with someone you enjoyed your time with?  We all have off days.  I'll bet almost everyone at some time just had a penis that did not want to perform. I don't think that was very nice what she said to you.  I would never say that.

A civvy I had been out with a few times but not yet intimate..
Summarized.After dinner and drinks she invited me in and we started kissing, lightly at first with our passion quickly rising. She moved  her hand down my chest, and told me she wanted me to give it to her hard. Next thing I know she has her hand on my pants at my zipper, grabbed my package, lightly squeezed and said " I would have thought your Dick was bigger than that"
Most of the time I can make up for my small dick if I concentrate, but her comment ruined the  mood. I told her thats as big as it will ever get for you.I left without her knowing it would have grown a couple more inches, if she had a better attitude.
One thing about Providers..There is no reason to have performance anxiety unless you are Broke.

hense the term "screwing"...  & etc.

I schedule in advance, so when I get to the appointment I may or may not be completely in the mood. Or I may not have gotten enough rest, or I'm stressed from work. Then there's the fact that you're having sex with someone you don't know very well, and you're on the clock. And the condoms kill a lot of the sensation, so I'll have to do things differently to get off. I've had problems in the hobby that I've never ever had outside of the hobby, but when things do go well it can be a lot of fun. Short answer: It varies.

What sort of woman would insult your performance after you pay her money?  That would have been my last visit with this "seasoned" lady...

I can't believe she said that.  The guy like GTM and MrFisher are right.  You're there to enjoy yourself, not get handed another set of expectations to live up to.

"During my last visit with a seasoned provider I felt that my performance wasn't up to par."
This first comment can spell disaster especially if you feel that way going in (no pun intended) And then...

"I guess I wasn't really into it."
This says a lot as well. Are you confessing to having it all together? Or, perhaps she did not turn you on in the right way? We loose some and we win some. That's sort of why it's a hobby. Some of us have our bad days. Some are because she just was not what we needed in the final analysis. Some we can blame on ourselves because we are just out for a simple ride, we did not get enough sleep the night before, are stressed about other things in life. Look, it takes two people to make a successful session.

Of course it is suppose to be ALL ABOUT ME, yet you do share 50% to the duties in making it good.

"give it to me with more power next time"?
One would have to know (and only you do), what context that comment was made. Remember she did say "next time". It sounds to me she wants you to come back. Again, only you know how that was delivered to you. You will have to decide if you want to return and give it to her with "more power" and then some. HELL YEAH, give her everything she can handle.... or move on. She what happens with the next one.

Next, Next and Next... dayum I love this here hobby and you should two. lol

I've had sessions with three in an hour (a duo) and one gal who managed three on her own in 90 minutes (I miss her!).

Some times I have a tough time with two in an hour which is "my standard". This can be due to many things such as allergy meds, etc. The most important factor is state of mind. I know we guys like to think we're fucking machines (as do SOME not-too-bright ladies)... but we're really pretty emotionally complex when it comes to sex and orgasms. We need more on the connection side (mostly as we get older) that we might think.

I do miss the days when I could get and keep wood for hours just because she was in the same building

If she told me that, I would interpret it as meaning she enjoyed herself and thinks she may have some ideas for creating new experiences for us.

I saw one lady almost exclusively for about a year because she genuinely wanted to do exactly that. We would talk about things we wanted to experience as a couple and this led to many very intense sessions! I have another lady now who thinks along the same lines. Hot Damn!!

If you want to fulfill the lady's request, take a Vitamin V and have at it. You may find that there's a side of you that she sees and you don't. That's one of the most fun things about the hobby!