So my wife is giving me a blow job this weekend, and its either taking a bit longer than usual, or she is not as into it.  I comment that it seems like its more of a 'chore' for her than doing it out of tenderness.
She replies to me.."its not that, its just that its hard to do...you should try it sometime"

I let it pass, but I was thinking.  Was she just saying it, kinda like it was a bother.  Or do women have a fantasy that they'd like to see their husband sucking cock.  I kinda think the former, but I'd like to hear from the ladies or guys if relevant info or experience.

I have heard somewhere that a very high percentage of men, fantasize about watching their wives have sex with another man; I know thats not the same as this (or is it?), but wanted to see what any of the women had to say on the subject?

...she didn't want to do it.

I love giving BJ's, but sometimes its hard on the neck/shoulders/knees to keep it up for awhile.  It's also possible that she just wasn't in the mood, but was still trying to be a good, accommodating wife.  Then, again, maybe her hint was you should be giving her some oral, not that she wants to see you with another man.

Everybody I know the last time any wifey lips was on a dick was before they got married and rare or none after.

I think for some women it is hard on them depending how big their partner is. There is a reason why they call it a blow JOB...(I'm not taking credit for that comment). If it was so easy and comfortable why was it not called "blow fun"? Really, sometimes sex...any position with anyone can be painful and awkward. I find the most comfortable position or I stop. Each to his or her own...

You complained WHILE you were getting a blow job to the woman that was giving it to you? Gutsy move! I would guess that what she was saying was "try walking a mile in my shoes before you complain". Sorry but, unless she was hurting you, I can't even comprehend your complaining about ANYTHING in the middle of lovemaking.

I agree with most here that she was probably being sarcastic.

I tease my SO all the time and he believes that I truly want to see him with another man. Lol.  I dunno maybe I do...

If you were MY husband and complained, you wouldn't get another one from me. Once a man EXPECTS something instead of APPRECIATING it, he NEVER gets it again from me, regardless of what it is.

Any chance you could ask your wife what she meant?  If you make sure to pose it as you are curious, and give her multiple choices for answers to make it easier for her to respond if she is shy, who knows what it could lead to?  You could try something like "The comment you made the other night led me to wonder if there is something that I could do to make giving me oral/bj/whatever easier or more exciting for you?  I was also wondering if you may have meant that you wanted to receive more often? It even crossed my mind that maybe you meant you'd like to see me get head from another guy - or maybe you meant something else altogether?"  

Obviously pick and choose your moments!  If you have kids, make sure they aren't going to interrupt if you guys get into a good conversation (that could lead to more!)  Don't bring it up when she's tired, or when the in-laws are on their way over.  Sometimes people find it easier to talk bring up semi-awkward subjects in the car, because you aren't forced to stare at each other but still have privacy.  

I am a provider, posting under an alias because I am not looking for new business right now.  But I absolutely love giving blow jobs, don't have any desire to see my man with another man but I would love to watch two men together to see what I might learn!  

Good luck!

LOL, your johnson is either really big or really small. I personally love a challenge.

that plenty of women do enjoy playtime with bisexual males. I'm not sure exactly what it is that's hot about it, perhaps it's partly because you can watch everyone playing and enjoying each other, partly maybe that a girl can have the fantasy of 2 guys without having to worry that they're uncomfortable being in that situation... Who knows? I find it very telling looking at various websites out there, seeing that those behaviors are going on a lot more than anyone in the mainstream may be aware of. Lots of "straight" guys appear to bend a little, from what I've seen on the net...

I think part of it is sort of natural escalation due to exposure. Sort of like the first time you saw a porn, just any human contact was so scintillating that you'd get off so easily. Then you reach a point where you need to be watching more and more taboo things, or whatever, in order to get off. I think sex itself sort of follows along that same trajectory. After some point, the hypersexual cross boundaries they didn't think they would cross, and they find out they enjoyed it more than they ever thought they would have.

Just some thoughts.


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Thx for the thoughts..will do.  I am also under alias.  Would love to see you, you are thoughtful and alluring.

And the fact that you have insight into this, to me means you are an upper eschlon provider.

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No body every talks about a kissing job