I will never expect you to listen with rapt attention to me comparing the merits of mules versus sling backs.

I will never ask you if an outfit makes my ass look big.

I will never call you at 3 am just because I was thinking of you (and never for once thought you might be sleeping).

And most importantly, I will go away when we are done having our fun

See why I love being a cheeky tart??

The only way for a middle-aged, married fat guy to get this is to pay for it...

It's very difficult if not impossible to pay them to "go away" (especially if you ever want to see them again).

After 84 reviews you have to ask that?

In FULL agreement with Sin.

Providers provide a limited experience where it's action oriented, usually. If friendships develop, great, but lest you forget, you're paying for the lady's time and to be nice to you when she might not give you a second look on the street.

A civvie is someone who is there because she wants to be with you, not your money (hopefully- otherwise that's a seperate category, gold digger.) With a civvie, you have a relationship that's all about a variety of things, but if it's solely to get laid, she's what you call a booty call which is nothing more than free empty meaningless 2am sex with someone cool. Of course, you could always just be boning someone, which in the 20-something bar scene means you're "seeing" someone. lol. If you've committed to her, she's your gf and you can expect to be her date to family affairs, the person she laughs with, cries to, spends lazy Sundays in bed, etc... (I could go on and on like this all day. haha.)

If after your 84 reviews, this post is intended to help you redistinguish the lines between the 2 or to encourage you to find a civvie, I'd recommend not treating a civvie like a provider. In fact, I'd recommend that you figure out in your mind what it is you want from a lady in general. Stop looking at civvies as what they can provide for you. Either you want to grow a relationship with someone or you don't, but your post makes me think you're too busy looking out for your needs to worry about a relationship with a civvie...  unless of course it's cheap meaningless sex. Then I would say cruise the bars, buy drinks and hope she doesn't pass out on you on the way back to your place.

Always a brat,
Katie


-- Modified on 2/24/2008 2:18:02 PM

One of my clients just asked me this...

My response-We both get what we really want without all the stresses or expectations of a relationship.

Now, I would date if I could find a single guy that was comfortable with me seeing other guys, even I weren't a provider. I don't believe in monogamy. Maybe I haven't found one, because I haven't really been looking. LOL

I'd like to ask some of my 'civvie' male friends why they don't consider hobbying. Their dating lives seem so stressful and they're spending money, anyway, and are so often disappointed in the end result.

really "gets" me. One that makes love to me because she REALLY wants to. One that cherishes me and worships the ground I walk on, and does it all out of the pure goodness of her heart.

She then and only then takes a modest sum, that was mutually agreed upon before hand, in payment to leave, after I remind her that our time is up. And on her way out she reminds me that she can return (with only a day or two notice) whenever I need some more.

Now that's MY idea of a civie girl friend. Anyone know where I can find someone like that?

**wink wink**


-- Modified on 2/24/2008 7:03:44 PM

Most of the professional women that I have met, I think of in terms of "what if we had met under different circumstances" or "earlier in my life."  There are few civie women that I have met who are as interesting, charming or as fun to be with as my escort friends.  I have shared much with my escort friends.. and they with me.  

And just so the skeptics among you don't get too smug... I know more than one escort who won't see "just anyone."  In fact, some of them, I consider it an honor that they would be with me.  And some, it has been more than just a paid date.  More like an evening with a friend... a very close and personal friend...

So with that as background - why this route rather than civie date?  for starters, I am at a stage in my life where I just do not wish a great deal of committment... I also do not have a lot of time to "fiddle around" trying to get it right... (heck, that takes a lot of time).  and finally, most of the women I know in my civie life, if I did go with them, if I messed up, it would make work or community life difficult... and I just don't want that.  So aside from the sex, there are a host of reasons I do this... but one of the reasons is the quality of ladies I have met who happen to work as escorts.  guess - I've been lucky....