Or, you have a strong propensity to either choose people who believe your mannerisms typify assholes, or they way you treat people qualifies you as an asshole, but the people you hire on a temporary basis aren't willing to let you know that until your future business is highly doubtful.
Deprive
I agree with you in all three situations that as far as a normal business transaction goes, you were right and they were wrong. Hobbying however, is not a normal business transaction. It is much more personal. Providers are, to be crass, the product. But they are not a widget produced in a factory in China. They are people with moods, emotions, and opions about their clients.
I'm guessing you are a type A personality, who is in a position of power at work, and used to getting your way due to that power. You intimidate your "underlings" and get your way. Your attitude and manner express this dominant position with a sense of entitlement. You interact with the provider from this same position feeling entitled to your desires.
Guess what? You are wrong. This is the providers business deal. It is all up to them. Even though it is against your normal operating procedure, be humble. Be thankful. You still do not have to accept their service not up to your standards, but you do not have to let them know, or know why. That is where you are being an asshole.
If you do not want to be called an asshole, then do not throw it back at them to tell how they are failing. Refrain from pointing out their errors. Refrain from showing them that they are lacking and are disapointing you. Humbly tell them thankyou. It is not going to work out and leave/ hang up (gently).
How do I know? My gut reaction is the self entitled, superior position, degrading, flaw revealing asshole. I have mellowed. I still have the thoughts, I just try to not express them.
No one would ever dispute that claim.
But that is a totally seperate issue . Your response to the 3 ladies was not inappropriate or unfair.
Their action was unprofessional.
Are you sure there isn't more to this story? Like a picture of you leaked out to them or something? LOL
Sorry this happen
As far as assholes go you are my favorite.
Happy Holidays to you and yours.
Posted By: OSP
.three different hookers can't be wrong lol
Hooker #1. "Sweetie I woke up late today, can we meet at a later time?
Me: No. I choose this time for a very good reason. Thanks. I'll try someone else.
Hooker: You're an asshole. I don't wanna see you anyway
Hooker #2: Honey I won't be able to do "A" today. Is that ok?
Me: I chose you because of your willingness to do "A". Thanks. I'll try someone else.
Hooker: You're an asshole. I don't wanna see you anyway.
Hooker#3: Darlin I have changed my rates since we made the appt. Hope you don't mind.
Me: I chose you because your rates were reasonable. Thanks. I'll try someone else.
Hooker: You're an asshole. I don't wanna see you anyway.
So one can easily assume that I'm a major anus lol
