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macdaddy1944 51 Reviews 1723 reads
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a question for my provider friends..my fellow hobbyists sometimes say " she was fantastic..i cant wait to see her again " do providers ever feel that way? do you block that feeling out? did you ever have a client who was so attractive and fun to be with you told yourself " i cant wait to see him again " are you disappointed if he never asks to see you again? as i said in my last thread..emotional intimacy can be tricky..some welcome it..others avoid it.what say you?

Naomi_Sweets249 reads

Its not so much that "I cant wait" its more a feeling of "I look foward to seeing you again".

I have met some wonderful gentlemen who I have enjoyed being with and always look forward to seeing again when they are ready.

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Sexy Carolina371 reads

And we also do/did get to see him again.
I would not be hurt/disappointed if I never saw him again. many friends only play once or twice a year when they travel...such is life. And then there is an ATF you like..and one day you can't see him and he finds another fav...such is life. You make the best of every moment that you can and understand that in some cases we can't DICKtate it! :)

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sexyangelique69163 reads

... you have to tell yourself that you may never see him again no matter how much you like him.

I tell myself that right when the session ends so there is no disappointment later. Geez, I used to do that with casual lovers before I ever got into this business. It's the nature of men. If there is no commitment, there is no promise you will see him again no matter how much you would like to.

If I do hear from a client I liked a lot and he wants to see me again, it's a welcome surprise!

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kendradc2011329 reads

Everyone we meet is different so there are times that we have fantastic conversations and really do enjoy that person. Sometimes they were just fun to be with because of many factors and yes I'd like to see them again. Not sure you could say it was emotional intimacy but maybe the ease we felt with that one person was nice. There are connections I have with some of my regulars that are very special to me.

So for me I haven't ever been disappointed....but my life is complete so sometimes if you are feeling a whole in your life then you might get that rejected feeling if they don't schedule again.

Posted By: macdaddy1944
a question for my provider friends..my fellow hobbyists sometimes say " she was fantastic..i cant wait to see her again " do providers ever feel that way? do you block that feeling out? did you ever have a client who was so attractive and fun to be with you told yourself " i cant wait to see him again " are you disappointed if he never asks to see you again? as i said in my last thread..emotional intimacy can be tricky..some welcome it..others avoid it.what say you?
Related Link: http://kendradc.escort-site.com

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Dr Who revived284 reads

contact that great fella and ask him to join you for dinner...on your dime!

Might be crossing a boundary...but there seem to be many fellas here that would "love" that type of invitation.

And since you say that this happens to you "all the time"....just a thought :)

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Dr. joe234 reads

I have had patients to whom I have become very attached but who then moved away or decided to change physicians or whatever.  I would not think of trying to keep up a non professional relationship when this happens involving continued examinations and medical advice on a friend to friend basis.  Why would a profession woman who has become attached to a client feel any differently.  The attachment can still be strong, but it is professional.

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Dr Who revived208 reads

and I have many clients that I see professionally as well...

And many of them are friends who I am happy to see outside of our professional relationship.

And it's an easy to maintain type of relationship...as far as I'm concerned.

Perhaps that is why they call it a "friendship".

Imagine the possibilities?

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kendradc2011142 reads

Though I can't divulge who and when, I can tell you that I do have OTC dinners on my dime....because I believe in giving back some of what I have received. I know alot of the ladies don't like to hear these things but it makes my clients feel appreciated.

When you make this business all about the money you take out the enjoyment also.

Related Link: http://kendradc.escort-site.com

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sexyangelique69162 reads

It just isn't that simple. Guys are coming to us for unattached, drama free interaction with women. The minute you start showing that you "like the guy" and want to see him off the clock, you risk that you have now turned it into something he DOESN'T want.

So, now, if I "like the guy," I give him extra bonus time but I don't offer off the clock sessions anymore. I want to make sure I keep seeing him and I don't want to cross the line in anyway that will make him feel uncomfortable and drive him away.

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mysecondalias232 reads

In these cases, I ask myself simple questions "What is wrong with him? Why he has to hire providers?"

Like magic, the feeling goes away :)

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Claudius42310177 reads

but some clients PREFER and do not HAVE to play in this arena. there are as many reasons as folks.

in my case it is simple. i'm old and decrepit. i'm also spoiled by a lifetime of interesting, beautiful edgy, artistic intelligent companionship in the civy world. i can either stay civy and less happily entertained or i can indulge in compensated companionship. a generous donation overcomes any of my deficiencies in the civy dating world.

there is a difference between choice and necessity. i hope that you are not jaded and look down on your clients.... that this is just a mental trick you employ....

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mysecondalias188 reads

If you walk into a bar, what are the chances that women of the same age and appearance as women you have reviewed might go home and have sex with you and give you praise?

What would it take for you to have that caliber of women welcome your advances?

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Claudius42310199 reads

10 or 20 years ago your "walk into a bar" scenario was not a problem and quite doable. aside from the "walk into a bar" scenario i have had several SOs, each over periods of double digit years who were of the caliber of women i have reviewed.

so what would it take? a significant improvement in my health and a time machine. ;-)

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mysecondalias180 reads

Again, no disrespect. Absolute majority of customers (99.99999%) pay for sex because they must. I simply do not like when people are deluding themselves that this is something they choose vs have to do.

In your case I would answer "whats wrong with him that he must pay for sex" with  "his age and health".

In another case I may say "his social skills", or "his sexual capacity", etc etc.  There is always something that makes a man pay.

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Claudius42310164 reads

i can still walk into a bar and walk out with a woman who is 5-15 years younger and at least _somewhat_ less decrepit than i. that _choice_ is open to me. i can adapt to those circumstances or continue to "spoil" myself by compensating companions. i consciously CHOOSE the latter. it is a choice if i have other options and choose whether or not to exercise them as i see fit. therefore i DO NOT HAVE TO and in fact I NEVER "pay for sex". i pay for time, companionship, and with certain ladies who have the right specialized skills, therapeutic non sexual experiences.

your insistence upon compulsion ("makes a man pay") is not respectful at all. ;-)

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mrfisher190 reads

I finally got up and let her out.

(ba-doom)

But seriously folks:

There is nothing "wrong" with hobbyists that we HAVE to pay women to make love to us.  We may not look like George Cluney, but we have mostly are or have been married, and have the resources to appear atrractive if that's what needed.

First of all, consider this prime given:  Sex is NEVER free.

There are bargains to be had, but sex always creates a debt that must be paid.

For reasons that are clear to some, and will become clear to anyone who goes in another direction, the hobby is by far the best bargain for obtaining sexual fulfillment.

The cost of sex in the hobby are quite clear.  Outside of the hobby, you may find yourself with a balloon payment to make someday.  I know I have.

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mysecondalias169 reads

You and I have never met but I know several ladies who know you personally. From what I've heard you're a great company and a gentleman.


You also seem to have no illusions.

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Claudius42310159 reads

i don't regret my "balloon" payments, they were equitable and non punitive. but the costs of civy relationships often include the risks of the question of setting up a new joint domicile... either way there are risks of drama. ith a chronic disease that is aggravated by stress i cannot well afford that.

there was one person in the last 10 years for whom would have been willing to carry the risks forward. i am likely lucky that the lady was unwilling.

there is something to be said for "we pay you to go away" also. although i think that is a bit harsh. rather, i welcome hearing from my "lady friends". so "we pay you to go away" isn't strictly true for me either.

i really refuse to be "categorized". it isn't respectful at all.

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mysecondalias171 reads

I HAVE to pay to other people to do all these tasks because I can not do any of that myself.  

I am afraid we will  have to agree to disagree.  I prefer to call things what they are while customers of sex workers prefer to delude themselves that it is a choice.

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Dr Who revived169 reads

So you do acknowledge that YOU have a choice...and your choice is to hire folks to do the things YOU don't want to do.

No argument here whatsoever.

That's why I hire gals to blow me and such...I prefer not to do it myself :)  That's MY choice!

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Claudius42310168 reads

i think that "mysecondalias" has choice and necessity confused in some way because that confusion is an important defense mechanism. i doubt that clarity will be achieved soon or on the board.

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mysecondalias182 reads

that's not really a choice, is it?

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Claudius42310149 reads

food, clothing, and shelter are all capable of being provided by any human who is not physically or mentally impaired. my carpentry skills are minimal, my sewing and gardening are excellent.

anyone with kindergarten skills can choose to make their own.

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Claudius42310161 reads

that's OK. clearly you have some needs that are served by disbelieving my point. i understand, YOU have no choice. ;-)

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Claudius42310173 reads

it looks to me like you are so much in the habit of justifying your own "choices" as "necessities".  you have hopelessly muddled the distinction between having a choice and not having a choice in your own mind.

no one is pointing a gun at your head preventing you from growing your own food, building your own house, or making your own clothing. there are still "homesteading" possibilities available....

i hope that no one is pointing a gun to your head to be in this business. then you would be a victim of something evil. if you are in this business out of choice, that is one thing. if you are in it out of necessity.... i would not want to patronize that kind of business. i only want to deal with folks who are free to choose to deal with me.

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mysecondalias205 reads

With the exception of street walkers and women who are victims of trafficking, all sex workers are engaged in this work because they want to.

They (myself included) COULD work in less lucrative jobs.

I do not understand why men find it difficult to admit they pay for NSA sex with young attractive women because they have to pay for it.

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Claudius42310167 reads

luxury is not a necessity. just as a choice is not a necessity.

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Dr Who revived201 reads

You again can't apparently READ your own posts!  You and every SW has the "choice" to do this work.  And then to insult street walkers as ALL victims of trafficking....YOU ARE DELUSIONAL!!

Yet John's DON'T have that same choice.

And I may indeed agree with some men paying for sex with "young attractive women"...and I don't know if that is you...I'd be willing to bet you aren't.  

Perhaps if you got off of your throne and stopped crapping on the very John's who put a roof over your head (not one that you built...by choice), you better keep on using your alias.

But don't forget...your words follow you...and it's not all that tough to figure who is who on the NEW TER!

Just sayin!!

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Illusion2010156 reads

You can substitute sex with a provider, and hobbyits know that. As long as hobbyits have disposable income and are lazy enough or short of time, they will go to a provider. Similarly, providers have a choice, to work harder and be frugal or have tons of cash and time to enjoy it.

There is nothing like "HAVE TO," my dear. If that was the case provider income would be permanent like tax revenue.

Posted By: mysecondalias
With the exception of street walkers and women who are victims of trafficking, all sex workers are engaged in this work because they want to.

They (myself included) COULD work in less lucrative jobs.

I do not understand why men find it difficult to admit they pay for NSA sex with young attractive women because they have to pay for it.

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Ishootcraps156 reads

we choose sex that we must pay for, that reason may not preclude us from being a potential "can't wait see you again" kinda of guy. Just like just because you chose this career path for one period of your life, it doesn't preclude you from entering into a committed relationship, even with a past client, at some future time of your life.

I think may have had several opportunities to develop a relationship with other women (never really tried the "walking in to a bar" scenario, I've always met them professionally or through volunteer activities), but i could never pursue that because, 1) i could never find the time to commit to two relationships and 2) it would mean i would have to lie to her, my wife (she knows about my hobby) or both of them, and i would much rather develop an extra curricular relationship based on a professional exchange rather than lies.

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mysecondalias170 reads

I met someone last month as a customer and it was everything I want in a man, but he is married. Married men have to pay working girls or risk complications of possible divorse.

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JustCantGetEnough168 reads

I'm technically not married though, so you still have hope. ;)  

Posted By: mysecondalias
I met someone last month as a customer and it was everything I want in a man, but he is married. Married men have to pay working girls or risk complications of possible divorse.

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Alpha.Mate140 reads

You are contradicting yourself. Earlier you stated that you think there is something wrong in a man seeing a provider, and now you find a perfect man in the hobby world. What is it?

The fact is that most providers and hobbyists do not respect each other and will never marry in the business.

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JustCantGetEnough184 reads

It is much better than getting emotionally involved with another girl. My GF is still special to me despite my "secret life"

Most of us have a civvy girl,
sometimes very good looking 20-somethings.


Posted By: mysecondalias
With the exception of street walkers and women who are victims of trafficking, all sex workers are engaged in this work because they want to.

They (myself included) COULD work in less lucrative jobs.

I do not understand why men find it difficult to admit they pay for NSA sex with young attractive women because they have to pay for it.

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macdaddy1944119 reads

saw a provider some time ago..she is back in town..e-mailed me today and said " i cant wait to see you again" i appreciate that..some will say it..some will think it but dont say it..some just wont say it..

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