Do you guys ever write an email or PM to a provider that you might want to see but are not sure. If you didn't like her response and not clicking, would she get mad at you for not schedueling a meeting?

I've only wrote to ladies I've seen.  I never wanted to be a time waster.

But i would like to email a few that im interested in and see which one has the best response to what I wanna hear. Should I?  Or just email one girl I know im gonna see?

Ladies and gents opinions appreciated.

and I have had some write to me just to say hi; on occasion we have hooked up, but not always.

I don't think I ever decided not to meet up with someone because I determined that I would not like them, however.

I agree, do not want to be a time waster. That's why research is so important.  I mean, why waste both of your times?????

Swim

...With multiple providers at once?

They go on the bottom of the priority list when they write again looking for an appointment.

I had a regular client playing games with me this week basically trying to get the sweetest, most creative response - it was clear that he was deciding whether or not to see me and wanted to be convinced.

After playing along for several exchanges I shafted him and booked a flirtatious but direct inquiry (who wanted more time anyway).

As a client you're entitled to tickling your fancy and playing your game however you want to.
Don't be surprised if it annoys the provider (and anyone who has been around for more than five minutes knows who is a serious client, who isn't and who is looking to be coaxed into booking).

There is nothing wrong with gaging chemistry but don't take advantage or waste the provider's time or you may find that she won't be available when you get back around to her.

You are talking about fishing, not to be confused with having "intentions of seeing" anyone in particular.

Most guys have probably set out with intentions to book someone and for whatever reason decided to backpedal due to any number of given circumstances.

What you are describing is using their e-mail replies as criteria for making a choice. That's your prerogative, but not really a good measure of what to expect behind the door in my experience. Generally, not much time nor effort is wasted on trying to impress you via e-mail...probably has something to do with guys doing exactly what you describe.

And if they get wind of you doing it; i.e. several of them know each other and your name comes up, they are going to size you up as a bullshitter and time waster, regardless of if that's the case or not.

Emailing an escort in order to find out if you two are clicking IS being a time waster. Like others have said, she can tell if that's all you're doing. If something she writes is a major turn-off, then back out, but don't use email to audition candidates.

If you are able to make more than one appointment, then contacting more than one girl at a time is okay. It's worked for me. I've called one girl, waited a while for her to call back, then tried another girl and reached her. Of course, the first girl called back right afterwards, so we set something up for a few days later. No sweat.

I have met a few gals on the boards and we do on occasion email/PM each other.
I’ve not seen them mainly because she is there and I’m here, and there is more than a few miles separating here and there. However if any of the gals do come here or if I go there I would sure like to get together with the gal.


Thank you
2011 = 28

haven't seen yet.  Now the rest of the story, I most definately plan on seeing them in 2011.  Currently there are less than 6 ladies on my bucket list.  Nothing wrong with simple flirting as long as you don't become a time-waster.

Regular PM's because of a particular post are not included in the above statement.  I have PM'd ladies from many parts of the US that I will most likely not have the opportunity to see due to logistics.  

E-mail contact is used mostly for setting up the date.  I have way more access to e-mail than I have availability to call on my hobby phone.

I have never contacted a lady that I was not interested in meeting. But I have indeed made contact long before the possibility of booking with them in order to introduce myself...get some info about me to them and express my hope we could hook up when our schedules and locals allowed.  For example I am seeing a lady in a few days whom I've been in contact with for nearly 2 years. Until now we simply could not work out a time to meet.  In a few months I will be seeing a lady in LA whom I've been exchanging PMs and baord banter with for well over a year. When I was in LA she was somewhere else...when she toured DC I was a few Ks away.    What I have never done is cast a cyber net to determine who the lucky lady would be.  Actually, in my experience, some of the best times I've had were with babes that might not have been that seductive in their emails or PMs.  not the best way to make a decision [ if that is waht you are asking] or fairest.

I much prefer to contact a lady via e-mail.  I generally do so a week or more before I am looking to meet her and I feel e-mail allows her to reply when she can.

There may be many reasons why we never actually meet.  Schedules do not match up, her tone gives me the feeling we will not fit well, or she is not where I thought she was--it is more common that I would have thought to find an ad or post saying a lady will be in one city but when I write she says she is no longer there.

I never write a lady unless I intend to see her but sometimes upon further review it does not work out.  I am always polite about it and have never had any problems.

you are asking here if it is ok to write to several ladies at the same time and then book with the 1 that gives you the response you are looking for.

To be honest, as a provider I think that is a bad idea.

I think your best bet is to read the last 5-10 reviews of each lady you are thinking about emailing and then contacting the one who's reviews most fit your needs and or desires.  If she doesn't get back to you within a set period of time then feel free to move on to the 2nd and go from there.

The problem with contacting several ladies at once is several reasons.  Here are a few:

*If you provide reference info, all but the 1st to contact will know that you have used her for a reference in the last day or 2.  NO lady wants to hear that, and likely you would be deemed a time waster to the 2nd and 3rd provider and the lady providing references is going to think something hooky of you too.

*If you don't provide a reference, we will still know you were "fishing".  Fishing is where you cast out the line of several poles that then take the one who usually responds the fastest.  We know because even though it only took us a short time to get back to you, you respond that you now have other plans.  We are not stupid, 9 out of 10 times it means you booked another girl and you are no longer deemed an "ideal" guest.

*Ladies talk, and many are closer then you might think.  If 2 friends get emails from you and then they are talking and the emails are mentioned you will be deemed a time waster in their eyes and you are unlikely to get a favorable responce if they even grace you with one at all.


So, contact your fav of the 3-4.  If she doesn't get back to you quick enough move on to # 2.  At least you would have a reasonable excuse of not hearing back within XX amount of hrs.

I agree diddling anybody is stupid,and there are people who do that and should be cut off.  But given how busy some providers are, it's not out of line to be checking out several for the same time period.  If you put all your eggs in one basket you could end up sitting home along developing repetitive stress syndrome in your wrist.  So it really should be OK to try a few different providers and commit to the first one who gets back to you.

I understand your point and I think our differing perspectives are simply from being on opposite sides of the transaction.  What I mean is that, because of my personal situation, my window can be very narrow.  So I need to be sure that I'll be able to see someone, or it could be weeks before I'm free again.  Given the uncertainties of providers' business and their differing business approaches, just approaching one is a sure way for me to be dateless on the day in question.  So approaching more than one is the only rational way.  BTW, I have never wasted a lady's time and no one I've contacted has felt their time was wasted.  I do my homework.  Sometimes I am dateless anyway.  That's life.  And it cuts both ways.  In my most recent foray I contacted 4 providers via e-mail.  Two never even replied.  The first of the other two responded quickly, and I speedily let the other know I was no longer available.  She was fine with it and I will see her another time.  As they say, "That's life in the big city."

I won't contact a lady unless I am interested. But, there are numerous reasons that a date never happens. I won't waste a lady's time with numerous e-mails. Usually two or three e-mails is sufficient to set a date, or not.

If there are several ladies in town I would like to see and I do not have a flexible schedule would you rather I not call to see if you can accommodate me at the time I need.  Odds are if I contact several ladies only one will fit my needed time.  If I wait for a response from lady #1 which may or may not come in time; who loses by me making initial contact with several providers to assure I have a playmate when I can fit it in.  I'm not wasting time by asking if you can do a 3 hr outcall (ex. Sunday at 10:00 pm).   Or by sending several emails asking same of several ladies.  I think this is a different situation when you have time constraints. IMHO
Doc

I have a difficult time understanding how wanting to see how a lady responds is a time waster.  I make a decision on who to see based partially upon the whole package, not just photos.  If she can not write a coherent sentence, or comes across as glazed over, or replies with a non sequitor to what I wrote  ("Whatever Hon, call me 30 min before you want to meet"), then I choose not to see her.  This is unnecessary for some ladies based upon how the present themselves on their web site, but many generic web sites do not tell me what I need to make an informed decision.

Foe some men who primarilly are interested in looks I understand why they may not feel the need to do so.

and to be honest ladies will often say it is no big deal to your face and often think another thing entirely(not me, I hate pandering), so you will never truly know how that provider who wasn't the "one" this time round thinks about you.  Moving on..

I was addressing the OP, not your personal plights.  He asked about sending out emails to several ladies and seeing the one who gave him the reasonable he is looking for.  This has NOTHING to do with not hearing back in time.  

I address the OP in this statement.  I understand we are getting paid to be at your beck and call, but if the situation were reversed would you be happy?

If said lady talked to 2 guys about the same slot and gauged it as to who had the better offer, is that ok?  I mean how would you feel if you were the first guy who contact her and she said she had that time so you thought you were a go.  Confirmation time the day prior comes round and there is none, or she calls to say something came up or she forgot about your appt and is taking the other appt because it is a dinner date.  

Heck I know some ladies intentionally double book thinking that if one of them doesn't show up she is covered, if they both show she pushes one out as soon as she can and delays the other saying she is running late.  It isn't right.  

I want guests to want ME not just the next girl on their list, WHY?  Be cause you are going to get the very best I have to give if you are there to see me.  If that isn't what you want then perhaps you are just a lister...and any girl will do.

GL, Sage

He asked about sending out emails to several ladies and seeing the one who gave him the responce he is looking for.  Kind like auditioning and comparing the ladies responses to pick the one he wants.  I think doing his homework and checking the ladies out would work a whole lot better.  Some chicks can tear it up writing but you get them near a bed and they flop like a fish out of water, fake moans and the like.  This has NOTHING to do with not hearing back in time.

Please don't misunderstand I'm not talking about a girl not getting back to a guy quickly.  I am talking about checking availability of more then one lady if under a specific time constraint.  While I agree I prefer to schedule time with a specific lady in mind time does not always allow for that.  And yes I realize it was not addressing the exact question of the OP, but I did feel it was a pertinent tangent.
Doc

Part of my business is in sales. I deal with empty offer all the time. I also have to deal with out and out time wasters. Yes, it is sometimes annoying but it is life in any service industry. That being said I happy with any inquiry into my goods or services because sometimes you can get a "time waster" to bite. Passing up on such opportunities is not how I built my business up so fast. The fact I don't pass up on such opportunities is why my business is thriving in this economy while many of my competitors are closing up. In any service industry the customer's happiness is key, even before the sale.

New customers are just shopping until they do business with you. Until you somehow set yourself above your competition you will be a name on the list. Even then this hobby for many is about variety so even then you may just be a name on a list of special providers. A business is never more than a name on a list. The escort "you" is a business.

Now if a possible client leave you hanging after emailing a time and does not let you know he set something else up. That just isn't right. It is as bad as the babes how double book. Yes I deal with false commitments that cost me money and time too.

Please note that I am a hobbyist and my business is in no way connected to the hobby but it is in part in the service industry so there is some similarities in the area of time wasters that waste both time and money. I choose to look at them as an opportunity not annoyance.  

I have emailed ladies for information I need to decide if I am going to see her. Things like: price if not listed on ad or site, availability, if she has any reviews that I can't find or someone who can use as a reference that so I can verify her, what she needs for screening, if she has an incall, or if she books ahead as some don't. I don't email a lady I am not really thinking about seeing. And these inquiries are brief and to the point and can be answered in a very short email back. I then let them know if I decided to see them or not. I don't leave them hanging.

I don't email a lady to see if we "click". I also don't mass email ladies and take the first to respond. I don't go fishing for escorts. I don't waste a ladies time with pointless emails back an forth.

Now there has been a few ladies that have PMed me and wanted to be friends. They know I will not be booking them but we PM each other from time to time. But that is as friends not as provider/client. Same with my friends that happen to be escorts that I email from time to time.

I think the variety of responses on this, all of them, to me, reasonable, demonstrates there are a variety of circumstances and no "one size fits all" way to behave.  Personally, I never use e-mails to "audition" a lady.  By the time I e-mail to set up a date I've done my homework -- meaning looked at her pix, read her site, read numerous reviews and checked her calendar.  Only then do I send an e-mail, either through her site or through P411 so my credentials are immediately available to her.  I'll send a direct e-mail only if I've already seen her.  In the case I cited earlier in this thread I had not seen any of the four ladies before.  Two never responded.  I set up a date for a couple of days later with the first to respond.  I had a date with the second gal one day after that.  Both were memorable.
Another problem is that, in this day of Blackberries and text-messaging communications from providers are often brief, unclear, or have lots of typos.  So I'm sending up a plea for clear communication, which I think will solve a lot of issues.  Also, while I understand a girl can't reply while she's in a session, an effort should be made to respond quickly.  We, too, are busy people.  Last, I've often tried to leave a phone message when the girl requests that.  But far too often I'm greeted with a "mailbox is full" message.  That usually gets me moving toward a different provider.  Women who are "businesslike" (in the best sense of the word) will get more of my business.

There would be no NCNS, no emails or calls without reply, no schedules that did not quite synch, everything would be smooth as silk. But that all happens.

I have found it works for me to send an introductory email before scheduling, and I may send them to a few providers at a time. My key, as far as being considerate, is to be clear on the purpose of the email, and when I may or will be looking to schedule. Keep it brief and to the point. That way she can respond or ignore as it suits her.

There are so many reasons for this. Sometime there are questions, a significant number of providers do not ever reply, or really need to be contacted in one way only even though they may offer 4 or more ways, so I need to try a few different ways over a couple of weeks (gotta give her time to reply before trying another). The communication is, absolutely, part of the screening process for both of us, too. So I may start out planning to see someone, and decide she is not for me (it actually happens less often than it should, looking back). I would never send an introduction if I did not want to meet.

I probably see about 80% of the ladies who I initially contact (maybe as low as 50% if ladies who never reply are included). Usually when we do not get together after an initial contact it is for purely practical reasons - either she does not reply, disappears, location is impossible, or our schedules are so hard to sync that I give up. One time I decided not to proceed was after discussing her holiday party with Sage, and ultimately deciding this was not for me. I hope I did not waste too much of your time. There have definitely been some exchanges that convinced me a provider was not for me, but others made me adjust my schedule to see her sooner. I really like prompt, businesslike and to the point, but also understanding and replying to what I said and asked.

BTW, some providers respond to my initial emails by pushing to screen now, others push to schedule now (sometime despite my saying I am not available for a couple of weeks), others tell me to come back when I am ready to schedule, and others thank me and just answer my question(s). Other than ignoring requests to schedue when I am not available, I always follow their lead from there.

So, yeah, I think it is okay if you are clear and limit the communication, like always. I do not think you and I really disagree on that much, Sage, even if you want less hellos and more of let's meet at 9, here is my screening info. I get that.

Zig

I actually posted about this last week. It's is more then ok to contact a lady ( at least me) and see if we are going to click or see if you are still interested. But, Please, Please, Please, have the balls and courtasy to tell the lady in the end you are either interested or not. Not being interested is ok. just be honest. You can even say Hey, This was a turn off or whatever. We can't read your mind and we can't fix what we don't know about...

Good luck

Yes, why not - you're inquiring, right?

I have contacted 3 providers and they said they do not do penetration or full service, so I did not go see them.  They advertised under 'escorts' on BP and not under 'body rubs or massage', and I couldn't find any reviews, so they clarified.  I didn't waste their time, and they did not waste mine.  

I contacted a provider once and she said she will only do BJ but cannot do full service because she has her period.  Ok, then I did not see her.  

Here's another one.  I contacted a provider and thought I would see her.  But a day before I decide to see her, I saw she release new photos of her in an Ad and she was around 7 years older in that new photo.  Although we communicated with each other, I was shocked that she was using older photos in her ad and I did not proceed to see her, because she was much older.