I hear you.....

I hear you.....I know EXACTLY what you are saying, and have given thought to posting on the same topic.

It has occurred to me that it might be perspective....that if you are not in the habit of "getting any" (for whatever reason) then when it happens (especially if "it" includes things that wifey won't do at all, or that a guy has been some how lead to think most women outside the "hobby" won't do, like BBBJ), then the guy get all happy and joyious and thinks he has seen nirvina.

The standard has sort of been set here that if a girl "does her job" and does so with a reasonably pleasant attitude, she gets a "7" or "8", when in reality it should be more like a "5" or a "6". I have read reviews where it sounded like the guy didn't have a good time at all, but since he DID blow a nut, he gave the girl a "7". It seems anything less than a "6" is only given if a guy was ripped off (meaning he didn't get what he thought he was paying for) OR (and this is unfair) he hammers a girl on looks AND performance, just because she isn't his type (I saw a girl a couple times who I think this has happened to)


I don't know what can be done about this problem....I only can say that if I am going to spend more than a couple hunded dollars (in other words, if it is more than an agency quickie because I am bored / horny), then I read ALL the reviews for ALL the guys who have provided a review on a particular provider I am researching. If I find that a guy tends to inflate ALL of his reviews, or that he has less than 3, I discount what he has to say in my mind. Often times this practice will elimate ALL of the reviews of a particular escort, so I then don't call. I figure my money is too hard earned to piss it away without me at least enjoying myself.

BTW....in your experience that you are posting about...did the girl not have a website...and did that site not have pictures? When you arrived and she wasn't what you were expecting, why didn't you just end things there (and maybe give her $50 for her time)?

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That maybe they liked big women? You say you understand how some guys do, but at the same time, you suggest these particular guys shouldn't have given her such high marks. Why? Because you didn't feel the same way. Such arrogance! I think reviews and ratings should be based on the reviewer's own tastes and experience with a lady, not what they think someone else might say. If I think a lady's really hot, I'm going to give her an 8. If the session was great, she'll get high marks. I'm not going to sit back and think "gee, I wonder how 20 other guys would rate her." Personal tastes are just too varied for me to do that.

As for her profile saying her figure's "average," I don't think TER updates them very often from what was entered by the first reviewer, at least from what I've seen. Every other reviewer could very well have said she was big.

Regardless, there are many ways to find out a lady's appearance, so you have no one to blame but yourself if you didn't like how she looked.

Personally, I try really hard to have accurate, up to date photos on my website so that people can decide BEFORE they come see me... but still, if you showed up at my door and were not attracted to me I would MUCH rather you tell me so from the getgo than "endure" anything for the sake of not hurting my feelings. YES you would hurt my feelings... but at least then I wouldn't be faced with a situation where I'm wondering why you aren't turned on... which eventually would hurt my feelings also.  

I'm here to have FUN! I cannot have fun if you are not having fun, by definition it just doesn't work!  I am not everyone's cup o' tea nor do I expect to be, I just hate the thought of anyone showing up, being like "ICK" and then ENDURING a session with me. ARGGGGGHHHHHHHH!

Let me add, especially in a situation where you feel you've been deliberately mislead, I don't think you OWE the girl ANYTHING other than to say I'm sorry, you are not what I expected, and leave!  I don't understand why you would stay if you didn't like her at all.  It is our job to present ourselves accurately.

Hugs*
Nicole