I noticed on the DC board someone inquiring about Sugardaddy sites or how to find a sugardaddy. Recently, I have been thinking about this as a friend of mine recently acquired a sugar daddy.

If you were a lady looking for a sugar daddy, of course you want him to be wealthy - but what other attributes might you want. Does he have to be smart, and attractive? Does it matter if he is married? Age? Etc.

For the gentleman, if you are in such a situation what factors are important? Does she have to be younger than you? Significantly younger? Smart and worldly or perhaps a little simpler so you can mentor her and show her the world. Do you feel better if she is a student? What about a woman with a job that just doesn't pay her much like a teacher or social worker? Do you want her to see only you?

Kisses,
Vanica Love

If I were looking for an exclusive sugardaddy, it would be important that he'd be single, within my general age range, and someone who I could otherwise have a long term relationship with. I could see the sugardaddy arrangement as a way to phase out of escorting and to test the waters of a more committed relationship with someone I might want to settle down with.

On a nonexclusive basis, the sugardaddy qualifications would not include being single or within my age range... but still the same level of consummate compatibility. Basically a generous friend or mentor with benefits. I could imagine patrons who it clicks with, transitioning into such arrangements... it's just a grey area of the spectrum in relationships to me.

That means drama free, and always remembering that you are a customer who can cancell at any time and take his business elsewhere.

I suspect most sugar-daddy relationships fail for the same reason that marriages fail, that is to say, people take each other for granted and no longer feel that they have to make an effort.  Good looks won't count for much at this point.

As we are all human and prone to these faults, I look somewhat disdainfully at the sugar daddy concept.  If there are some good long term (one year +) out there, then I say God bless you and long may you ride.

To me, it is better to see a regular each month or so, and see a few new traveling gals that catch your eye.

My 2 cents on the subject.

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Do you both get tested & then remain exclusive?  Or do you both retain the right to copulate with others & therefore require protection?  

The biggest pit fall I see is familiarity...  the SB (Sugar Baby) takes SD (Sugar Daddy) for granted, performance & availability suffers.  SD leaves.  SB is pissed off because she counted on the income to make her rent or tuition.  

IF SB continues to provide then that excaserbates the problem, because she makes more, the more clients she sees...  with the SD thoughtfully supplying the location for her.  SD gets pissed off when she's unavailable to suit his schedule (schedule changed) because she's with another client.  

I don't think I could ever start out looking for a SD?SB arrangement.  I think it would be best to evolve this from a provider / frequent client.  Just remember, the provider is not looking out for your best interests...  it's a hobby to US, a business to them.
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This is a great topic of discussion.  I have posted elsewhere that a significant part of hobbying for me is the relationship between the hobbyist and the provider.  If that relationship is devleoped over time a sugar daddy/sugar baby situation can easily occur.  The hobbyist has to have significant reserves to take care of a provider full time, so limited support to the provider is probably more realistic.  In this relationship the SD needs to understand that the provider will continue to work, but he can and should expect a little priority treatment when it comes to scheduling and spending time BCD and non BCD.  In exchange for these considerations the SD can provide extra cash and support with needed to the provider.  This support can take the form of cash, gifts, emotional support, face time and "friend time".  All of this interaction will occur within the framework of the "working" relationship.  Granted it takes particular types of personalities to pull this off.  First jealousy is completely out of the question.  Posseiveness is also not part of the deal.  The SB should just give higher priority to the requests of the SD.  This probably will never work, but this type of realtionship, I think, is worth working toward with the right provider.

The sd/sb relationship is unique for each coupling. Every man has different set of requirements, just as every lady has her own unique qualifications. You need to decide what requirements you are willing to provide and proceed from there.

Best answer so far. The SD just needs to be mature enough to understand the true nature of the relationship.