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I've enjoyed a sugardaddy arrangement for 1 1/2 years now. What became of that really isn't an issue here. I'm more interested in the opinions of the members here-on who have enjoyed those types of arrangements as well.

Ladies and Gentlemen;

If you have 'lived' the sugardaddy lifestyle,what was the arrangement that you two agreed upon? Was it mutually beneficial? Was it constraining/restraining?? Did it begin abruptly? Was it eased into? How long did it last? Is it continuing? ETC..........


I'm curious if MY expectations were/are in line or out of line.

I haven't been drinking. :-( That's the reason for no humor Khym.

I've never had said relationship, but it's hard for me not to be curious as to how this is related to your question to LG on the Erotic Highway. :)

I personally have found it to be a bit restraining..
I had met through one of the obvious sites made for the saying..
yet, I found it was uncomfortable since usually there is a distance(states) Nevada/california..
Im sorry to hear about your situation..  feel free to PM me for any details pertaining to my prior situation..
I sincerely do hope you are OK as I know when feelings get involved with anything...
expectations get raised and also does the emotional side.
keep your chin up  : )
Lovely Lorena

My chin isn't in need of being raised. Thank you.

You shared something that pertained to my question.

This round is on me. I hope that it works out. I have always wanted to. I haven't found the right girl yet. What deal did you have worked out? Any suggestions? Pitfalls to avoid? Your post has sparked my interest.

How can you be certain of the motivations and feelings of an adult who is utterly dependent upon you for the roof over her head and the food in her belly?

riddlemethis308 reads

should one give a damn, as long as the service is up to par and there is no "relationship drama" ?

I for one am content to allow natural selection to take its course.... Karma is what it is.....

nature and nurture and the shape of society has fitted some with certain advantages.  Why not simply enjoy them and leave the contemplation to those who prefer the ivory tower.

I prefer fine and suffiently subservient female company regardless of the motivation.

Hell if she is concerned about making me happy all the better.....

AND I remember past postings.

The OP has feelings for this girl and was recently on the Erotic Highway expressing concern about maybe her wanting him just for the money.

Well, with concerns like THAT I think he should be asking some different and tougher questions.

That's why.

Any questions?

hotplants258 reads

Hands down, without question, the best thing my momma ever taught me was to never allow myself to become wholly, financially dependent on anyone unless I was voluntarily choosing to relinquished control of my own choices.

I don’t know if that’s any harder than finding a man to take care of me; as I’ve never tried that. But you can bet that anyone with whom I am in a relationship has absolutely no reason to doubt that I am with them because I want to be, not because of any financial security they can provide.

This matters to some people.


riddlemethis255 reads

a form of long term mongering. An expensive fantasy.

I admire your values and principles...

as far as "real life" goes.

In "real life" I vastly prefer negotiated inter-depedence and a partner with a great deal of self worth and self sufficiency.  Someone who wants and desires but does not need.

hotplants224 reads

on GD and ER board, regarding his recent betrothal might add some needed context.

riddlemethis202 reads

and there are no shortage of persons who will gladly make their (supposedly private) drama and oftentimes foolishness the subject of conversation on these boards lol

I for one prefer to keep the p4p fantasy side and the "real" side separate

and to keep my "reality" off of the boards - and out of the gossip mill.....

hotplants215 reads

but, the OP potentially getting MARRIED to the woman (who, yes, I am assuming) he is referencing, again, in this post seems pretty "real life" to me.

riddlemethis195 reads

as far as the "real life" aspect of being clued in to "reality" - well - that does seem rather "debatable" - even to the OP - else why all of the anxiety, why ask the opinion of those of use who play in "un-reality", on a site dedicated to that "un-reality" lol....

My question simply asked of the 'expectations' of a sugardaddy relationship.

The personality within those posts is 'barely' relevant to this query.

enough not to choose a bimbo who did not already know how to take care of herself. The arrangement would be for a limited time anyway.

Your are right to consider motivation, but the motivation is already obvious. Some women would agree to be virtual slaves for a time. Others would not.

I, for one, would not agree to be less than a friend, an equal, a confidante, and more, and never a slave to a rich man's whim.

What a crock! If a man is happy with superficial relationships, so be it. Other women may be happy to oblige. I say to him, "Whatever floats your boat baby." He has my pity and my condolences for his empty life.

Of course, this is only my opinion. Everyone has one.

To all the men with big hearts in this world...

Sweet kisses, Cary Rose

PS: Deep pockets don't hurt, but they are not necessary.

... when it comes to their dealings with women ... gives us guys an awful lot of credit. LOL

Hopefully you are right. :-)

shudaknownbetter274 reads

I've never had the luxury...  but am confused by your terminology.  Or the switch in terminology.  
You need to explore the what the relationship is, what it means to each of you, what each of you expects from the other.
money issues
domicile issues  
sex...  how much & with who  (Tested & exclusive or protected & non-exclusive)
Is she going to continue schooling / carreer / employment?  Does she contribute to household expenses?
I do not need to know these answers but you do.

Best Wishes,
skb

This question refers to someone different who shan't be an issue much longer. :-(

She was a college grad atudent with a big student loan and tuition to pay.

Our first official date was to go to the AIM clinic, and for the next 18 months I enjoyed really REALLY good sex almost every night with a smart college girl with the body of a playboy centerfold. Shehad her own place near the college, which was only 15 minutes from me and so she was available on very short notice whenever I called, and other than class schedules, *I* was her first priority. She graduated with honors and no student loan, we parted ways on excellent terms, and I would enter into the same sort of arrangement in a hot minute if it was presented to me.

Your ability to answer a simple question without 'over-analysis' is much appreciated.

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