There is this provider I’ve been seeing 3-4 times a year going back nearly five years. Older (50+), married. Open marriage she always told me and her activities are very low-key and OTR. We occasionally exchange e-mails in-between get togethers. Lives about 75 miles away. Great gal, very comfortable relationship and one of my ATF’s.
Today, her husband’s name shows up on my facebook in “People you may know”. Their profile pic is the two of them together. Recognized her immediately. Before this I did not know her last name or his name. (She has had my name since the beginning) We do not have any “mutual friends” and examining his profile we do not have schools, employers or interests in common. (except his wife!) My facebook is secure and my hobby e-mail account is totally separate. Too unlikely to be a coincidenceShe obviously told the husband about you. Maybe they are into 3 somes!
It will dig names out of your email. It will pop up ads for products based on your viewing cookies.
Linked In is even worse. It will take names of people connected to your direct connections and suggest them as people you may know. And it also digs names out of your Hotmails ever send...even names you have deleted.
If she or he has searched for your name on Facebook, this could happen. But, only from the account that searched for you. He likely knows your name or has searched for you. He probably has seen her client names and searched for you on Facebook
That was my best guess too. Had to be from his account ...
ould be several things or combination of factors.
She could have "viewed" or looked up your profile during screening from
a computer her and her husband use. Even if she keeps her "hobby" utr, Facebook still has ip of her computer and if he also uses same computer he has same IP.
She also could have you in her contacts list and since she uses FB, they have access to that also.
It goes on and on.
See for more:
https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/the-intersect/wp/2015/04/02/how-facebook-knows-who-all-your-friends-are-even-better-than-you-do/
And this....
http://www.zdnet.com/article/facebook-tracks-you-online-even-after-you-log-out/#!
It's all ridiculous and a blatant invasion of our privacy, which sadly is almost non existent in our world today.
Hope that helps
if I have a phne which I use for my hobby contacts, but I have my laptop which I use for the hobby sites, which one should I have facebook on to be safest? because.... I need to keep hobby from real life as away as possible.... I don't know if my question makes sense lol.
Her phone number might be attached to her Facebook, or email.. Which you might have on your contacts.
You connect with her via email, on the internet.
Facebook is intentionally designed to ferret out connections on the internet and it's very good at doing that. Chances are, your name has showed up in her husbands profile as someone he may know. But Facebook is just the appetizer when it comes to accidentally (inadvertently, unintentionally?) giving away personal privacy on the inter webs.
"My facebook is secure and my hobby e-mail account is totally separate". That made me chuckle.
It is what it is. You can ignore it. If it bothers you, you can (possibly) prevent this happening, again, by not having an email addy connected to your FB account; or, better, only use that anonymous email addy on a different computer. And, then, never use that diff computer to access FB (or browse the web or order anything....etc...).
Good luck.
Today, her husband’s name shows up on my facebook in “People you may know”. Their profile pic is the two of them together. Recognized her immediately. Before this I did not know her last name or his name. (She has had my name since the beginning) We do not have any “mutual friends” and examining his profile we do not have schools, employers or interests in common. (except his wife!) My facebook is secure and my hobby e-mail account is totally separate. Too unlikely to be a coincidence …
and clear cashe & cookies... before hobby stuff. And between shopping. I use to have shopping searches... which I decided NOT to purchase... then pop up as ads on FB or Yahoo mail. Really Piss Me off.
One can not be too careful.
That's good! Makes me mad too, no business taking my searches and then serving me ads.
That's why these sites are "free". They are not free at all, they take all our info and sell it to make BIG bucks.
It's now spread to tv. If I'm on WiFi, and searching the net, I'll get commercials for the SAME things I searched for!
Imagine the kids coming up now, with their who lives on record. At least some of us oldies have 1/2 our lives UTR lol
The only escape is going off the grid and that's just not practical
I am rather outspoken about the dangers of social media. Search the General Board for "nefarious, plague, insidious, pernicious" [Any of these words] for the past couple of years and you are sure to find my posts.
Those threads, AND NOW THIS ONE, have examples of the unexpected and undesired cross over of this world and the real world.
The stated goal of social media is to connect everyone everywhere, WHETHER THEY WANT TO BE CONNECTED OR NOT
+ 5 Billion !
SM = The devil incarnat
It has happened to me as well. Facebook links your contacts from your phone and makes suggestions on ppl you may know. He may or may not see you but it shouldn't matter as long as you don't request either to be friends. Best way to not have this happen is to use a alternate number not linked to your phone number. I suggest you alter your personal settings as well. I have mine to where only friends can see my posts and friends of friends can request to be friends.
My solution: Stay off social media altogether is at all possible
Lol they are not the same, but happily take the treasure trove of data they gather for free from us 😜
Here's some reading that will make your skin crawl...
http://www.wired.com/2012/03/ff_nsadatacenter/
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Remember when Z. was bought out and given a MO bride?
One day a massage provider showed up in the same manner, and it had been a couple of years since I had seen her. I did a double take and sure enough it was her. Now I have to wonder if I showed up on her "people you know." I'm guessing it did.
Today, her husband’s name shows up on my facebook in “People you may know”. Their profile pic is the two of them together. Recognized her immediately. Before this I did not know her last name or his name. (She has had my name since the beginning) We do not have any “mutual friends” and examining his profile we do not have schools, employers or interests in common. (except his wife!) My facebook is secure and my hobby e-mail account is totally separate. Too unlikely to be a coincidence …
I've had several people I've searched on other social media accounts before call me out on searching them. I.E. LinkedIn etc... I'm no denying that the contact list don't play a part but IMHO and experience it's a search thing. I know I wouldn't look at anyone's profile if I didn't want them to know I was.
#justsayin
Today, her husband’s name shows up on my facebook in “People you may know”. Their profile pic is the two of them together. Recognized her immediately. Before this I did not know her last name or his name. (She has had my name since the beginning) We do not have any “mutual friends” and examining his profile we do not have schools, employers or interests in common. (except his wife!) My facebook is secure and my hobby e-mail account is totally separate. Too unlikely to be a coincidence …
I am constantly asked if I know someone who is in my contact database that I haven't communicated with since before I joined FaceBook. There is no other way they could have put the 2 of us together.