And think instead about women's beach volleyball!!
I've heard a provider on this board say that some providers refuse to see guys who take too long to reach orgasm.
I used to think this was a good thing, since I'd go on and on and on while the girls I dated or the providers I saw has multiple o. kinda boosts the ego when you know you're an energizer bunny
but now I find my back aching, and muscle sore hurting when pumping for almost an hour without reaching it myself. it is getting annoying and i'm sure it is a lot of work for the girl to get me off. didn't know that this could be grind for refusal of next appointment.
any tips on lasting shorter in bed reaching o quicker?
I guess I can try using condoms that feel more natural
or lubes before pitying them on.
At least she's a professional. "the providers I saw has multiple o" don't be so sure. You know this is P4P.
sdfsdfasdfasdf ''the providers I saw has multiple o. kinda boosts the ego when you know you're an energizer bunny
any tips on lasting shorter in bed reaching o quicker?"
If you quit jerking off that should help.
If you are on meds, ask your DR.
Q Why do many providers come in 3 minutes
A.They are faking, hoping to make you come in less than four.
if you take viagra - stop. Alot of us girls don't care for how it desensities men and makes them take forever to cum. I know I get pretty raw if someone is fucking me for an hr straight.
If you arent on viagra or some other meds that can have that effect on you, consider trying something different, let a provider give you a bbbj to start with to get you close - if you feel you can cum from the bbbj, and she's not objecting to it, why not release?
Personally I like a slow intense build up, lots of kissing, licking, touching, all the sensitive spots on a gnetleman, that usually gets him pretty much "on edge" by the time I really start to work on him and he comes fairly quickly.
Are you well hydrated? Are you well rested?
If not, then those things definately impede my ability to come.
Also, switch activity to one where you don't need a condom such as Russian or Italian, or for that matter a good old fashion hand job.
A good practicioner of HJ can often get me off in minutes, especially of the perinium is massaged simultaneously.
because my previous girlfriends really did have multiple o whole I'm still working on my first.
like I said, it is a problem for me not an attempt at showing off because it becomes more of a work and back ache is no fun.
it should be obvious I'm not lying about the providers though, I agree with you that most of the time providers are faking, but providers are female and human too,
if you are pumping and humping for an hour or more they most likely will feel at least a little "something" during that time.
unless of course they suffer from the same problem
lol
I used to wish I could last longer, now I find myself in the same situation as you.
Mrfisher probably has the best suggestion. Aside from trying to stay well hydrated, many of us "older" guys have a hard time cumming without skin to skin contact, as BBFS is not an option in the hobby, I have rediscovered the joys of a simple handjob.
I love BJ's usually start a session with one, than move on to the main event, and more often than not I go back to a BBJ and if I am still unable to cum I switch to a HJ for the finish.
There are other solutions, like have sex less frequently so you can blow a bigger load faster, but I like sex too much to deprive myself. If I have sex more than once a day, I have serious difficulties finishing inside a condom, but to me it's not the end of the world, if I go an extra round or two without finishing, I still enjoy myself.
a lot of men think this, mistakenly. A woman's arousal is connected to her emotions, not stimulation. The way I get around this is to fantasize about something else, but after 30 min or more of pounding, forget about it. The "something" I will feel is soreness.
like I said, it is a problem for me not an attempt at showing off because it becomes more of a work and back ache is no fun.
it should be obvious I'm not lying about the providers though, I agree with you that most of the time providers are faking, but providers are female and human too,
if you are pumping and humping for an hour or more they most likely will feel at least a little "something" during that time.
unless of course they suffer from the same problem
lol
but now, with word prediction capability, it becomes a completely different word.
the typos above should be,
grind -> grounds
pitying -> putting
for those who weren't able to guess it.Rr
not for a few days prior to seeing someone...A. you will cum faster and B. the orgasm will be outta this world 
I always want my friends to have better orgasms
I have seen men for multiple hour sessions, who require nearly the entire time to reach orgasm. Some of them had some health issues; the others just wanted to "get their money's worth" and have a super-long marathon session. I don't mind "work." I am not lazy. However, the latter category, I will refuse see again.
For me, it boils down to attitude. A man who has trouble cumming for health or age reasons, who needs a lot of "work" but is considerate of me, I have no problem with. However, it is the men that feel that because they pay for 2+ hours of my time, that I need to be on my back - or riding their cock - or deep throating - the ENTIRE time - who go on my DNS list. I'm not a robot.
There is a fine line between "getting your money's worth" - hey, you paid, and you deserve a great time - and treating a girl like a work horse. I guess it comes down to this: Do you want me to make you happy, since that's what you paid for, or do you want to take advantage of my body, since that's what you paid for? You don't have the right to "do whatever it takes" to pop.
Please don't try to argue that you "made sure she had a great time." Most obvious argument: how do you know she wasn't faking? Ok, say she did have multiple O's. If she is feeling sore and faint, and would rather have a drink of water and a pack of ice rather than another O, who cares how many times you made her cum? Also Os don't feel so great anymore after a while - it gets too sensitive, too tiring...it feels like the build-up to a hiccup, with no sense of relief afterward.
Hope this gives you some insight into the provider's perspective.
are you rested (see Mr.fisher's post), are you hydrated (again, see Mr.fisher's post), your age, your diet (red meat within a few hrs. of play sometimes works against you), frequency of rubbing one out (abstain for a few days or more--depends on age), medications (besides viagra, other meds can slow down your orgasm or prevent it), etc.
I can give a two minute session or can really bang the shit out of her for an hour. Its a mind game. You have to become more in tune with your body. pay attention to what really gets you going when you mastrubate and have the provider mimic that if possible.
And think instead about women's beach volleyball!!
its why I only see girls who I find very attractive. imagine if she was butt ugly and look like large marge... never be able to get off lol
think (fantasize) about all the nasty things I wish I could do to her but probably can't, like anal, deep throat, COF, spanking etc.
I can't even feel my penis when I'm wearing a condom, so I have the same problem. But by mentally indulging some fantasies, I can frequently trick myself into a orgasm by letting my imagination run wild. Even if I don't really want to do those things at that time, it still works for me.
I just tend to shake my head in disbelief toward the gullibility of some (mostly guys) in here and in general walk of life, when I read or hear them boasting about as to how many times they bring a woman to O, in a matter of less than an hour!
Message to these Dumb Dumbs: you'd be lucky if you manage to bring these women to O five times in a whole year, never mind in one frigging hour! We are talking about P4P and Pros, not some woman deprived of sex-life, trapped in a bad/abusive relationship, under a friggin Burka in a Muslim country, or so forth! Yeah, this may happen when you pick up such an entity p*ssed drunk in a bar, but not in P4P. not very often at all, specially in the first session, when these women do not know you from "Adam"
Eroticism is the creation of the mind, before it is applied to the body. Capture their minds and then you'll have a ride like you've never had before. If you end up with a mindless P4P Provider, then get your nuts off ASAP in whatever way possible and don't even bother going back for more. Plenty of other such fish in the Hobby sea. JMO...
Like in baseball:
It's not whether the pitcher throws a strike, it's whether the batter thinks he's swinging at a strike.
but if there is a huge puddle in the middle of the bed, and obviously I am wearing a condom, so none of that liquid came from me, do you have any other explanation as to where that lake in the middle of the bed came from? rofl
I don't make all providers cum, truth be told I don't know or care what percentage of O's are genuine, but I can assure you, when you need to change the entire fucking mattress after sex, that orgasm was no fake. lmao
Sorry it never happens to you.
You go "capture their minds" if it makes you happy, I am perfectly happy with their bodies for an hour or two.
Spoken like a true hot blooded male 
Bet your SO wouldn't "mind" me capturing hers
P.S. That large puddle in the bed can be because, maybe, he, er, she, had peed on you. I'm just saying!
if she lays there not doing anything but suddenly moans as i move at a steady rate... her moans increase, and body curls as well as her toe,
now this is when i look for clues as to whether or not she's fakin' it.
if i feel something warm and wet, and my condom gets slippery as i thrust, that is a pretty good indicator that she O'd.
this indicator is then able to be further verified by GaGambler's wet-sheet theory.
Can't fake the juice!
if she lays there not doing anything but suddenly moans as i move at a steady rate... her moans increase, and body curls as well as her toe,
now this is when i look for clues as to whether or not she's fakin' it.
if i feel something warm and wet, and my condom gets slippery as i thrust, that is a pretty good indicator that she O'd.
this indicator is then able to be further verified by GaGambler's wet-sheet theory.
Nice!
Message to these Dumb Dumbs: you'd be lucky if you manage to bring these women to O five times in a whole year, never mind in one frigging hour! We are talking about P4P and Pros, not some woman deprived of sex-life, trapped in a bad/abusive relationship, under a friggin Burka in a Muslim country, or so forth! Yeah, this may happen when you pick up such an entity p*ssed drunk in a bar, but not in P4P. not very often at all, specially in the first session, when these women do not know you from "Adam"
Eroticism is the creation of the mind, before it is applied to the body. Capture their minds and then you'll have a ride like you've never had before. If you end up with a mindless P4P Provider, then get your nuts off ASAP in whatever way possible and don't even bother going back for more. Plenty of other such fish in the Hobby sea. JMO...
A good way not to last longer is to give the woman in question considerable foreplay. This tends to be a good idea because when she is excited it makes for more intense heat transference. Thus she is warmer and you will be at the point of no return sooner. Thus significantly decreasing the time from arousal to resolution.