Words only convey the weight we allow them to. As an example, tonight I told a wonderful lady that I was going to marry her. We both laughed, and resumed bitching about the trials & tribulations of life. It's not that she won't remember that I said it. It's just that neither of us took it seriously.
So I have been seeing my favorite provider for over a year now, pretty regularly. We talked about doing an overnight for a few months, and we finally did it....it was awesome...really amazing time.
So I suspected we've had good chemistry from the very beginning, but throughout the night, we crossed the uncrossable point. WHat started off as "I love the way this feels" or "I love when you do that..." became "I Love this so much"...
and then, around 3am, after round 4, yup...the words were spoken.
Does this mean its time to end it? has it become too emotionally dangerous?
for it to be an enjoyable session? To get repeat business?
I think it's unnecessary.
"It's her job to make you feel that way. You pay to be made felt that way."
I pay to spend time with a pretty woman and have "fun".The fact that she is smoking hot is enough for me.I don't care if she gives me compliments because I wouldn't believe her anyway.
I love you?i love spending time with you?i love spending time with my atf's and they reciprocate,or the other way around, although that is rare.there are also many ways of saying I love you and not all of them mean the same thing.without actually knowing what was said and how, who knows. You may be reading way too much into it.she may just be playing the role she thinks you want..Only one way to find out, ask.or you can do what I did with one when I was worried about the same thing, send her a message along the lines of: I love fucking you. We got a good connection, and the best thing, no complications, no hurt feelings, just simple.until next time... That way you show you like seeing her, but you shut the door on anything else without rejecting, if thats what your afraid of.
Posted By: darrell2002j
So I have been seeing my favorite provider for over a year now, pretty regularly. We talked about doing an overnight for a few months, and we finally did it....it was awesome...really amazing time.
So I suspected we've had good chemistry from the very beginning, but throughout the night, we crossed the uncrossable point. WHat started off as "I love the way this feels" or "I love when you do that..." became "I Love this so much"...
and then, around 3am, after round 4, yup...the words were spoken.
Does this mean its time to end it? has it become too emotionally dangerous?
Oh, Darrell. It's your call. No ones game... Just be sure you keep it real with yourself. No one is in control of our emotions only us.... Good Luck.
Posted By: anthony6
I love you?i love spending time with you?i love spending time with my atf's and they reciprocate,or the other way around, although that is rare.there are also many ways of saying I love you and not all of them mean the same thing.without actually knowing what was said and how, who knows. You may be reading way too much into it.she may just be playing the role she thinks you want..Only one way to find out, ask.or you can do what I did with one when I was worried about the same thing, send her a message along the lines of: I love fucking you. We got a good connection, and the best thing, no complications, no hurt feelings, just simple.until next time... That way you show you like seeing her, but you shut the door on anything else without rejecting, if thats what your afraid of.
Posted By: darrell2002j
So I have been seeing my favorite provider for over a year now, pretty regularly. We talked about doing an overnight for a few months, and we finally did it....it was awesome...really amazing time.
So I suspected we've had good chemistry from the very beginning, but throughout the night, we crossed the uncrossable point. WHat started off as "I love the way this feels" or "I love when you do that..." became "I Love this so much"...
and then, around 3am, after round 4, yup...the words were spoken.
Does this mean its time to end it? has it become too emotionally dangerous?
some folks get emotional in a session and get carried by the moment. the odds of that are higher when play time is longer and more intense. there is or can be an emotional component of sex, you know. venting an "i love you" may just be a release mechanism. there is no real reason to get freaked about it unless you know what was meant and don't like it.
if "i love you" is not said outside the bedroom AND it is not accompanied by a request to "domesticate" the relationship there is little to worry about. if she starts wanting to see you without being compensated then you might consider worrying unless you are delighted by that prospect.
people are emotionally complex and one cannot effectively deal with them as individuals on the basis of over simplified rules: "the words were spoken so it's time to end it". the exceptions consist of hobbyists and providers who are strictly high volume. high volume folks have to deal with others on the basis of stereotypes and simple rules. that is not for my but YMMV.
some folks are happiest treating clients/providers as depersonalized commodities. if you are one such you should consider treating "the words" as a danger sign. if you are not happy to depersonalize then you need to know what "the words" mean to decide. that will be an interesting test of communication skills....
"the words" themselves don't mean much. actions are much more important.
A while back, I've heard it a few times too and was shocked in the beginning. It wasn't an indirect "I love the way you etc, I love your smell"... it was an exact "I love you".
I just dismissed it as ultra-realistic great GFE holly wood acting skills and went about my business afterwords. Maybe she did mean parts of it, who knows.
I wouldn't think too much about it and go with the flow if you guys have great chemistry... and don't mind where she *thinks* she's trying to take you. Just try to stay on top of things & enjoy the moment~
is you and the provider. If you both can handle it then you shouldn't worry. If only one of you can handle it, you may need to rethink your relationship.
you had best consider it as a heat of passion expression. Now, it may be that there is something more to it and, as the night wore on, she became more brave & blurted out the final I-L-Y. You need to reflect on how you feel... and where you might like this to go. Life with a provider or former provider is a rough road. It seldom works out but there are just enough exceptions that we can not say never. At your next meeting... it will become clear or you can just ask. But there is the risk, that either way, it'll be over. If you are not free or otherwise not interested... then it is time for a break at the very least. Serial meetings with a provider is prone to these emotional risks, on both sides.
Personally when I hear those words, I run for the hills! Sometimes it has too much meaning behind it, but also the physical aspect will bring out those emotions and you don't really mean it but it comes out anyway...
Words only convey the weight we allow them to. As an example, tonight I told a wonderful lady that I was going to marry her. We both laughed, and resumed bitching about the trials & tribulations of life. It's not that she won't remember that I said it. It's just that neither of us took it seriously.
I recall a porn movie from the 1970s in which one actor get repeating in ecstasy to the girl he was fucking: "Marry me, baby! Oh! Marry me!" It was a joke.
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