In a few months I'll be 36 and theoretically my TER age profile should be updated to the 36-40 age frame.

But I'm a little worried that certain men will overlook me due to my "maturity" if I'm honest and update the profile. Perhaps many guys use 35 as their top age when they search--I really don't know.

When clients try to guess my age, they come in right at target or slighter younger, so I could probably slide for awhile.

Personally I think I look great, very sexy for my age and I do receive very good appearance (and performance) ratings. I still get wolf whistles from strangers, and the other day a motorcyclist almost had an accident from craning his neck at me in my short dress as I was walking by.

I do want to be honest so there are never any surprises when a gentleman shows up at my door....but I also don't want to lose potential new customers who decide against seeing me based solely on age.  

So, guys, how important is that age frame to you? Should I be completely honest, or is it OK to slide for awhile?

Reilemma--do I state my real age on TER?

Hey,,,state your real age...i have found the more honest and mature the ladies.......the greater the whole gfe is.
Be your real age and be proud of it
Sham.

Reilemma--do I state my real age on TER?

For what it's worth, I use 35 as my upper limit for searches to keep the volume down and Yeah, I would support a guy who walked if you lied about your age.

You could change the age splits but someone is always going to be up against the limit at some point.
tough problem

That way, you are very honest and most gents who hobby (at least  think) don't care too much about age. We all age!!
I know there are some gents that like younger providers, (hell I even turn my head to oogle the young girls) but I know that they are fine to stare at. The do have nice bodies, yes, but they are young, they should be in shape, but not all of them have the head that you have. AND Looks are everything.
Age is just a number.
On a side note..I love older than younger...the are much better lovers men AND woman.
I do change my website each year I get older. This is my final year in my 20's and so far as I think I will be 30, it really doesn't bother me. Its one year closer to retirement..lol
Whatever you decide will be your decision. I say tell the truth...

Shaye

because I'm in my 50's and I like experienced women!

Reilemma--do I state my real age on TER?

A provider I know is 46 years old.  She is somewhat of a body builder and she looks more like 35 (face) and 25 (body).  A couple of years back she actually had her profile at 40-45 (she was 44 at the time) and her phone, according to her, just gathered dust.  She had the profile changed to 36-40 and all of a sudden business was booming.  She lives in an area that relies on visitors and tourists for business.

If she lived in an area like NYC, it would probably have made less of a difference because of the higher volume and diversity of the potential client base.

And if she did look more like a 46 year old, she would have opened a can of worms that could have potential negative consequences.  But it didn't. And of  course her many reviews are riddled with 8s, 9s, and even a couple of 10s.  Reputation as a high quality provider can transcend such a "fib".

The choice is yours, of course, and I understand your diemma.  As a mature hobbyist I prefer a diversity of providers in age, ethnicity, etc.  But in the end I look for that "mature" provider. I believe that maturity in age actually makes for a better experience.  For me.  Everybody's different. And in a subjective business where looks and age do count for something, you have a tough decision to  make.  But in my book, honesty counts for something.

Just my .02


F.

... i have to look at my driver's license for the truth

saying you are 26 when you are really 36 is lying about your age - and clients would have a right to be annoyed. saying you weigh 120 when you really weigh 220... same thing. but worrying about a single year on your profile (which is nothing more than an arbitrarily assigned range anyway) is pushing 'honesty' to the limit. i think.

i do believe that honesty is the best policy in most situations. but as some of the guys above have posted, if they cut off their searches at age 35, and if you are a youthful looking, attractive 36 year old, then you lose business and they lose the opportunity to meet you.... who wins?

As long as you are legal, that's all that counts.  I look at the ladies and if I like what I see, I give them a call.

I Just thought it may not be your responsibility to change your profile.  For example if you dyed your hair or shaved your pubic region, would you change that?  If you went to the gym and worked out would you change your built to athletic?  So why are you the one responsible to change your age

Reilemma--do I state my real age on TER?

You know, sometimes I am in the mood for a young thing, and sometimes a woman of some maturity....  So, the answer is, go honest.  Ya never know...EOM
BOB

fit into a younger age group, chances are reviewers would probably list your age in that group too.  It is hard to tell 2 to 3 years of difference in age anyway.  If it is a 5 to 8 years age difference, most likely others would notice.  That's when a proper age disclosure is relevant.

Just my 2 cents.

Reilemma--do I state my real age on TER?

Age relates to experience.
Honesty relates to character
Take the "high road" and reap the benifits of both.

No need to draw the line any finer than that.  Or, just count by fives.  You aren't 30, neither are you 40, you are 35.  This is not lying.  I mean, how many people count pennies in change anymore??

If somebody asks you specifically how old you are, tell them. NO BIG DEAL..

Send me a link to your site, I'd like to take a peek if you don't mind, that is....    

-- Modified on 7/22/2003 8:57:47 AM

1) TER profiles are posted by reviewers, not providers.  So you're not really responsible for anything there.  What you say in your own ads and website (if any) are your concern.

2) From my reading of these boards, there are just as many potential clients who prefer mature providers as there are clients who prefer "young stuff".  So you'd probably gain one for every one you lost.  Well, at least nearly so.

So I'd say be completely honest in your own advertisisng (hey, by the time they read your age they've already seen your picture) and forget about the TER profile.

I believe you should stick with what's been working for you up until now.

If you really ARE working your way through law school.

If you really DO have 5 houses in Las Vegas.

If you really DO love me and want me to take you away from all this.    Then by all means tell me the truth about your age!

...... LOL .....

Seriously ... I don't see the big deal, Xara.   Keep this in mind:   If the real, unvarnished truth was what we were seeking, the providers would post pics taken when they first wake up on a Monday morning.  Page two of the gallery would be "this is me washing my car in grubby clothes that look like I just painted a barn"

Part of what we pay you for is to be the girl of our fantasy dreams, so if you're 36 and we want a girl that's 32 .. I don't see why you'd feel the need to intrude on our fantasy that way.

22?  yeah, that's different - because you perhaps can't live up to that expectation, but going from to the 36-40 box ?  WHO CARES????

In the words of Oscare Wilde "I became permanently 35 the day I turned 40"

Regards,
Pig

I like the older more mature ladies. Others like the young chicks.  That's why this works.  That's how this works.

If you are happy with what you are attracting in the guys that hook up with you then stay with what you've got. I seriously doubt that anyone will notice one year.  Now in 4 or 5 more years you may want to reconsider this.

I also don't think that we older guys would rule out the 35 to 40 group too often so you are probably not missing many of us as it is.

Most improtantly,  have fun and play safe.

Reilemma--do I state my real age on TER?

Your in a gray area and it's does not matter. 34 or 37, can anyone tell the deference? I can't!

It's your pic's and review's that is what importent. That's what it take for us want to see you.

So, good reviews and sexy pics....yes I would want to see you.

Reilemma--do I state my real age on TER?

The age profile of a number of the top providers on TER is not consistent with their true chronological age.  You should make sure that your website is accurate and up to date and let the reviewers worry about the TER profile.

Lie About Age, Most Others Do

one year off is no big deal. Its the ladies that are a good ten years off that piss us men off.


Most hobbyists know to add a couple years, a few pounds, etc.. to any stats given so one year isn't a big deal at all.

I did a search on Xara. Here's the only link that shows up:

http://www.eros-la.com/files/la-xara1.htm