Is it wrong to be only dating for sex? I'm a typical geeky guy almost 50. I'm  into lots of male-dominated hobbies ( sports, music, tech, history, politics etc ).. Only had two girlfriends my whole life. Second one became my wife and we had a kid. Now we've been separated for five years.

Your post seems more suitable for someone who wants relationship and can only get sex from providers.  

If you're really not interested in finding some woman that might have shared interests, which ovbiously would include no strings attached sex, then why bother seeing if any bite? If you are interested in that possibility then why worry about some that are looking for somethig different, just be clear about what you want and expect.

For a decision you've already made.

It is a simple question and the answer is equally simple.  Based on your implied dread with regards to actually having to engage a person you match with on Tindr, you have already answered your own question.  You are not looking for a date or a relationship, by the hour that is.  Stick to satisfying your needs here or in other similar ways.  You do not even have to leave your house for the or even spend money given the plethora of online porn.

It depends on your sex drive and wallet size, and to an extent if you are okay with a sexual relationship with one person. If you have a high sex drive and want sex often, the hobby will cost you a lot. If you have the funds, than it will not matter. If you do not have the funds, you may be left disappointed.

Its best to rent your boats, planes, and women imho. You don't have to worry about maintenance costs.

Do you want one woman to have sex with over and over who is monogamous to you?  Or do you want variety and under you are not he ronly partner and probably not the only one that day?

maintenance that goes with real-life dating.  I see a lot of providers, but there are also civvie women I have sex with.  If a woman wants a relationship, and you accede to that just to get sex, you will probably be miserable after a short time.  I have found that professional woman (business professionals, not sex professionals) who are extremely busy make the best FWB's.  They don't have time for movies, cuddly stuff, and constant texting, they just want good sex.  Best place for meeting them . . . . your local gym.  They will always have time for a workout, and afterward, with all of the endorphins coursing through both of you, a little flirting can go a long way.  Of course, you must be her equal.  If you drive a beer truck for a living, you probably won't have any luck.   Otherwise, stick with NSA sex with providers, you can say as little as you want and just let "Big Ed" do the talking for you.  Lol

My marriage wasn't particularly rewarding. She wanted me to want to spend time with her. But I wasn't into that. I saw it as boring as I would rather be doing my own hobbies. Another problem was she was a little overweight. I am very fit and healthy. So the physical attraction was not there.  

EOM

Seeking and The Erotic Highway are perfect for you. Dates for sex with no serious connection.

You are probably right. Guess I have some wishful thinking that sex in the real world can be cheaper and better than seeing providers . Keep hearing stories about hookup culture. But I don't think that's for ordinary/boring folks like me

Yeah, I don't have much interest in women as "friends". I like the sex, but don't care for the friendship. Some folks online call me misogynist or incel. But I just think men and women don't mix when sex is removed from the equation. Their brains are wired differently and I don't get much enjoyment talking to them. I'd rather be doing my own thing.. But maybe I just haven't met the right woman . Which is why I don't want to burn my bridges. I'll keep trying tinder and see if anything comes of it..

Yeah, I don't have much interest in women as "friends". I like the sex, but don't care for the friendship. Some folks online call me misogynist or incel. But I just think men and women don't mix when sex is removed from the equation. Their brains are wired differently and I don't get much enjoyment talking to them. I'd rather be doing my own thing.. But maybe I just haven't met the right woman . Which is why I don't want to burn my bridges. I'll keep trying tinder and see if anything comes of it..

Yeah, I don't have much interest in women as "friends". I like the sex, but don't care for the friendship. I also don't have a huge sex appetite. Hobbying once or twice a month is more than enough for me. Sometimes I go many months without hobbying.  

Thanks! Do you think FWB can be cheaper than p4p? I only do p4p once a month  at most. Generally $300/hr girls.

A lot of the anxiety comes from not knowing what the woman expects. I am not the wine and dine kind of person. But I feel most women expect that if you want them to get naked , no?

Is seeking arrangement cheaper than p4p for someone who only hobbies once a month or so?

He doesn't have the patience for a sugar baby.

I found it so much more expensive have a sugar babe and lots of drama.  Decided to part ways. Hobby is so much better.

Yeah, if it's "I just want to fuck you and not even talk to you" providers is about your only option. Given your not looking high volume that;s doable.

Gotcha . I am ok with talking if there are some common values and interests. For example, I am into the environment and animal rights which lots of women are into as well.  

I think you have some hobgoblins in your head about how wormen think.  I also think you're selling yourself a bit short too.

He'd have to pretend to be interested in whatever she wants to talk about.  

Then there are options. If you’re fine with women your age, plenty are past the point of caring about relationships. Plenty don’t need you to pay for dates. If they find you attractive and share common interests, they may very well be happy having sex and spending time bonding over common interests.

Women come in all shapes and sizes both physically and mentally, and I believe there are thousands of matches out there for each of us! That includes you! You can find a woman who shares your interests with the same desire to mostly fuck without much social interaction!  In fact, I think these women are more prevalent in the age group you are targeting!  They are mostly done playing games and are more interested in getting their needs satisfied. You just have to look in the right places, like CDL points out., and you have to put some effort into it. Dating is testing the fit, and once you find a good fit it will probably be cheaper and more satisfying than seeing pros!

If you want to see someone in more relaxed setting, and yet have some semblance of P4P relationship, perhaps you can give SB/SD relationships a shot..  I have been with several SBs. I started in June 2015 and have ton of experience under my belt.  It might suit your lifestyle since you are single.  I have even had couple of SBs morph into real life Gfs.  Hey, I have even couple of girls on my Facebook and we chit- chat occasionally.  I have had girls do overnight for $500.  

a friend. Thus they shouldn’t charge for the benefits. They should provide the benefits because they enjoy being with you. But as with any friendship, you may decide to treat your friend to a meal or gift or something else occasionally. That shouldn’t cost more than $300 a month unless you want to be very generous with this friend.

If they are charging, but there is no clock and scheduling is more informal than with a provider, then it is an SB arrangement.  FWB is a situation of mutual convenience, so there is no exchange of funds, and either party will pay nominal expenses of meeting as needed to make it work.  In my case, two busy professionals getting together to take care of their sexual needs at a mutually agreement time and date.  There may be a glass of wine before, or a cup of coffee after, but it rarely takes more time than a two-hour session unless you have more time through whatever you're doing and where you happen to be.  Since there is no direct compensation to the woman, I have always found FWB to be overall cheaper, even though there can be some expenses involved in meeting.  

Keep seeing a Provider & Seeing if a female approaches you for a non-providers date.