I need advice on an issue I've been having more often lately. The issue is clients who know they are overstaying the time they booked and the time they are paying for. 5 minutes isn't a big deal but I think when it's 15 mins + and it's happening every time you see that person then it is a real issue. I have other things planned for my day and I like to keep a strict schedule. Now there are times when I don't have anything specific planned for afterwards and if we are both enjoying each others company and having nice conversation, then I don't have a problem cuddling and talking 30 minutes or more after the end of the appointment. But most of the time my schedule will not allow this.
 There are a few clients this has happened with. After the first session when the client overstayed, I make a note of it to remember when they book their next appointment. I have even offered a discount on a 90 minute appt rather than an hour. My offer is declined and they still book an hour. Then when it comes down to the appt, they again over stay. Am I wrong to think these clients have no respect for my time? They are all polite and nice other wise and we seem to have great chemistry. But when I feel like I'm being taken advantage of its a real mood killer. Should I refuse to see them again if they can't be more respectful of my time?  Any input is appreciated.  
XoXo  
Brooke

1) Book him again but respectfully require they book 90 minutes this time.
2) Don't respond to his next request.
3) Book his 1-hour request but when the hour is up, sweetly say, "Honey it's been a lot of fun and I hope we can do it again but I have plans and really need to get ready to go out."  If he doesn't start getting ready to go, begin to clean up to leave, then offer to walk him out with you.
Pick one!  Not so hard, huh?

Ask him if he wants to hang around while you get ready for your next appointment.. That's a pretty good hint..  
Or.. reference the time...casually.. as in,, Ohh.. it's already 1:15.. I can't believe it..  obvious but also a good hint..

almost up. Time for you to get out of bed, put on a robe and say something like, "Can I prepare a warm shower for you?". If he doesn't get the hint, then he isn't real bright.

Just say you are going to get dressed because you have to run soon, but it was a real pleasure, let's do this again real soon.

I kind of rely on the gal to watch the clock.

When you do not have anything else on your agenda and you allow this to happen, you have no one else to blame but yourself when this continue to happen. I know you're probably being a good host and working on keeping Them as regulars but your playing with a double edged sword here. It has happened to me and I; much like you, keep notes when people do this to me. One person even asked me if I was lying about having to study when j told him he needed to go after almost 20 minutes of overstaying past the time he booked. He obviously didn't pay me for it but I sure made a note to keep a stricter schedule with people like him.  

if i were a hot chick doing this, i would handle it this way.

and open their schedule book for your next meeting. The meeting is over.

I thought therapists weren't supposed to get personally involved with their clients.  You know, professional code of ethics and conflict of interest and all that.

You just really have to speak up your just to nice or.
Just get some Liquid Ass spray and a good squirt in the bathroom and poof he's as good as gone.

No but I have wanted to. They are very good at letting you know to keep on your side of the fence. Professional sports massage therapists are also the same. They throw the blanket back on you and say time's up. Come out when you're ready. And they just walk out. Therapists seem to have a more personable I'm still sort of your friend approach to it.

but then she'd really let me know when the date was over

Some good, most bad advice here sweetie. And everyone want to be a comedian. And then throw out a passive aggressive LOL.(still not sure why anyone over 50 yrs old uses LOL We're adult people, we get their stupid jokes)

If so, just know that if he enjoyed the session, he'll be back even if you make it very clear that he has to be out by whatever time he paid for.

Start with #3 next time he's there, then if he doesn't get the picture gradually escalate to #1 and then #2. Try to keep/save the regular, but take back control.

...this will cause way more one-time visits than need be.   I would guess that most provider business models are built on repeat business, and this will send the wrong message about repeat business.

As for getting slow moving clients to "get moving" I would have to go with "polite, but firm"

It works really well since

Oh good lord!  Look at the time!  My pimp will be here any minute!

I put a question mark since it's a little vague. She is at 500 an hour or 750 for 90 minutes. Does shower time (within reason ) count towards the 60 minutes? Most in her price range don't count that. She says she does not mind an extra 5 minutes but is upset at 15 minutes. I don't think 5- 10 minutes is a big deal with a 500 an hour session.  

Change your hourly rate to your ninety minute rate. That way rhey can stay an extra fifteen, and they can feel like they got some extra time for free.

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Any guy who wants to overstay his welcome will almost certainly respond with "OK great, how about if I join you?"

Every time I see your name I think of "IInventedPost-itNotes"

oh, my bad, you said polite

Not stay over another hour.

You can: 1) See them again, and deal with it, 2) Relegate them to 'Only See When Broke' status, or 3) Cut them loose.  

Some of the replies you are getting have been purely for entertainment purposes.  Let's get serious and apply a constructive suggestion to a very common issue.

My new thing  is a lil  smooch  and a pat on the ass   it is baseball season afterall  lol  you paid for an hour  it's now 70  minutes into it   I figure another 15 for you to gussy up so your wife can't smell me  so why in God's name should I in any way feel obliged to drum up a story? This isn't the dating game. I have friends of over a decade who don't pull this shit.  Love them dearly and I mean that. But,  we have an understanding. This understanding never fails. Because it never fails,  we don't fuck with it.  It is tried and true.  Like Dallas said we are adults.  Just tell him like it is.  It's not personal. The intimacy was personal.  Him leaving is just simple life skills and boundaries. Ew who wants to be known as the boundary crosser.

Just kidding! I'd never use that excuse, for that very reason.  

Of something another provider told me once. 'Fart, and he will leave.'  

I was just getting warmed up for Google with Post-it Notes. Wait till you see what's next!

something like, "i've had fun but i have to get ready to go meet my friends for dinner/drinks/something"

but i will admit i wasn't 100% clear in my post.

try to keep up

Or was he?  

An OG provider gave me this tip once upon a time: having a rules of engagement/etiquette to send (or say, if you're doing this over the phone) to new clients upon booking a session. You can have something in there about ending sessions on time, so that you won't be perceived as a clock-watcher. That way, you're putting your boundaries in place, and the person knows that if he goes over time, he'll have to pay.  

shut the music off, put a robe on or get dressed.  Assist him getting dressed.  Ladies must be excellant time managers & great actresses...  but not let him see you doing so.  Do NOT say you have another appointment with a client.  TACKY!  But you can have any other place to go...  The bank.  Meeting your sister.  Any excuse.