When someone (in this case a customer) stands you up with no call, why would they call at a later date and ask to see you? Wouldn't they know that they would get a lousy reception? Why wouldn't they call some new provider? Just curious.

Why do guys try to schedule dates with providers that have stood them up 2 or 3 times???

That's happened to me a few times and I always tell them that they stood me up before and if they do it again, they'll have to pay a $100 deposit/cancellation fee with a credit card when they schedule and then have the session fee in cash when they walk in the door.  I don't tolerate no call, no shows unless there's a viable excuse as to why they wouldn't have been there.  I am a professional, just like any other and I deserve to be treated as such.  A doctor, therapist, or lawyer will often charge a cancellation fee for a no show.  It's common practice.  I feel for hobbyists that have gotten stood up with Providers, however if that happens, I urge them to post the names... Perhaps it will promote more professionalism in the industry.

Jaclyn

That's nothing!  I had a real charmer who DID show up, treated both me and my place like the ultimate unclean (cringed when I touched him anywhere but down there, cringed when I offered him a towel afterwards, clean and directly from my linen closet, made lovely comments like "I guess you see a lot of clients in a day, huh? How many before me?")  Fortunately he was done and eager to leave within about 20 minutes, then looked in his wallet and said "oh no, I forgot to go to the bank machine!" handed me the $45 dollars he did have, swearing up and down "Trust me, I'll go to a bank machine and be right back!"  Needless to say he fled without returning.  The next morning I've got an e-mail in my inbox from him, which I delete.  Then he sends me two more, and then when I don't reply actually calls me to say he wants to come back because "you're so hot and sexy!"

(Sorry, I know it's not a no-show, but you hit a nerve!)

-Anya

Jeeze did he not have any clue about his behavior?? How rude can a person be?

i never had to stand up a gal, but suppose i give 24 hr notice of  cancellation. is that satisfactory?

I recently had a situation with a provider on a business trip. I was meeting her at 10pm that night for a 2hr./$800 session. At 9;30 AM I tried to cancell but was unable to get her on the phone. (Mailbox was full) I then sent her an urgent email cancelling...got on a plane & left town.(Called back to the office.) The next day she sends me an email...didn't get my message (her computer was broken) and wants a 'cancellation fee". I sent her $200 to be nice...but she's still feeling a little gyped. I thought given that I'd tried to reach her... Isn't part of this is on her shoulders too? (Full voicemail & no computer.)

24 hour notice is very considerate and I don't hold it against my clients, especially regulars, as things happen sometimes in life, even to the best of us.
If it's less than 2 hours, I have a fee that will apply to the next appointment, and more times than not, I don't even have to say anything to my regulars, just as when I have to cancel for some reason less than two hours before the appointment, I will try to find replacements that they can get into contact with and give them a discount the next time they set up an appointment with me.  I feel that is a fair call.
I have had one gentleman in particular who I met for an appointment, went fine, paid the amount due, no tip.  Made a second appointment, left me stuck with a room and didn't call or apologize.  6 weeks later, he shoots and email, wanting to set up an appointment and I remind him of the last time.  He then says that he's willing to compensate me for that and we set up another appointment, and guess what?  He calls me 5 minutes before the appointment to cancel saying something about a friend of his just died.  Very well could have been.  But I didn't go out of my way to reschedule an appointment after that.  A few months goes by and he contacts me saying that he just has to see me and feels so bad for the timing being off...so I gave him the benefit of the doubt, but this time insisted that he had to get the room, told him his past dues and current fee and we agreed to meet.  This appointment did go through, but after he had his first cup of coffee (within 10 minutes of meeting)he said he couldn't stay for the agreed tim and felt that since he had to leave early, he prorated our session and split.
That was over a year ago and the guy keeps trying to set up another appointment with me and doesn't understand why I won't respond to him.  Can someone really be that clueless?

I know, I didn't even know what to say at first - I ended up saying "Do you remember what happened when you were here yesterday?" and he said "Yes," in a voice that told me he actually did, so I went with "Then perhaps you'll understand why I don't want to see you again."  He hung up.  I suspect he actually thought I either wouldn't mind, or was used to that kind of thing!

-Anya