If your five favorite clients/providers and four of your same-sex fellow hobbyists/colleagues all agreed to join you in a closed, polyamorous tribe, assuming polyfidelity, would you give up the P4P life?

and what will it be called?

I have found that it is not something a lot of folks adapt to easily - so based on that experience -
I would prefer such a "tribe" only if everyone involved had previous experience and had handled it well -  

If one walks in, I'm gone!

Unless we could have another tribe or two over for a party now and then. Then yes.

Heinlein (the SF author) wrote a lot about polyamory and more specifically, line marriages (look it up on wikipedia...).  What you are proposing is similar but NOT the same in a very important way.

Also, polyamory that grows organically out of who you meet in life would certainly be preferred to trying to fit something together like out of Legos.

At some point I would get tired of fucking them, the same way that you married guys get tired of fucking only your wife. I guess it might take five times as long, but I'd still get tired of it.

Oh, I and I would have ZERO interest in sharing these five hypothetical women with even one guy, much less four other guys in this proposed little tribe of the OP.

But I would give up p4p for a single SO. I'm not here for variety or polyamory.

We all have carte blanc, no questions asked, inside the group. So far no guy guy yet . All met at Desire in Mexico and became lifestyle partners. We all still look for new friends as none of us live in the same city. We are going to a 'lifestyle" party tonight, in the Chicago area. Hope to make some new friends.

I think I had that same question on a college math exam.  The answer had something to with cosines or exponents or integrals or something like that.  I didn't get it right.  I was too distracted fantasizing about the hot girl who sat in front of me in lecture and the test.  ... Where is she now?  I wonder if she has a grown up daughter

I'm familiar with Heinlein's story, though it's been decades since reading Dune. 2 things-- today, the tribe would be as much of an alternative approach as it really wouldn't fit with the over-culture norms. That leaves it underground to an extent, at least for some of the participants. I think that without the family aspect, and approaching it as a sexual arrangement could be very emotionally fulfilling.

You would get bored after some time.  Even with a line up of regular providers you need a new one once in a while.

To tell you the truth, it sounds like a hell of a way to live.

One day Bev and I ran into a few folks who lived in a commune and were even raising all their kids together being parents to all of them.

The gal had a funny story about going to parents night at their kids' school and getting the oddest looks from the teachers when a whole bunch of the kids' parents showed up.

She seemed to really have her shit together and Bev and I were wishing we were 30 years younger and able to go that route from the get-go.

I'd like to live in a society where all had the right to freely associate as they please so long as it's all safe, sane, and consensual.  (or maybe two out of three 8o)

I found this neat old home movie footage too.

I'm the guy having the bum trip.

exactly  ---  I had never planned in advance to be a part of such a relationship in the past - it just happened that way....   and it was the result of a number of individual choice -

Try being Dom Deluise for awhile. People will find you more interesting.

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