1. I'm asking for comments and am prepared to be fairly thick-skinned.  Flame if you like.  Here goes:

2. THE SEARCH:  Diligent searching on TER produced a dozen or so Favorites to start with.  My criteria are: area code; performance 7+; appearance 6+; fair pics; & services as promised.  In other words, no rip-offs and no LE.  I e-mailed these ladies with a brief “Hello” and a few words of introduction.

3. THE WINNOWING:  Several responded favorably but, to me, one stood out.  I liked her vigorous screening.  I understand why she won’t do BBBJ.  (I’m not ecstatic, but I can relate).  Her attitude is perfect - what I would hope mine would be on my best day if our circumstances were reversed - Even better, she was affordable and immediately available.

4. I JUMP:  We have a great time.  In fact, we go WAY past time (OK, it’s been a while for me.  I’ve been busy.  She’s enchanting.  Whatever).  I offer her more $.  She declines.  I insist.  We split it.  I kid you not.  She's a dream.

5. ATF:  I politely declined to the other providers.  I’ve found my ATF.  I’m a single parent of small kids.  No time for dating.  Life is now good.  She even offers to bring a friend next time.  Mmmmmm....

6. WOOPS:  In reading threads on TER, boning up on the hobby as it were, I noticed my city was mentioned.  'Hobbyists should beware of LE' (duh, like that’s why I’m wearing my blue sorting hat and reading reviews as mentioned above.)  

7. AGAIN:  We dated again.  We talked a bit, GFE-like.  I saw inside a little; there is pain but there is strength.  I like her and see her as a friend.  A keeper.

8. EVIL EMPIRE:  In reading many more discussion boards, national and local, buried and quite off-topic, I think perhaps I see her mentioned, ever so circuitously, as being a genuine provider who has been turned to the dark side.  The poster says, about whomever they’re referring to, that when the lady brings a friend, it will be a vice cop.  Bad day, bad day....

9. STUMPTIFIED:  My calls and e-mails, reasonable in quantity, are no longer returned.  Me-thinks there are a few plausible explanations: (a) I failed to use Listerine before our last date.  She’s opted out for that reason (based on what I know of her, which is that she's a smart and classey person, I think she'd just tell me);  (b) She has indeed been co-opted by the dark side and this is as much fair warning as I’m going to get (based on what I know of her, that she's smart & classey, I'm afraid this is WTF); or (c) ?

At least one person on TER knows my name.  Ditto for her name.  PLEASE don’t mention either on the board.  This is all just hypothetical.  If I knew what to make of this hypo, I wouldn’t be asking.  Thanks in advance for any help.  Sorry to be so clueless.  “Flame on, Johnny.”

I would say time to move on for several reasons

First, who is going to take care of your kids if you have a legal problem and don't return home one night?

Second, sounds like for whatever reason she is ducking you and doesn't want to see you or talk to you

Third, it is hard to believe that LE in your town has nothing better to do than turn escorts and go after "johns" one at a time.  There have to be issues with entrapment on this plus there is little deterrent factor if no one knows about it.  But still, you might consider whether you owe anything to the clients in your area to let them know you think this is going on.

Hopefully she just doesn't want to see you but again for the sake of your relationship with your kids, time to move on to someone you are 100% sure about.

My .02

My bet (see my post Beyond Romance below):  You're being paranoid about the LE side of it, tho given your single parent situation, you should be careful.  What's happening is that she probably really liked you and you got a bit too close -- she needs some distance.  Give her a chance to cool off and readjust.  

As someone else said or suggested, the place people go wrong in this or even civilian relationships is in not managing their feelings.  Don't go off the deep end thinking LE or Listerine.  Give it time.  If there's something "real" there, it will last and reappear.  Treat her with respect and treat yourself with respect.

Turk

Step away from it.  You can't make anybody love you or meet with you or communicate with you.  

If you think she was co-opted by LE, check the newspaper of record for arrests (will be easier if you know her real name).  If the paper is good, you will be able to do a keyword search.

Offer her a non-sex meeting (a date).  You cannot be arrested unless you do something illegal.  

Good Luck...Harry

A lot of possibilities.

First, and this is something to keep in mind even though it's not by any means Universal:   Not all providers lead the most stable of lives.   She may not be taking ANY appointments, or very few - for any number of reasons that have nothing to do with you.

Second, some providers tend to look for regulars that fit a certain spending/ frequency profile and perhaps you don't.

Third, perhaps it's all the talk of Isoceles Triangles and other weird stuff? Maybe she thinks of you as merely a sexually active Trekkie?  [THIS ONE IS A JOKE, OK!]

Fourth ... and this one is VERY common .. yet amazingly, people almost always tend to overlook it.   It may be because it's so simple ..... but .... MAYBE SHE'S JUST STUPID!

wrong i tells ya!  ... there IS no such a thing as a "sexually active Trekkie"

one has to take a vow of celibacy just to join the club ... after a while, IF you've earned your wings (yes pigs too can fly), then you MAY be allowed to copulate, but then only once every 7 years!

Perhaps "you got a bit too close..."

You exhibit the signs of enfatuation:
1.  not seeing other providers
2.  WAY overanalyzing your "relationship" with her
3.  you cannot accept her lack of response

Go see someone else, don't expect perfection, just a good time.  Write a review, see a few more, maybe once you prove to yourself and her that you enjoy getting off but realize it's a business, you'll get to see her again.

If enfatuation is indeed the problem, I would think she would re-evaluate once she sees several reviews of other providers written by you.

Take a step back (out of your feelings), and assess the landscape.  Good luck.

There ARE sexually active Trekkies!

They gravitate to BDSM under the heading of 'Gor'

Read up on it!


LOL

Well said! In this business, emotional closeness seems to be the biggest threat!(LE included).
444

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names as in "hustler" and "[not] classy" and all of it over a $100 which is her rightful cancelation policy? ... did it ever occur to you to sit out other people's feuds and keep your assinine comments to yourself?  especially when the matter has already been resolved by both parties whom it concerns?  or are you just another bitter cowardly jerk who likes to attack providers for no good reason?


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please let us all know, cuz if that alias is not you, then i'd hate to cast wrongful aspersions

Ortho, Turk, 444, Tyler, Harry, Pig: With a tear in my eye, I raise a glass to each of you in turn.  All 100% right except Pig, she's nothing like stupid (that's my other alias).  Decent of ya' to leave me an out though....

"Without friends no one would choose to live, though he had all other goods."

Aristotle (384 BC - 322 BC), Nichomachean Ethics